it blows my mind how people especially women can jude one another like this. i had an abortion 2 years ago and the only feeling of calm i had was the married mother of 3 sitting next to me who was doing what i was doing. this effects women off all types, social status, and religions. i believe it was the right decision for me due to the fact i was in an abusive relationship that no child should be brought up in. and giving up the child for adoption isn't always the right answer either; what is to garentee that the child would have wound up in a good home? it all comes down to your belief system. but it still isn't right to judge one another. granted alot of people don't believe in the termination of pregnancy but put yourself in my shoes when i was only 19 and raped by a man i thought i loved me. imagine the emotional distress my child would have felt if it ever knew the story of its conception. as women we should be supporting one another instead of pointing blame. birth control is not always a garentee. i was on it and followed it to the specific insructions they tell you this when you are issued it and i still had to go through this. my family knew and my mom even was ther waiting for me through it all, not just because she was my mom but because she knew i need a shoulder to lean on. so please to all of you out there, just be supportive and if you can't be then please just do not post anything on here. these situations are tough enough without the judgement of others. treat these women and girls how you would want to be treated.
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that one **** needs to shut **** up cause she does not know what is going on in some peoples lives and why they have chosen to go that route but who is she to place judgement on anyone do what you need to do for you its your choice.
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please listen to me...there are alot of people in the world who are not as lucky as you to get pregnant..please don't abort it...if you don't want it, there are plenty of other people who do and who will give that child a wonderful life..abortion is a life changing event...you trade one problem for a much bigger one that you will deal with for the rest of your life...remember that is a HUMAN BEING growing inside of you!!...i have been where you are and yes, people will be upset with you at first but after a while they will see that child as the blessing that it truly is...trust me....
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I totally agree with Canadian girl! It is not our place as a human being to throw stones and criticise- mother of two! If you were so good you would have compassion of this poor woman in this terrible situation and in terrible grief and pain.
Dear pperez81, It is a very hard decision you're facing and I am sure that you are in great pain and I feel for you. However, it is not just a question of being right or wrong. Ask YOURSELF:is this safe? The answer is possibly NO! Dont put your life a risk because who will look after your little girl. Try to see if you can get professional help and please for your sake, God's sake and your little Girl's sake DONT DO THIS ON YOUR OWN as it could be very DANGEROUS!!!
God bless & help you. xx
Dear pperez81, It is a very hard decision you're facing and I am sure that you are in great pain and I feel for you. However, it is not just a question of being right or wrong. Ask YOURSELF:is this safe? The answer is possibly NO! Dont put your life a risk because who will look after your little girl. Try to see if you can get professional help and please for your sake, God's sake and your little Girl's sake DONT DO THIS ON YOUR OWN as it could be very DANGEROUS!!!
God bless & help you. xx
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Frankly..we practice safe sex, and we still might be preg. me and my boyfriend always use a condom and i am on the pill and still yet i might be pregnat. So don't start, we have never in the past 8 mo. that we have had sex have we ever not used a condom nor have i forgotten my pill...so explain to me..safe sex aint the problem..its sometimes the products that you use!
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I am only 20 my boyfriend and I are 15 weeks pregnant I am scared to death. I am left constantly thinking about my future wondering what the right thing to do is. I have had one abortion before 2 years ago it was a total nightmare. People glorify it as an easy way out, but the emotional turmoil it put me through was almost unbearable. Im not telling you what to do because of course it is up to you and you only I just wanted to share with you a small bit of my life from someone who understands and isn't going to judge.
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Get a soul yourself and most of all a brain! the question wasn't 'what is miss sewing circles beliefs on life and spirituality?'
You probably believe in Capital Punishment as well.
You personal and spiritual beliefs are not something you have the right to impose on others. Buddhists believe the soul doesn't enters the child until it takes its first breath. Shamans have been inducing herbal miscarriages since the dawn of man. Being more realistic, the earth is very over-populated and corrupt... and has become that way by the ignorant practices of people like yourself.
As far as safe sex goes, you can practice safe sex and mistakes still happen. No form of birth control is %100.
So before you get on your naive high-horse... open your eyes and take a good look at what's really going on, study the facts and stop being such a self-righteous b***h!
Its a god (no matter whatever higher power you want to believe in) given right to do with ones body whatever they please. And quite bluntly, none of your business!!! oh yeah, and learn how to spell!
You probably believe in Capital Punishment as well.
You personal and spiritual beliefs are not something you have the right to impose on others. Buddhists believe the soul doesn't enters the child until it takes its first breath. Shamans have been inducing herbal miscarriages since the dawn of man. Being more realistic, the earth is very over-populated and corrupt... and has become that way by the ignorant practices of people like yourself.
As far as safe sex goes, you can practice safe sex and mistakes still happen. No form of birth control is %100.
So before you get on your naive high-horse... open your eyes and take a good look at what's really going on, study the facts and stop being such a self-righteous b***h!
Its a god (no matter whatever higher power you want to believe in) given right to do with ones body whatever they please. And quite bluntly, none of your business!!! oh yeah, and learn how to spell!
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My whole idea on abortion, is debending on the situation. People using it as a way of brith control..i believe is wrong. But as for a rape victum, imagine how they feel to have a life inside them. That if giving born to, will forever remind them of that day. Or if a drug user gets pregnant, how do you think that child will comeout. Deformed? Addicted? or Handicapped? Definately, not right at all.. For those reasons, of rape, and drug users. I agree in abortion. To each their own opinion. Thats just mine.
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First off, I wanna say that I used to be staight prolife, but I've seen why termination is necessary. One is the problem I am hit with now.
My 14 year old niece *THINKS* she is pregnant. She's 2 weeks from her next period, and I get a call in the middle of the night, her bawlin her eyes out tellin me she doesn't know what to do. She can't go medical, as if my sister and brother-in-law find out, they will make her life more hell than it already is. She says she's showing some signs that she could be, and I got her a test, but she's too scared to take it.
Is there anything that she can do that is **COMPLETELY SAFE** for her that will make her unpreg if she is? I would take her to get checked, but in Texas, only the parents or legal guardian can take a minor for something like this.
And for anyone who wants to get on my case about letting her have sex.. I don't let her. But I am the only one in our family she can trust, as I'll help and not sit and preach. (which is also why I'm the black sheep)
Someone please tell me how to help her.
My 14 year old niece *THINKS* she is pregnant. She's 2 weeks from her next period, and I get a call in the middle of the night, her bawlin her eyes out tellin me she doesn't know what to do. She can't go medical, as if my sister and brother-in-law find out, they will make her life more hell than it already is. She says she's showing some signs that she could be, and I got her a test, but she's too scared to take it.
Is there anything that she can do that is **COMPLETELY SAFE** for her that will make her unpreg if she is? I would take her to get checked, but in Texas, only the parents or legal guardian can take a minor for something like this.
And for anyone who wants to get on my case about letting her have sex.. I don't let her. But I am the only one in our family she can trust, as I'll help and not sit and preach. (which is also why I'm the black sheep)
Someone please tell me how to help her.
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Im 18 and may be pregnant after using protection and cant stand it...i cant continue college if im pregnant and need to find a way if i am pregnant t have a miscarriage...please help me out....
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I’ve gone back and forth on this issue most of my life. I have an adopted sister who was born prior to the legalization of abortion. If her birth mother had terminated that pregnancy, she would not be in my life, which is something that is impossible for me to fathom. But I have also learned that one cannot truly understand what it is like to be such a situation until it actually happens. So what I find despicable about your comments here are how quickly you are to criticize someone else’s decisions. You cannot speak for anyone else, only for yourself. You are all certainly entitled to your opinions, but how dare you be so righteous as to admonish someone else’s choice. Some of you have even gone so far as to attack other’s weight or pregnancy before marriage. What are we really talking about here? Because it sounds like you are all are just trying to be hurtful.
I do not believe that abortion is ever an easy conclusion to come to, and the pain it causes those women must be heart breaking. I’m not saying they should be applauded, necessarily. However, it’s naïve of me to think that I can ever know what it is like to be in those individuals’ shoes. Frankly, knowing that you are talking to strangers and clearly have no idea what their life is like day-to-day, you all sound totally ignorant. 8-|
I do not believe that abortion is ever an easy conclusion to come to, and the pain it causes those women must be heart breaking. I’m not saying they should be applauded, necessarily. However, it’s naïve of me to think that I can ever know what it is like to be in those individuals’ shoes. Frankly, knowing that you are talking to strangers and clearly have no idea what their life is like day-to-day, you all sound totally ignorant. 8-|
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WANTED TO REPLY TO YOU. SOME PEOPLE ARE PRACTICING SAFE SEX AS WAS MYSELF ON THE DEPO FOR 8 YEARS AND CAME UP PREGNANT SO DONT DOWN PEOPLE WHEN YOU DONT KNOW THE SITUATION!!!!!!!!!
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I am a mother of 1, I have had 2 abortions, and I am pregnant as I type this. I used to be like some of you who flat out said that abortion was wrong. That all changed when I was 17 and was raped by a friend! I was blessed to be able to have another chance but unfortunately, I was only 18 right out of high school. My son is now 6 and I love him very much. I got pregnant shortly after I had him(abortion #2) and I knew that I could not afford another baby. I was 19 and not working, struggling to take care of my son with little help from the dad, who to this day does not do anything for my son. Thank God I have a supportive family,Many of these young women don't. I am pregnant now and let me tell you this is the hardest decision in my life right now. I can't deal with adoption, I am finally with someone who loves me and my son. He really wants kids, but am not emotionally ready right now....And I AM married! I want this baby soooo much but it would not be fair to my husband, son, and my unborn child to have an emotionally unstable mother.
I no longer say it is wrong because I don't know anyones situation. Until you are placed with that decision, you have no right to judge anyone.
I no longer say it is wrong because I don't know anyones situation. Until you are placed with that decision, you have no right to judge anyone.
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All of you seem to carry a vary valid point, however I believe that any person can make a decision for them self. I am not going to go on about right and wrong because it's already a dead horse however I think the slack should be cut a little bit and allow the people to make their own decisions. How "despicable" do you look yelling at someone to do whats right for them. I also have a son who me and my fiance had VERY young and put our dreams and hopes aside, however, i am not going to tell you the thought didnt cross my mind. With the help of family and friends we were able to make the decision right for us. I would have been more angry had I had someone telling me how ridiculous I was for doing what was right for me. You should all let them make the decision for themselves and stop trying to make their situation the best for you.
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i think it is highly unfair for anyone to come on this site and call these women despicable. go to your own anti abortion site and complain to someone who gives a hoot. if these women need help or find it fitting to get an abortion, so be it! its every womans choice. go harass someone else you big pricks. its a difficult choice as it is, and no one needs a jerk taunting them. i remember my first abortion was because i was raped when i was FIFTEEN. all you m****s that are anti were sitting outside the clinic with pickets. do you have any idea how insensitive and how completely stupid you look??? mind your business. if you dont support it, thats your deal, then dont get one. dont impose your beliefs on someone else who doesnt welcome it. and the whole adoption thing?? most women i think would agree that an abortion is better because how does it feel knowing one of your offspring is somewhere out there in this world and could be living an aweful life or maybe good one. its not worth putting a child in a position where you arent positive theyll be safe. do what you feel is right and thats that. you wanna have a kid, go for it. you dont, then dont. sheesh!!!!
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