I have a bad situation at work, several stupid mistakes put my position in question. Now I am constantly nervous and I stupidly managed to transfer that stress to my home. My problem is pissed of wife about me coming home pissed! I messed up things with her and now I cannot even consider my home a place for relaxation. What should I do, I am slowly becoming depressed.
Well, you have to realize that, sooner or later, those problems at work will sort out, maybe positively, maybe not, but the only one left for you is your wife. So my advice to you is to forget about those problems, if you are good at work, you can easily find some other job, but the wife will always be there. So, don't piss her off, man! I guess she is also very agitated because of your situation. It would not be normal for her to stay calm, and maybe that is the way she expresses her anxiety.
Talk to her,
your job and every thing around is nothing compaired to your wife.
tell her your sorry tell her your worried about work, and so on.
Make a pact with her
No Man Woman or Child will ever come between us.
your job and every thing around is nothing compaired to your wife.
tell her your sorry tell her your worried about work, and so on.
Make a pact with her
No Man Woman or Child will ever come between us.
Get to a gym and work your stress from home out... do not take the job stress home. Men can get they're stress greatly reduced to nothing by working that stress out on a punch bag or lifting weights, even swimming.
Go on long walks and get this worked out.
I used to be in a job with HIGH stress from dealing with criminals all day long... got out of that line of work. BUT it created an undo amount of stress that made me treat my lover like she was the enemy etc.
You have to find an out, your wife is not your punching bag or whipping post to take what others do to you out on.
Go on long walks and get this worked out.
I used to be in a job with HIGH stress from dealing with criminals all day long... got out of that line of work. BUT it created an undo amount of stress that made me treat my lover like she was the enemy etc.
You have to find an out, your wife is not your punching bag or whipping post to take what others do to you out on.
okay I completely know about this!....
My husband HATES HIS JOB!!!... I am a stay at home wife(I dont know if your wife is or not...) but when my hunny comes home I want attention.. and I need to learn to give my husband space... and she needs to give you space...
If you are so stressed out at work she needs to make you be able to relax and give you a good rest of the day.. jsut like I am learning to do. You are out supporting your family and you come home and put up with your wifes bs because you are so stressed out and she is pissed about that!?.... That is EXACTLY how I look at it now... But you need to talk to your wife, tell her that you need peace... tell her you are worried about your job.. and if it is so stressful start looking for another job!.. Becuase your job is not as important as your family... If it has to do with the money, I understand.. my husband makes really good money for no college experience... but he is still looking...
You really need to find something to do w/ your wife, once a day... even if it is 20 min together to relax and have a nice time together... take a shower together, play a game, make dinner together, if you have kids, take them outside to play and just relax...
Also, you need to talk about the stress you are having at work, i know your wife probably wants you to keep it to yourself and not talk about work but it will make things worse... you need to talk about your stress with her... even if you just take 10 min and just get pissed and rage and yell (let her know you are going to do this at first before you do it) but you can get it out of your system and then you wont take it out on your boss or her ... well you will take it out on her, but it will be because she is helping you get your stress out ... maybe not yell at her or anything lol but use some emotion, because that is a really reallly good way to release stress.. then after those 10-15 min eat a big bowl of ice cream, go for a walk, watch a movie... something that you will enjoy, and remember it is just a job... your family is so much more important!...
Anyways, I so hope that helps you out, i completely understand what you are going through!... if you want me to explain things better just repost and tell me, or email me _[removed]_ :-) good luck with your wife, I will be praying for you both, and for your job.
My husband HATES HIS JOB!!!... I am a stay at home wife(I dont know if your wife is or not...) but when my hunny comes home I want attention.. and I need to learn to give my husband space... and she needs to give you space...
If you are so stressed out at work she needs to make you be able to relax and give you a good rest of the day.. jsut like I am learning to do. You are out supporting your family and you come home and put up with your wifes bs because you are so stressed out and she is pissed about that!?.... That is EXACTLY how I look at it now... But you need to talk to your wife, tell her that you need peace... tell her you are worried about your job.. and if it is so stressful start looking for another job!.. Becuase your job is not as important as your family... If it has to do with the money, I understand.. my husband makes really good money for no college experience... but he is still looking...
You really need to find something to do w/ your wife, once a day... even if it is 20 min together to relax and have a nice time together... take a shower together, play a game, make dinner together, if you have kids, take them outside to play and just relax...
Also, you need to talk about the stress you are having at work, i know your wife probably wants you to keep it to yourself and not talk about work but it will make things worse... you need to talk about your stress with her... even if you just take 10 min and just get pissed and rage and yell (let her know you are going to do this at first before you do it) but you can get it out of your system and then you wont take it out on your boss or her ... well you will take it out on her, but it will be because she is helping you get your stress out ... maybe not yell at her or anything lol but use some emotion, because that is a really reallly good way to release stress.. then after those 10-15 min eat a big bowl of ice cream, go for a walk, watch a movie... something that you will enjoy, and remember it is just a job... your family is so much more important!...
Anyways, I so hope that helps you out, i completely understand what you are going through!... if you want me to explain things better just repost and tell me, or email me _[removed]_ :-) good luck with your wife, I will be praying for you both, and for your job.