Hi, my bf had a psychotic episode last month. He`s been extremely paranoid. He have this “conspiracy theory”... I think that is the case with all paranoids. But he think he`s being followed. Like he`s some sor of a spy or something. I mean, who would follow him around, really? Whatever I say to him, the answer is: Oh, you are so naive. Even more, there were 2 situations when he almost got me into his psychotic paranoic illusions (we were on holiday and wherever we went there was that guy with a grey hat). Don`t know what can I do to help him anymore.
Hi, my husband had a paranoid illusions too. Every time I went out to see a friend he thought I was going to report »my bosses« about what he was doing during the week. He`s a police officer and no wonder, I guess. But really!!! All the time he was like following me around to reveal conspiracy against him. I know he`s been under a great stress at work. Anyway, here is something that you could do. Always be calm and caring. Reassure him from his paranoia, like all the time. Maybe even to watch over those people that he`s suspicious about (my husband`s condition improved significantly when I took him out to see in the first place where I was going and what was I doing). Don`t contradict, just change the subject of discussion. And... sometimes the words are really very unnecessary – a gentle touch can help him to restore his peace.
My ex, ditto. I did try the things you're supposed to do, being gentle and reassuring. But he insisted on nothing but agreement with his conspiracy theories/delusions about friends being against him and could be rude and patronizing if you would not agree absolutely with everything. He is quite an angry man and he had recently begun to talk about defending himself violently, saying there were things he was planning that I'd better not know about (ie, law breaking, I suppose). And I tried to just let him say this then change the subject. But the increasing mention of violence worries me. I even began to worry about my own safety (mental health services in my country are dreadful - he no longer gets help and there's nowhere to refer him to).
Anyway, he just walked out again, 24 hours ago. He's done that many times. I always used to coax him back. Reading on the net, though, I find this retreat/advance/retreat thing is part of personality disorders. If he had some insight into how he is, and if he was committed to me (not wanting to walk out all the time!) then I'd happily carry on with him. But he wants a kind of revolving door where I make all the effort. Forgive me if this sounds accusatory. We broke up yesterday and I'm in a lot of pain and very angry, very, very hurt. I imagine him sitting at home, smirking at the idea of me in pain. Probably not. Who knows? All I know is I can't go through yet another break-up. This one is the end. God give me strength to adhere to that.