My 4 1/2 year old nephew's mother has decided to up and leave him with his father, and move 9 hours away. His mother and father have never lived together, and there have been some upheavals in his life lately, his grandpa just passed away, and he's not allowed to see his maternal grandma because she refuses to stop smoking around him. His mother left him at his dad's a few days ago and not called, he's beginning to cry at night..help!