Selfish people like you make me laugh. You are MAKING HIM FEEL LIKE c**p. How the hell do you not see that?
First of all, weed was his own harmless recreational hobby and you took that away from him. That means by taking away weed from him, you are not accepting something he loves into both of your lives. Weed is not bad, get over that false impression and maybe read up on some documented cases on the net about weed (they are all over the place use google..). You should at least do THIS if you love him like you say you do (which you really wouldn't if you made him stop doing something he loves..).
Anyway, yea yea, I know you are probably some Xian fundie who has been forcefed propaganda your entire life and will completely reject any thought of weed.
My advice? Smoke a bowl and lighten up a little! I'm surprised the poor guy hasn't dumped you already.
First of all, weed was his own harmless recreational hobby and you took that away from him. That means by taking away weed from him, you are not accepting something he loves into both of your lives. Weed is not bad, get over that false impression and maybe read up on some documented cases on the net about weed (they are all over the place use google..). You should at least do THIS if you love him like you say you do (which you really wouldn't if you made him stop doing something he loves..).
Anyway, yea yea, I know you are probably some Xian fundie who has been forcefed propaganda your entire life and will completely reject any thought of weed.
My advice? Smoke a bowl and lighten up a little! I'm surprised the poor guy hasn't dumped you already.
Marijuana gets you high because of the cannabinoids present in THC, FOR WHICH YOUR BRAIN HAS RECEPTORS. Smoking pot is less harmful for you than a lot of the preservative-saturated food we stuff into our mouths. Be glad he isn't a raging alcoholic who slaps you around and calls you awful names, or a Meth addict digging through your purse trying to find enough money to pick up another gram.
It is IMPOSSIBLE to become physically addicted to marijuana, one may gain some form of mental dependence, but we can become dependent on anything by using our brain to convince ourselves so. For people who smoke, it becomes a hobby, not to mention there's an enjoyable culture attached to the plant.
Marijuana does not change who you are, it doesn't change what you think or how you feel about someone. Just because he likes to have sex high doesn't make you repulsive. It means that he's human and like to make good things better. He loves you with or without weed obviously, but he might not like his life so much without his favorite hobby.
As I mentioned earlier, your brain has receptors specifically made for THC, the active ingredient in marijuana. It's not even a drug, it'd be worse if he was taking anti-depressants every day. Don't change the man you love because society and propaganda tells you that one of his habits are wrong. HE ISN'T WRONG. Hiding it from you is a bit hurtful, but I can see why he'd want to by how you reacted. CHILL OUT.
In my opinion, you should let him smoke. He decided to quit to make you happy, now that you've (hopefully) done your research and realized that he isn't harming you or your relationship, you should surprise him by telling him you don't mind. Maybe even toke with him?
It is IMPOSSIBLE to become physically addicted to marijuana, one may gain some form of mental dependence, but we can become dependent on anything by using our brain to convince ourselves so. For people who smoke, it becomes a hobby, not to mention there's an enjoyable culture attached to the plant.
Marijuana does not change who you are, it doesn't change what you think or how you feel about someone. Just because he likes to have sex high doesn't make you repulsive. It means that he's human and like to make good things better. He loves you with or without weed obviously, but he might not like his life so much without his favorite hobby.
As I mentioned earlier, your brain has receptors specifically made for THC, the active ingredient in marijuana. It's not even a drug, it'd be worse if he was taking anti-depressants every day. Don't change the man you love because society and propaganda tells you that one of his habits are wrong. HE ISN'T WRONG. Hiding it from you is a bit hurtful, but I can see why he'd want to by how you reacted. CHILL OUT.
In my opinion, you should let him smoke. He decided to quit to make you happy, now that you've (hopefully) done your research and realized that he isn't harming you or your relationship, you should surprise him by telling him you don't mind. Maybe even toke with him?
Wow, this is sad.This post was from almost 3 years ago.I'll bet she left him over this after seeing how overbearingly intolerant and biased she is towards pot.
Someone like her doesn't deserve someone like him so,it's probably for the best.
And the saddest part is she's calling him selfish when the biggest issue she had was his loss of sex drive.
Someone like her doesn't deserve someone like him so,it's probably for the best.
And the saddest part is she's calling him selfish when the biggest issue she had was his loss of sex drive.
I feel terrible about your story it really was touching but honestly i think that it either is not meant to be or that you need to loosen up a little. I personally love marijuana and every thing about it. but recently after smoking non stop for 3 years, i have felt more different now than ever. Weed is important to me, but it makes me feel tired, hungry, and thats it.... at first my sex drive was high, but after smoking i just felt tired and not in the mood. Let your boyfriend do what he needs to feel happy. i guarantee you that weed is not as bad as you think girl. also good luck, and i hope things work out for you, but if things are like this when he is sober and you feel this way, than it is not meant to be and you have to end it. ! LOVE YA, GOOD LUCK
I agree with whoever said "harmless habit" and don't know why people are freaking out at the discovery that someone is smoking pot. In particular, you list all these wonderful traits about being loving, going to church every week, making love all the time, and then you want to blow everything up because he's smoking pot? Why not work to mitigate the habit and let him use it once in a while? Isn't that better than a crisis that might lead to splitting up? What do you think the next guy you get is going to be like? Better, or probably worse across a whole series of traits?
wow...it's shocking to think you find out you don't know many things about your long-term partner.
I have been smoking pot 2-5 times a day for 16 years now. I recently got myself in trouble with something undrug related but i have to go to probation now. I had to quit cold turkey so i pass the drug tests. It has only been 2 weeks since i have stopped but I can no longer keep an erection during sex now. This is a huge thing for me because I have always had a very strong sex drive. Will this be permanent? Should I seek medical help? I dont know what to do and this is very embarrasing for me. Has anyone else known of this issue?
Maybe now he's straight he realises something. LOL!
Seriously, you should take up pot smoking yourself as it's not fair for there to be only one pothead in a relationship.
Seriously, you should take up pot smoking yourself as it's not fair for there to be only one pothead in a relationship.
hahahahahahahahaha. youre ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting**woman. pot is a good thing dont make your man feel bad for loving the sweet herb god put on this "green" earth. let him keep toking that sh*t up girl and youll once again be that happy sexually satisfied woman you were for so long before you had to ***edited by moderator*** ** inappropriate posting**things up by telling him to stop
My husband has smoked pot for many years but the last 10 years he has gradually smoked heavier and heavier smoking every day. When he is high he is less inhibited and surrounds himself with fellow dope smokers. His habit got to the point of him carrying on with other women and having secret women friends behind my back even though he insists he never slept with any of them. I felt totally betrayed, Now he has backed off a little but two days after he has been smoking dope he goes through the moods. cranky, irritible, bit my head off, so I walk around on egg shells. When he is high he is loving and wants sex, but I have realised it is the dope that makes him loving, not me. He just turns me off when he is high and wants sex, would you constantly make love to a person who only wanted you when he was drunk? it is the same with dope. This roller coaster ride is destroying me, my self esteem and our relationship. If your man is serious and is giving up the dope for you, and he is committed to doing so, hang around, for my part, if my husband cannot give up the weed it is the end of our relationship. After 35 years of marriage I am giving up. It is to hard to be the straight person in the relationship who is only there as a personal taxi and other services when he wants them.
Sadness
i to am a pot head and i am cleaning up. my girl knew from day 1 i used it and she is helping me clean up my act i told her if i am short with her it is because my with drawl is trying to push her away and not to let it. stick in there and remember. this isn't him it's the pot trying to win. if u walk away he will never get his life back u have to stay strong for him. lol i have a saying. a straight head knowledge of drugs is the negative stuff the read in a leaflet. the lien is what might have killed his smiling at you he knows he hurt u and he may feel ashamed but remember drugs take your life in more ways then 1. he says your his world and he hurt u maybe that is what as killed off his spirit and not the withdrawal. but his minds to out of control to realize it.
pfffft egotistical dramaqueen ..
i hate to make all of you feell stupid but you cant have withdrawals from weed,.....your mood may change and other symptoms of stopping but you cant have withdrawals from something that is not addictive
You sound like an uneducated fool , Try smoking pot 10+ times daily for 3 years and quit , Lack of sleep , not being hungry and not being able to f**k is an with drawl and is physical. Think before you speak , I quit on new years and im still not turned on ..
You are the dumbest b***h I ever heard. I wish that kid had a sack and just left you. Condescending w****