I am about to have my 30th birthday is just a few short weeks, so I have been dealing with my mom for my whole life. My issue is that as I grow apart from her I realize how crazy she really is. This really came to light when my step dad and her split up almost 18 years ago. She lost her mind, I was so desperate for help that I tried everything. No one could help me, CPS would not step in, I was lost. When I was 17, I finally was able to take a hold of my own life and get the hell out of her house. I wrote a letter to the Montel Williams show the summer before I left to go to school. We were asked to go on the show. My mom, grandparents and I took off for New York, and they got my mom the help that she needed. She stayed clean and sober for 4 years before relapsing right before Easter in 2002. Since then it has only gotten worse.
There are some recent events that have driven me so mad, that I really am about to call it quits with her. I am her only child and her only family left here. Her parents moved way to another state.
I have my own life to live, I can not be her parent anymore. I have wasted so many years trying to pick her up off her feet and dusting her off.
There is of course a ton more, but that is for another time. I am thinking of attending al anon as well. Plus my brother inlaw whom lives with us, is a drug addict and alcoholic. Which is causing more issues than I have time for right now.
Why don't you just move away? I know it's your family, but enough is enough.
hi bro...
i could understand your problem, i have some thing to say so if you thing this will work just do it.
the real problem:
the mental stress and her lonlyness caused this problem.
she need some changes which should be physically and mentally new to her.
ok a simple analogy,
think u like watching superman cartoon TV shows, one day your favorite cartoon show is goin on, at the same time your friend calling for same cartoon show in theater...
now tell me which one ll u prefer and why.. ?
the same thing is goin with your mom,
when your father left she needed a strong support to run run life happily ; she got that from ur step father, when she happened lose him once again she was mentally frightened and stressed that nobody here to help her.
so she found some wrong solution for her problem (alcohol).
it is just like a baby walking inside of her own room in dark night without candle calling god to take care of her" it is her own house her own room but still she need a support from out".
i think u have understand ur mother's problem now?
just follow this things,
1. let her drink today night, by tomorrow morning (u want to wake her up) take her to some flower garden, a long car or bike raid (with out some destination but should be natural)
2. she is going to cooperate or not; u try to do it for few more days.
3. talk respectively even she is rude or harsh to you. show that you are loving her.
4. after a week while speaking to ur friend u just say to ur friend loudly"SORRY FRIEND, AM GOING TO STAY WITH MY LOVELY MOM, I CANT COME... " (he/she is calling or not say it simply, by this she ll get some faith on u)
5. now the important part is starts: arrange some tour yourself and take her to that place that where she cant find alcoholic shop near by. it is tough to find but try to do it may be a temple town help u.
6. after this try to mingle her with ur friends circle, ask ur friends to cooperate with you (ask their help). take ur mom to ur friends party (non alcoholic party's),up to this u should not show any harsh act on her like braking the alcohol bottle talking harsh etc etc...
7. now explain her how good wash she, show some photos which u took on party's, tour, good movements and funny moments on these past weeks,
8. now time to pick the bottle from her hand time to throw it away... a bit by bit.
that is all bro
i could understand your problem, i have some thing to say so if you thing this will work just do it.
the real problem:
the mental stress and her lonlyness caused this problem.
she need some changes which should be physically and mentally new to her.
ok a simple analogy,
think u like watching superman cartoon TV shows, one day your favorite cartoon show is goin on, at the same time your friend calling for same cartoon show in theater...
now tell me which one ll u prefer and why.. ?
the same thing is goin with your mom,
when your father left she needed a strong support to run run life happily ; she got that from ur step father, when she happened lose him once again she was mentally frightened and stressed that nobody here to help her.
so she found some wrong solution for her problem (alcohol).
it is just like a baby walking inside of her own room in dark night without candle calling god to take care of her" it is her own house her own room but still she need a support from out".
i think u have understand ur mother's problem now?
just follow this things,
1. let her drink today night, by tomorrow morning (u want to wake her up) take her to some flower garden, a long car or bike raid (with out some destination but should be natural)
2. she is going to cooperate or not; u try to do it for few more days.
3. talk respectively even she is rude or harsh to you. show that you are loving her.
4. after a week while speaking to ur friend u just say to ur friend loudly"SORRY FRIEND, AM GOING TO STAY WITH MY LOVELY MOM, I CANT COME... " (he/she is calling or not say it simply, by this she ll get some faith on u)
5. now the important part is starts: arrange some tour yourself and take her to that place that where she cant find alcoholic shop near by. it is tough to find but try to do it may be a temple town help u.
6. after this try to mingle her with ur friends circle, ask ur friends to cooperate with you (ask their help). take ur mom to ur friends party (non alcoholic party's),up to this u should not show any harsh act on her like braking the alcohol bottle talking harsh etc etc...
7. now explain her how good wash she, show some photos which u took on party's, tour, good movements and funny moments on these past weeks,
8. now time to pick the bottle from her hand time to throw it away... a bit by bit.
that is all bro