im 17 years old and i have gained the interest of one of my closest friends older brothers, he is 21. we have been seeying eachother for about 2 months now but i have only just recently told my parents. HOWEVER i manipulated one detail and said he was 20 to help make my argument stronger. i don't claim to be in love with him i just want the right to make my own decisions and see him if i want. how can i help my parents realise that im old enough to make my own decisions, that not everything to do with boys revolves around sex. i am sick of being treated like i dont understand anything! considering most of my friends range from ages 17 - 19 is 5 years that bad?
Thats not so bad... I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 17. Its more of a maturity thing than anything else at that particular age. It also depends a lot on the guy too...
That's not bad at all. When I was 19 my girlfriend was 28. I was lucky, I had the opportunity to work close with her at the office and she always commented on my maturity. Where am I going with this? It's how mature you are, anything after 16 is fair game. If you are mature enough to step up to the older partners level then it's totally fine, don't make them step down for you. A common problem with age gap relationships is that both partners live significantly different lives, and stability more than anything might get in the way.
Age doesn't matter, so long as it's legal.
Age doesn't matter, so long as it's legal.
No it not that bad but....what makes it bad is that you lied to your parents.
Unfortunatly, you are still living under your parents roof. There home, their rules. Thats the law of the land. You are 17, that makes you a minor. I know you probably hate hearing that, but that's what it is. Mom and Dad are responsible for you until you are 18, then the law will consider you an adult. You may think that you are old enough to decide what it is best for you, and you very well may be, but until you reach the age of maturity, you have to abide by house rules.
If they find out that you lied to them, it will become a trust issue, then mom and dad can forbid you to see him. In turn, you start to sneak around to be with him damaging the already broken trust issue even more.
Unfortunatly, you are still living under your parents roof. There home, their rules. Thats the law of the land. You are 17, that makes you a minor. I know you probably hate hearing that, but that's what it is. Mom and Dad are responsible for you until you are 18, then the law will consider you an adult. You may think that you are old enough to decide what it is best for you, and you very well may be, but until you reach the age of maturity, you have to abide by house rules.
If they find out that you lied to them, it will become a trust issue, then mom and dad can forbid you to see him. In turn, you start to sneak around to be with him damaging the already broken trust issue even more.