Is There a Way to Cause a Miscarriage?

Ok, I am a college student about to graduate next fall. I am 21 so yes I had my son at 18, he was born soon after I graduated from high school. I have a three year old son but I found myself pregnant again. I took all the precautions to avoid getting pregnant other than just not having sex. I dont know what to do, I dont want a abortion and I dont want to adopt my baby off if I do decide to go through with it. I just missed my period two weeks ago and took a test and it was positive. If I go through with it I will have to stay in college an extra year and stay a student worker which is little money. My family help me with my son I dont think they will do it again, I dont blame them. I was not trying I use a condom and I am on birth control pills, and I have been using diet pills to lose weight and still was taking birth control pills before I found out I was pregnant. I also scared of having a mentally challenge child when I truly dont have time for children right now. I want a career....I dont know what to do

UH 24 WEEKS IS NOT SIX months it's about 5. Doctors consider six months to be 28 weeks and six months pregnant means you've just entered to third trimester, so you cannot legally have an abortion any longer.

You are just having jitters. Many women feel that way about this time. I did. But there has to be some reason why you couldn't bring yourself to having an abortion earlier. Just know that by now the fetus growing inside you can hear, see, and feel. If you want to cause a miscarriage, it will actually be STILLBIRTH and trust me it will be much much more painful and tramatizing than going through Labor, since your body is not prepared for it. It's too late for you to take abortion pills properly. You will have to go through labor. Why not just wait and adopt if you still feel strongly. It will be way better for you.

and everybody else = abortion is Legal and Many Many Many women practice their right to choose everyday. So why don't we not make things worse for some girl who is obviously going through some serious mental disfuctions, by telling her how horrible she is cause she was being honest. Here she is asking for help on so many levels, and some of you just have to go and make things worse for her.

To mamaof2, I don't think that was respectful what you put. I am prolife as well, but these girls are facing a serious dilemma and having a stranger judge them is not something they need right now. Instead of being judgemental maybe you could step back and try to put yourself in their shoes. I think responding in anger doesn't help the situation at all. You are right, they could have the baby and put it up for adoption, but I'm sure they would be more willing to listen to that reasoning than someone calling them disgusting and easy. I think you should be very ashamed of yourself.

Okay mamaof2 and ones like her:
I am a full time student an mother of 2. I am on birth control and the father of my girls and I use condoms now, but I think I am pregnant again. Are you saying that I am ignorant if I think that an abortion is the right choice for my family at this time? I need to further my education that was at a stand still while I was doing "the right thing" before. So what is your great advice now? Adoption would seem like the answer, but I don't think that is feasible since I still have to work and go to school to support the children I do want. THIS IS THE COMPLETE TRUTH. I can't believe that I can even be pregnant again.

Reply to mamaof2 -
So by your reasoning, a woman should have each and every egg in her ovaries fertilized or she is a bad person? I wouldn't call that reasoning. A woman is not a human incubator, and there is a big difference between giving a being life and being able to provide a being WITH a life. All this anti-abortionist nonsense is based on a patriarchal, totalitarian, antiquated and un educated system of belief, if you don't like the idea of a termination, then don't read the messages, find a "God Botherer" site instead, leave the girls alone - they need support and advice, not the opinions of some medieval stepford wife. If you can't be constructive and if you can't see beyond your own selfish, blinkered and ridiculous opinions, then don't inflict them upon other individuals.

you know those of you WANTING a miscarriage, are really hurting people like me who wanted our pregnancies to go full term. why post on this site knowing that women who have had miscarriages would see it? do you have no heart? why would you WANT to cause a miscarriage. you are only causing harm to yourself and your potential children.

To all of the girls that want to cause their own miscarriage for whatever purposes, try googling "miscarriage causes" Do a bit of research and find out what you shouldn't do and do it. There are ways to cause them.

all i have to say .. is that this website is to HELP one another .. not to fight .. for those of you who disagree with abortions .. there's other ways to state your opinions OTHER than calling people stupid and irresponsible because in all actuality, not all the women who are seeking to terminate their pregnancies have said how the babies were conceived .. and let me be the FIRST to tell you that many women who have been RAPED are on here looking to terminate their pregnancies .. others have mental and physical disabilities that prevent them from carrying out a normal pregnancy .. it is a free country and i know that you can say whatever you want .. but for those of you seeking to deter women from terminating their pregnancies, please consider WHY they may be doing it .. no matter how inhumane abortion can be .. calling one another stupid and irresponsible isnt going to get your point across .. it just shows how stupid you are ..

I havent read all of this thread but i just wanted to say those of you that decide you are smart and mature enough to have sex...need to just deal with the consequence instead of just "killing" it away.

I am against abortion..its not right. You will regret your decision in years to come..especially if Karma is a b***h and you can no longer creat children in the years to come because of a "botched" abortion you got when you were young and dumb....What goes around comes around....

Don't kill your baby...give he/she to someone that will love he/she and give he/she the life he/she deserves.


I could go on and on about ppl who have no heart to intentionally cause miscarriages and get abortions but its already been said....

IAM PRO LIFE.

It is rediculous you people would intentionally kill a baby.If you didn't want one.Or weren't "ready" to have one.Then obviously you shouldn't have had sex.I hate hearing about people who are ready enough to have sex knowing IT COULD GET YOU PREGNANT!but aren't ready enough for a baby.HELLOOOOO!!!You should be ashamed.I realize it's hard.I'm currently pregnant.The point is what's the difference in having SEx with another man.But not having a baby with him.Hmmm make sense.I mean your giving your body to HIM.Why not a baby.If not there is other options than murder people.I mean seriously.You can't consider adoption?Or are you to selfish to give the babies YOU made a chance at life.I'm sure some of your parents weren't ready.But at least you got your chance.At least you can HAVE babies when your ready unlike some people who can't have kids but want one horribly.Give your baby and a GOOD person a chance.Just because YOUR not ready to take responsibility doesn't mean that baby isn't ready for LIFE!

Guest wrote:

I am 16. My girlfriend is 16. We've been together for 2 1/2 months. She got pregnant by someone else. She is currently 4-5 weeks, we aren't 100% sure. She is quasi-christian, and does not beleive in abourtion, and thinks adoption is pretty much the same thing. I've forgiven her for cheating on me. But i don't want her to keep it. I have already volunteered to father the child. The real father is only 14, and we're not sure how he feels yet, or if we're even gonna tell him. I'll stand beside her, but not before I do everything in my power to make things my way. Quote:

Is there a way for me to cause a miscarriage without her knowing?

I don't think any of y'all realize that an abortion kills a human life, your little baby that is so innocent and didn't do anything to deserve death. YOU made the mistake of having unprotected sex, YOU made the choice of having sex before marriage. Honestly, call me crazy, but I don't believe in destroying/murdering the innocent...

My opnion, but really think about what your doing before you do it..
the after effects and everything. 

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I'm just putting this out there, I have been against abortion my entire life, never really had to deal with the issue...just that I love babies and the thought of them being killed is horrifying. In the last six months I have been faced with predicaments that have seriously questioned my strongest beliefs.
I was stupid at 19 and after leaving the army went back to my cheating boyfriend. Soon I was pregnant with my son, he left us to have another son with another woman and we were stranded. I refused then to let go of him, he is three, almost four now and I love him more than myself or even my now husband. We had sex before our wedding and became pregnant, panicking we decided the only way to continue on given the upcoming wedding, our parents and the church...we had an abortion. It was horrible and I swore I would never do that again.
But one month after marriage I am pregnant again. I lost my job because of morning sickness and since my husband was promised a great job, I full heartedly let it go. Except he did not get that job. And my husband has been using rheoteric like "your not really my son, once this baby comes I'll just ignore you, this baby is mine." and "who cares about him (my son)? He's not mine." and my in laws are already causing trouble "we just thought you were using birth control" (birth control WAS being used) "it will be interesting to have a third grandchild" (three does not include my son) Beyond the words is carryout, my husband is ignoring my son and not spending any time with him beyond "go to your room" every afternoon he is picked up from daycare. My son cries more than ever now and since I am struggling to get over nausea I am of little help. That plus I still hear "quit babying him". I am having nightmares of my son being a young adolescent and running away because he is made to feel unwanted and unloved and being torn between my husband and our child and my son. It does not help that neither of us have a job right now.
It makes no sense to put this child up for adoption, but my husband no longer supports the abortion route since we are married and everyone knows I'm pregnant...I did swear I wouldn't again...but this situation is NOT exactly child friendly. Hell it ain't even right. I want a miscarriage and get my son out of misery. But I'm 12 weeks, how?
This is why I wonder, under circumstances, can't abortion actually be considered wise and protecting of a child? No child wants to feel the seperation of family, drugs, alcohol, abuse, or neglect. How can we pride ourselves in not destroying them in the womb if we just destroy them in their childhood? It is a dilemma of gigantic proportions and not easy on mom....yet it has to be made. If abortion is chosen for selfish reasons, it ain't right, but maybe to spare a child, a family from a lifetime of pain and turmoil maybe abortion has a role?

My emotional thoughts.

It is selfish to have a child... You have children because you WANT them, not because you NEED them...

Selfish is not wrong, sometimes we have to be selfish in order to be happy and lead good lives.


IF I was a child, I would not want to be brought up in neglect and abuse.

you are in a really tough situation. Is there anyway you can leave him and keep both your babies? Your son and your child? Theres nothing to say you have to stay with an abusive man. Do you want this baby? Did you want the baby you aborted? I know abortion and it can leave you uncertain and scared, it can mute all your motherly emotions. A mother naturally protects her child. But I found that after abortion those natural instincts are less, you find yourself putting up with various types of abuse because deep down you feel like you deserve it...

I hope that there is a way for you to get away from this man and keep your children safe. I wish there was more I could do to help. Honestly I dont think abortion is the answer, your the mom, it's your baby too. What do YOU want... ???