ive never had an orgasim while having sex with my husband and my husband cums way to fast now we are both tierd all the time because we work all day and have a 10 month old daughter who i stay home with but when we do have sex we just stand up at the end of the bed and i bend over he dosnt like forplay and he dosnt like any kinds of toys to do the work for him and i dont know what to do someone help me please!!!
Hello,
I'm not an expert, but one thing I have learned is, men don't know what foreplay is, even if they tried would they really get it right? They are just groping in the dark for a while. (they also know this)
I would suggest showing them what you like, make it part of the "foreplay" tell them how you like it (he doesn't have to do much work now) or turn it into dirty talk, "i want you to do this ....all..over...err" you get my point. Some guys are just lazy and don't want to put in the effort but if you spice it up they can't wait too. Also, men love to watch women pleasure themselves. Again, make it a game let him watch you, hopefully he will take a mental picture of how to or remember his excitement, then it's a win-win situation, you get an orgasm because you know what to do, so does he, but he also gets a lesson in foreplay 101, once men know how easy it is, they will try. As long as you know what you like and keep it simple he will learn quickly and realize its not so hard and doesn't take that much time!
He could also be a selfish lover, if he hasn't acknowledged you are unsatisfied he may assume he has done a good job, or just doesn't care, which is a bit of an ego problem. So, then I would in-directly let him know you are unsatisfied by pleasuring yourself after wards or maybe buying yourself a toy. This will make him feel insulted and ask they question that makes every man insecure "are you satisfied" (use your best judgment, I don't want to wreck a home)
If he has acknowledged and is trying with "new moves" and it doesn't help he has probably lost confidence which means only more and more failed attempts to please you. Honestly, just let him know what makes you happy, show him or tell him.
Best,
A
I'm not an expert, but one thing I have learned is, men don't know what foreplay is, even if they tried would they really get it right? They are just groping in the dark for a while. (they also know this)
I would suggest showing them what you like, make it part of the "foreplay" tell them how you like it (he doesn't have to do much work now) or turn it into dirty talk, "i want you to do this ....all..over...err" you get my point. Some guys are just lazy and don't want to put in the effort but if you spice it up they can't wait too. Also, men love to watch women pleasure themselves. Again, make it a game let him watch you, hopefully he will take a mental picture of how to or remember his excitement, then it's a win-win situation, you get an orgasm because you know what to do, so does he, but he also gets a lesson in foreplay 101, once men know how easy it is, they will try. As long as you know what you like and keep it simple he will learn quickly and realize its not so hard and doesn't take that much time!
He could also be a selfish lover, if he hasn't acknowledged you are unsatisfied he may assume he has done a good job, or just doesn't care, which is a bit of an ego problem. So, then I would in-directly let him know you are unsatisfied by pleasuring yourself after wards or maybe buying yourself a toy. This will make him feel insulted and ask they question that makes every man insecure "are you satisfied" (use your best judgment, I don't want to wreck a home)
If he has acknowledged and is trying with "new moves" and it doesn't help he has probably lost confidence which means only more and more failed attempts to please you. Honestly, just let him know what makes you happy, show him or tell him.
Best,
A