Hi, i am a 20yo guy, i have a healthy releationship with a woman, her age 18. Today, she told me she wanted to loose her virginity with me.
To start, i bought some lube, condoms etc. Forplay lasted really long, i gave her maybe 2 clitorical orgasms so she can be errected.
But when i went in, she was really scared, i asked her to relax and that if she is not ready its ok for me to wait and that i dont want her to haste it up if she is not ready. But she said tha she was ready.
During the stimulation, she was in pain, i was about to reach the hymen but she couldn't handle it and she told me to stop for a minute, but i lost my erection cuz sadly/happilly i am very emotional and I couldn't bare the thought of me hurting her. After a few tries, i stimulated her with my finger and then i used my index finger and my middle finger hopefully it would be easier for her.
But she also had really bad pain. I kept moving my fingers a bit but really gentle. But till the very last moment i kept feeling the tight ring (from what i realised it's hymen). She did not bleed but she had reeeaaaly bad pain.
Help me please.
To start, i bought some lube, condoms etc. Forplay lasted really long, i gave her maybe 2 clitorical orgasms so she can be errected.
But when i went in, she was really scared, i asked her to relax and that if she is not ready its ok for me to wait and that i dont want her to haste it up if she is not ready. But she said tha she was ready.
During the stimulation, she was in pain, i was about to reach the hymen but she couldn't handle it and she told me to stop for a minute, but i lost my erection cuz sadly/happilly i am very emotional and I couldn't bare the thought of me hurting her. After a few tries, i stimulated her with my finger and then i used my index finger and my middle finger hopefully it would be easier for her.
But she also had really bad pain. I kept moving my fingers a bit but really gentle. But till the very last moment i kept feeling the tight ring (from what i realised it's hymen). She did not bleed but she had reeeaaaly bad pain.
Help me please.
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Hey Lazanoz,
I'd like to help you if possible but I need to know what question you are wanting me to help you with.
What is your question?
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Too many actually
1) What exactly happened?
2) What we should do?
3) Is it normal to be in such a pain even when i used lube and was really gentle?
4) Is there any chance her hymen broke and next time she wont be in that much pain?
5) If not what can I do to minimize the pain.
6) Is there any other option?
7) Is it better if we attempt a few times with two fingers instead of my penis?
8) Is there any chance it will be "Vaginismus" cuz i couln't manage to get in?
These are the most importaint!
Thanx for your time Kostas.
1) What exactly happened?
2) What we should do?
3) Is it normal to be in such a pain even when i used lube and was really gentle?
4) Is there any chance her hymen broke and next time she wont be in that much pain?
5) If not what can I do to minimize the pain.
6) Is there any other option?
7) Is it better if we attempt a few times with two fingers instead of my penis?
8) Is there any chance it will be "Vaginismus" cuz i couln't manage to get in?
These are the most importaint!
Thanx for your time Kostas.
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lazanoz wrote:
hey there kostas.
1.) its really hard to say exactly what happened because i have no way of seeing what your gf reproductive system is like, however based on speculation and the most comon answers to you questoins.
i would say that your gf vagina is tight and that her hymen probably wasnt broke yet. also i don't know how large your penis is but it probably added to her pain.
2.) i would try sex again but take it slow and she is going to have to go through a little pain but the BIGGEST thing she can do is relax and let her vagina streatch out, if she is tense at then it will be more painful,. you can always try giving her a full body massage with warm oil first to totally relax her
3.) pain is normla for someone who is loosing their virginity
4.)if her hymen broke then usually but not always you will notice some blood. and once her hymen breaks it should be a little less painful depending on your penis size and how aroused she is.
5.)just go slow and make shure she is as relaxed as possible use lots of lube and make sure she is highly aroused.
6.)what do you mean by any other option.
7.) it may be but that is something you will have to try and find out.
8.) it is possible but could you insert your finger into her vagina? can she use tampons and or anything to masturbate.
Biomajor'10 wrote:
Hey Lazanoz,
I'd like to help you if possible but I need to know what question you are wanting me to help you with.
What is your question?
Too many actually
1) What exactly happened?
2) What we should do?
3) Is it normal to be in such a pain even when i used lube and was really gentle?
4) Is there any chance her hymen broke and next time she wont be in that much pain?
5) If not what can I do to minimize the pain.
6) Is there any other option?
7) Is it better if we attempt a few times with two fingers instead of my penis?
8) Is there any chance it will be "Vaginismus" cuz i couln't manage to get in?
These are the most importaint!
Thanx for your time Kostas.
hey there kostas.
1.) its really hard to say exactly what happened because i have no way of seeing what your gf reproductive system is like, however based on speculation and the most comon answers to you questoins.
i would say that your gf vagina is tight and that her hymen probably wasnt broke yet. also i don't know how large your penis is but it probably added to her pain.
2.) i would try sex again but take it slow and she is going to have to go through a little pain but the BIGGEST thing she can do is relax and let her vagina streatch out, if she is tense at then it will be more painful,. you can always try giving her a full body massage with warm oil first to totally relax her
3.) pain is normla for someone who is loosing their virginity
4.)if her hymen broke then usually but not always you will notice some blood. and once her hymen breaks it should be a little less painful depending on your penis size and how aroused she is.
5.)just go slow and make shure she is as relaxed as possible use lots of lube and make sure she is highly aroused.
6.)what do you mean by any other option.
7.) it may be but that is something you will have to try and find out.
8.) it is possible but could you insert your finger into her vagina? can she use tampons and or anything to masturbate.
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I was in alot of pain when i lost my virginity and never bled afterwards but after my boyfriend and i did it a few times the pain started to recede and i no longer have any pain
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