I will make this brief. My grandson is 10 months old. My daughter went to work when he was 4 weeks old. She had a sitter for 3 days a week and i took him the remaining 2. She tells me that she doesn't like the way the sitter is responding to the baby and that the sitter is hinting that she can't watch him any more. She asked if i could watch him full time. They bring him at 5:30 a.m. and i pack him into the car and pick her up at work at 3p.m. every day as they only have 1 vehicle. This has gone on since Christian was 2 months old. Here is the problem....
Since day ONE, i told her i would watch him until we moved. Our new home is 8 miles further away. I want to go back to work and have been offered an excellent opportunity. Remember, i told her a long time ago what was going on and she agreed. We are about to finally move. She is distraught over this. She hates the idea of day care and cries to me all the time. Now i feel bad because i have found myself getting very attached to Christian. He is adorable and he lights up when he sees me.
The winters are very rough here and it's bad enough that i drive him home in the worst wheather, but now i would have to drive him further. I hate the though of nasty slippery roads and putting him in danger. Our new home is farther west of where we are now which puts us even closer to Buffalo and the lake, which is the snow belt.
It is getting closer to the big move and she has not done anything to try to find another sitter. She will say to the baby in front of me, tell grama that you will cry and you won't be happy someplace else, oh gramma, look at that face, how can you leave him? And on and on and on, talk about a guilt trip. Oh brother, this breaks my heart. What do i do other than just say NO? I know, just say it.
Thanks for any input
bbfeet9
Since day ONE, i told her i would watch him until we moved. Our new home is 8 miles further away. I want to go back to work and have been offered an excellent opportunity. Remember, i told her a long time ago what was going on and she agreed. We are about to finally move. She is distraught over this. She hates the idea of day care and cries to me all the time. Now i feel bad because i have found myself getting very attached to Christian. He is adorable and he lights up when he sees me.
The winters are very rough here and it's bad enough that i drive him home in the worst wheather, but now i would have to drive him further. I hate the though of nasty slippery roads and putting him in danger. Our new home is farther west of where we are now which puts us even closer to Buffalo and the lake, which is the snow belt.
It is getting closer to the big move and she has not done anything to try to find another sitter. She will say to the baby in front of me, tell grama that you will cry and you won't be happy someplace else, oh gramma, look at that face, how can you leave him? And on and on and on, talk about a guilt trip. Oh brother, this breaks my heart. What do i do other than just say NO? I know, just say it.
Thanks for any input
bbfeet9
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I dont really no what to say to you . I feel for you. My daughter is very good at making me feel guilty an i end up giving in to her.
My daughter takes after her dad, my ex. He was great at it.
I dont think either of them realised how they made me feel. An i dont think they ment to do it. Maybe they did!!!
Instead of just saying no to her, try an reverse the guilt back.
Tel her how terrible you think it is getting him up so early, bringing him out in such cold bad weather, how dangerous it is an how she is putting him in danger.
I no thats easier said than done.
I guess it costs you money all the time traveling back an to. Could you not help her out by giving her that money to pay for a sitter?
Would you be able to cope having him at your over night. May be only once/twice at a push a week. And then she can bring him over at an evening. See if she likes having to do all the driving. Just a few thoughts :-) Kids!!
My daughter takes after her dad, my ex. He was great at it.
I dont think either of them realised how they made me feel. An i dont think they ment to do it. Maybe they did!!!
Instead of just saying no to her, try an reverse the guilt back.
Tel her how terrible you think it is getting him up so early, bringing him out in such cold bad weather, how dangerous it is an how she is putting him in danger.
I no thats easier said than done.
I guess it costs you money all the time traveling back an to. Could you not help her out by giving her that money to pay for a sitter?
Would you be able to cope having him at your over night. May be only once/twice at a push a week. And then she can bring him over at an evening. See if she likes having to do all the driving. Just a few thoughts :-) Kids!!
Celebrity
495 posts
Thanks for one of your recent replys after mine. I thought id put a new perspective on the issue to help him understand. But i guess you need to give up sometimes.
Your more to the point than i dear
Hows your daughter an the children?
Your more to the point than i dear
Hows your daughter an the children?
Thanks for asking Carole, all is well at this end. We are about to move this weekend and as the time gets closer i get sadder. I have become so attached to this baby in just 10 short months. He is a joy and a delight. I bought him his first pair of walking shoes today and a t shirt that says, DON'T MAKE ME CALL MY GRAMA!!!
Daughter is waiting for the final pieces of paper work for day care. AARGH, i really do hate the idea. But it will be to much travel time and with the winters so harsh, i would be afraid to drive with him so much. I will think about the job offer that i got. I don't know what will happen. I will probably take him overnite a time ot two during the week so she can cut down on day care expense. But if i know me, i will be in town a lot just so i can visit him, cute little s***t head has me wrapped around his fat liitle finger!!! He kisses his grama now, it's so freakin cute. I honestly do enjoy if drooley wet smootches. Chat with you later. BBfeet
Daughter is waiting for the final pieces of paper work for day care. AARGH, i really do hate the idea. But it will be to much travel time and with the winters so harsh, i would be afraid to drive with him so much. I will think about the job offer that i got. I don't know what will happen. I will probably take him overnite a time ot two during the week so she can cut down on day care expense. But if i know me, i will be in town a lot just so i can visit him, cute little s***t head has me wrapped around his fat liitle finger!!! He kisses his grama now, it's so freakin cute. I honestly do enjoy if drooley wet smootches. Chat with you later. BBfeet