I'm 25 and my boyfriend and I love each other very much, we've been together for a bit more than a year, but then I got pregnant. We both have issues to deal with in our own minds, and as much as a part of me would want a baby, I know that we are not ready... The abortion is scheduled soon, but I am frightened... What scares me the most is that even though it's not the right time for us, having to do that makes me hate myself. I know that I'm still young, but if I were to give birth to the baby i couldn't bear to give it in adoption to try a few years later to have one when I'd feel better. Having discussed it with my boyfriend, we thought that abortion is the best answer...but I feel so wrong doing it that I'm scared i could never want children anymore...I know kids are a wonderful beautiful thing, and i've always wanted to be a mother...this is why it's so hard. In a way I know i'm always going to wonder what he'd look like, and the chance i've missed... I can't look at babies in public without feeling shame and guilt for what i'm going to do... I have someone inside of me, but i've never felt so alone.
Do you guys think it will ever stop? Will I hate myself forever?
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Hi Guest,
Under a doctor's care abortion is very safe. Yes, there are always risks, such as infection, but these are rare.
As to hating yourself, none of us can answer that. From my experience on this forum, many women and some men do have regrets about abortion at some point in their lives. It may be near the expected birthday or something else. Not all have these regrets mind you.
Adoption IS an option. You could make some infertile couple very happy.
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