I saw a post yesterady and thought I would ask a question. I am researching the subject of being nervous before sex, both parties. I am experiencing this issue. I met this man 2 months ago. The attraction is there....the mental attraction is undeniably there. I have never felt this way about anyone before...and he feels the same. We literally spend any free time together. We have fun, we laugh, we talk and genuinely like one another.
So what is the issue? Sex...we have maybe done it fully about 3 times..it started with him loosing the erection, he told me he is intimidated...so I slowed down, became a little less aggressive. But with him loosing the erection the first 2 weeks, it made me feel unattractive, and I am an attractive girl. At this point, I think we have done so much talking about why things are awkward and why we both are clearly experienced yet appears that we are in the 6th grade once we start. It's like it is in the back of our minds and will not leave. I do not know what to do on either end to help this situation progress in a positive way. He is worth the wait....I just need to know what to do now. It almost flip flops back and forth between us. When he is comfortable I'm not and vice versa. It's like we don't know where to put our hands...we don't know what is going on. The man I was with prior to the new one, he and I had an amazing sex life, the rest was lacking, but the sex was always mind blowing. The past guy was also not very nice. This guy is factastic. SO...can you please help me?
So what is the issue? Sex...we have maybe done it fully about 3 times..it started with him loosing the erection, he told me he is intimidated...so I slowed down, became a little less aggressive. But with him loosing the erection the first 2 weeks, it made me feel unattractive, and I am an attractive girl. At this point, I think we have done so much talking about why things are awkward and why we both are clearly experienced yet appears that we are in the 6th grade once we start. It's like it is in the back of our minds and will not leave. I do not know what to do on either end to help this situation progress in a positive way. He is worth the wait....I just need to know what to do now. It almost flip flops back and forth between us. When he is comfortable I'm not and vice versa. It's like we don't know where to put our hands...we don't know what is going on. The man I was with prior to the new one, he and I had an amazing sex life, the rest was lacking, but the sex was always mind blowing. The past guy was also not very nice. This guy is factastic. SO...can you please help me?
hey take it easy XD