What would we do without social media...%-) I am a 43yo woman. I had a one night stand 20 years ago and got pregnant. I now have a beautiful 19yo daughter. I never saw the guy again until today, I was searching Facebook and there he was. He's married with children of his own now.
I don't know if I should tell him and if I do, HOW?
I know my daughter would like to know her biological donar...
The only way I can contact him is through Facebook. But what if his wife has access to his account? I would like to get the paternity test done before anyone's feelings are hurt or if for some reason it turns out he is not the father... yes, unfortunately, there is a small chance, but I am relatively certain.
Seriously need some advice on this one. This is the hardest thing I am ever going to have to do. I feel horrible about the prospect of hurting him or his family.
What do I do?
I think the wisest thing would be to stay away.
Having said that, I don't know if I could do that myself either. If I came across the girl I dated for a couple years while I was in the army 50 years ago I doubt if I could resist at least saying hi.