Marijuana addicted boyfriend has violent mood swings

With all due respect, it's quite easy, especially when you love someone, to explain away or pass the blame onto someone or something else, for the shitty absolutely despicable behavior of said loved one. I've met Heroin users who turned out to be the nicest, intelligent most respectful individuals around, while on the other hand, I've met straight edge Christian fanatics that have proven to be absolute pretentious pricks. Weed or no weed, I hate to break it to you but, your 'Bae' is an abusive chest thumping macho pig headed piece of sh*t. In actuality Marijuana is supposed to produce euphoric, empathetic, relaxed feelings, which seem to have no effect on assholes. Simple solution, cut and run. Dont let one experience with a dickhead...who just happens to smoke weed, put you off of Medicinal users and advocates, and look for something better ✌

So if you smoke cannabis 'round the clock..?

I wish I have seen a larger comment from an ass in the last year but I have not. Cleaning, cooking and doing the laundry are contributing. Perhaps she makes homemade bread, cans her own food and gardens. You are not there.

OMG this is definitely my ex after 26yrs of being with him and 2 kids he is sweet and kind in front of friends and family then out of sight he turns into jekyl and a narcissist. I cant believe I stayed that long I thought he would change but the verbal abuse got worse and I thought he will change but eventually I had enough of his cheating affairs and drinking every day and smoking first thing in the morning and come home on his break and smoke more then sit up all night drinking and smoking more and he hardly slept. then wouldn't talk to me he thought he was more smarter and the kids and I would be walking around on egg shells waiting for him to come home to see what kind of mood he is in. then he went away for a funeral down south and said bye babe love you and gave me a hug I never felt before then a week later I get a txt to tell me to not look for him or call him and move out so my kids now adults I told them your father is at it again sleeping around and Im done no more I need my life back. the kids and I moved out and have not heard from him for almost a year he left me and the kids too. his sister blamed me for him going to hospital when all I ever did was look after him and loved him but that wasn't enough. he is now seeing the woman he cheated on me with who has bipolar schitzophrenia so I dont feel bad he will cop it from her now. I am now in a good place doing what I wanted to do for years which I couldn't do while I was with him travel and can go out whenever I want and can visit my family which I wasn't allowed to do. I feel happy with my children they're happy too. No going back to that life.

Weed addictions is no good !! It causes different mood swings! And that person can also verbal abuse you! So I think that's a bad habit to have!

Well you should try to talk to him! And if that don't help! Just separate yourself from him!!

This whole thing is so weird because you sound just like the guy I just left and the guy she describes sounds like him too, and she sounds like his ex before me.

To the original poster, I just left someone who smoked pot and was sometimes verbally abusive. I work full time, have my own place, etc. I earn more money than him, and he still was that way wth me. His previous girlfriend did not work and he occasionally complained to me about how he felt taken advantage of. My point is that it didn't matter. He treated us both the same. But you have to help yourself. Even if the only thing you can manage is to call a domestic violence hotline, do that, start there.

Im scared of what to do my x partner still lives with me and has been smoking cannabis for 25years, i work p/time i help him sometimes but struggle with my bill .if he cant get a smoke he looses it not with me but my 17yr old dog who is already bad on his legs i want to report him but im terrified what else he will do his temper is really bad

I have a girl friend with the same problem, and a best friend from years ago.
first my friend, he was a A student in grade 13, went to church every weekend and loved his parents.
he was the last of my group of friends to start smoking weed. and with in 6 months he lost all friends , quit school, and last I heard was in a fist fight with his senior father on the front lawn.
Next my girl friend now, gorgeous, smart, helpful , loyal, hard working , thoughtful who I am planning to dump, she always smoked a little weed and we were great together for over ten years. over that time I made more money and the amount of weed she smoked slowly increased to a lot. I tried to dial it back but that is impossible now. She too is now ignored by her family because of crazy outbursts , quit working, lost every one of her friends, and now I am the last one that looks like will be leaving. She became very hostile, even out shopping arguing with people , cries and screams all the time about nothing and I mean nothing, became very lazy, stopped taking dog out or for walks, stopped cooking , stop singing , stop working out , and wont stop yelling even when dog is afraid hiding in the corner shaking , wont see a doctor, Some people can't handle weed, most or some can. For those that can't it greatly magnifies any bad traits that we all have. They get mad if the weed is almost gone, mad looking for it, mad the stuff they buy is too weak, or mad the count is low in her opinion . I smoke a little and when I do it is hard to get up in morning and that is only smoking a small amount .They also get made about falling behind on things and blame everyone around them, she is now starting to get violent throwing things breaking things slamming doors. Even our last fight she pretended to make up with me and asked for kiss and bit my lip . My advice leave and stay away from drug addicts in the future. It is the exact same thing I saw repeat itself from my old friend. Its a real shame. You must rescue yourself, only take them back if a drug test is passed. If not leave him. It will only get worse!!! I watched this happen to two important people in my life. I forgot to say What also happens is you now have to pick up the slack around the house because they don't do it. Now they blame you when something isn't done. This hurt me because of my work, I was spending less and less time working because nothing was getting done at home. I wasted the last six years listening to the stoned BS Don't make the same mistake I did. Good Luck, Also a lot of people will tell you its not the weed maybe the person needs Prozac, I assure you its the weed. Just like booze, some are happy drunks some are not. My girl friend says I changed and that's or problem, but I am the same. I even have a 12 year old blackberry LOL. But she insists she loves me, cant live without me, how sexy I am, but sex mostly never happens now, it did all the time in our first 10 years. This all happened even when we bought our dream house she wanted.

read my replay on page three, its the weed.
Not all but some cant handle it. Just like a happy drunk or mean drunk, so if a mean drunk would you not blame the booze?

Agreed. As science and medicine progresses in respects to cannabis you can hardly blame that for how he acts. First of all, cannabis is not addictive, and that is proven now. Anyone who says otherwise just doesn’t like it and isn’t educated about it. I’m sorry you are going through all of the abuse, but the problem is your boyfriend, not his weed smoking. If he is using cannabis to self-medicate for another underlying issue, then the underlying issue is what you need to get to... Anger management, relationship counseling, whatever. Find a better person if you need to. Sounds like you guys aren’t a match at all.