My mother turned 78 this year and since then it has been a steady decline in her sanity, taste buds ( she thinks we sabotage her food ) she believes everyone is yelling at her, she can't hear and blames us that we can't hear, her temper tantrums are daily, she whines all day, makes annoying noises and has weird habits picking her lips and making sucking sounds while watching T.V, chewing gum when she doesn't have any in her mouth, she is just mimicking the motion, totally disturbing the rest of us, she hisses a lot especially in the car, it's loud. The list goes on.....it's all too much to take, it gets' to the point were old people just need to be on their own, they become unable to live with. I use to think I could always be there for her in my home but now I realize it's not possible her behaviour has a ripple effect on everyone in the family.
Well i'm going through the same thing right now i can't sleep at night because i'm depressed because my grandfather passed away last year on the morning of June,18 2017 due to a massive heart attack he had heart failure for 20 years and my mom acts like she doesn't care i was in a dark place ever since and i'm still in a dark place like srsly come on!?
Don't listen to people who try to put the blame on you, that's nonsense. It's not your responsibility to control how another person behaves, everyone's responsible for their own actions.
She's old and realizing that her life is coming to an end and she's obviously got some issues she's dealing with because as you age your mind starts to go. Honestly, there's nothing you can really do unfortunately. People don't change because you ask them to, except understand that it's your mom and that at any time she could pass away. If you're speaking with her and find yourself starting to feel irritated just explain to her the specific behavior or words that are bothering you in the moment when it's happening. Then set a boundary and ask for that behavior or word not to be repeated because it bothers you. You must have a goal when trying to end an argument otherwise you're both complaining for no reason. If things escalate then you have to learn to just walk away and come back another day.
We all have to learn that sometimes people will be who they are and to stop expecting them to be a certain way. If you don't like the way they are then distance yourself, it makes no sense to hang out with people (family or not) who drive you nuts, although that's just my opinion.
She's old and realizing that her life is coming to an end and she's obviously got some issues she's dealing with because as you age your mind starts to go. Honestly, there's nothing you can really do unfortunately. People don't change because you ask them to, except understand that it's your mom and that at any time she could pass away. If you're speaking with her and find yourself starting to feel irritated just explain to her the specific behavior or words that are bothering you in the moment when it's happening. Then set a boundary and ask for that behavior or word not to be repeated because it bothers you. You must have a goal when trying to end an argument otherwise you're both complaining for no reason. If things escalate then you have to learn to just walk away and come back another day.
We all have to learn that sometimes people will be who they are and to stop expecting them to be a certain way. If you don't like the way they are then distance yourself, it makes no sense to hang out with people (family or not) who drive you nuts, although that's just my opinion.