i am a 14 year old boy and my mom checked my browser history a while back (first thing she is the way overprotective kind) and found out that i had been watching porn and masturbating so she banned me from the computer for 3 months then she asked me why i was doing that and how it is wrong but i said it was natural and she said it is not because she had 3 brothers and no of them did that now she realised that i was watching porn again and she started to argue untill she broke down crying all i am saying is that i am a boy and i am not going to stay young forever she even told she does not want me to have a girlfriend until i am 36 i just want to know is it wrong to watch porn and masturbate please help
No. its not wrong! she may think it is, because your her son, and she doesn't want to even think about you doing that stuff... but no its not wrong...
Mothers wishes the best things for her sons and daughters. Understand her please. :)
Yea dude - that's a tough one. There is nothing wrong with masturbating. Every 14 year old does it!!! Parents don't want their kids to grow up... They also (usually) don't want to know about their kids sex life...and masturbating is part of that. It IS something private - so you need to make sure she doesn't find out you're doing it if this is her option.
I'm sure your uncles did it, though. I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your uncles - but maybe you can talk to them about it.
I want you to know that there is NOTHING wrong with masturbating. Enjoy it.
Maybe...you can direct you mom to THIS site - she can post about her concerns and talk to all of us here about it!
i watch porn too. all u have to do is before you exit out of the internet u delete ur browser history. thats what i do
I too say that 18+ i sthe age for all that, because if you get into all that now. you will have concentration only on that . Because it give more fun than anything, you may not concentrate on school works.I have crossed that age so we know that.After 10 year's you will also say same thing,and you can have girl friend @ that the age of 21 so will understand girls. If you depart at this age it will hurt you a lot . Bye for now
It's normal for parents to think its wrong, but their just looking out for you.
Dude my mom is exactly the same bout only having a gf at 36 but her brothers did not do it becoz they did not invent the internet yet and it is completely natural every1 person does it or has done it
That is just untrue!!
"every1 person does it or has done it" is clearly wrong, whether masturbation only or porn related. While both are widespread, they are not universal.
- Not everyone has access to the internet
- Many do not watch porn
- Many do not masturbate. Just see how many people post here asking how to!
- Pornography is not the invention of the internet, although the internet has made it more accessible.
However the issue raised here is not so much masturbation per se, but porn induced masturbation. Despite its appeal, porn is dangerous, which is why it is age restricted!
To encourage underage porn is illegal; to encourage it otherwise is foolish.
That's what I do
36 seems a bit unrealistic. Maybe you could talk it over and bargain her down to a more realistic age... like 16.
As for masturbating, it's a healthy habit that boys should learn at an early age. (A United Nations panel has recommended that it should be taught to kindergartners as part of their early sex education.) Pornography can doubtless be stimulating but your own imagination can provide you with better pictures if you let it ;-)
A UN panel recommendation does not justify anything that goes against cultural, familial or religious standards. Many are unhappy about 'kindergarten' sex education, and things that are culturally and/or religiously sensitive should be left to the parents to determine what is taught and when. At 14, a child is usually still under parental responsibility.
False, I masturbated around 12-14 and had a completely different experience. I think it helped me relieve that sexual stress I needed at that age. But porn is bad and can make you have false expectations about sex and women.