I've read a lot about this online, but I feel that specific details can really change the outcome. My boyfriend and I were dry humping, things got heated and everything came off except underwear. After it was over I noticed he had leaked through his underwear, the spot was about the size of a small palm. I was wet, but the outside of my underwear were only damp, so I don't think it was from him. We're both in college, but pre marital sex is frowned upon by both of our families, which has lead to this. Could I be pregnant? I tend to obsess over things when I can't get an immediate answer, and I've been freaking myself out. This was sunday.
Dear Immrad
You are right that specific details can change the outcome. But you are light on detail.
You are hardly likely to be pregnant after only 5 days. You are not pregnant until a fertilised egg has implanted, which is at least 6 days after fertilisation, and usually 9. The question really is: Are you likely to get pregnant? It is highly unlikely.
A sperm is needed to fertilise and egg. But it can only swim; it cannot walk or crawl. So it needs liquid semen to swim in. Clothing usually absorbs semen, leaving sperm stranded. Furthermore, sperm are tiny, and would have difficulty swimming through fabric, unless it is open-weave (like lace). Your wetness and his emission would be sufficient for the sperm to find its way into your vagina, but it would have to travel through two layers of underwear. The outside of your underwear was only damp - sperm needs more than dampness to swim.
Furthermore, you would have had to have ovulated this week for the chance to get pregnant. A released egg is only viable for about 24 hours, and sperm will only live for 5 days inside a woman's body, However, you don' give the date of your last period, nor do you state the length of your cycle to see if this has any relevance.
I don't think, from what you have said, that there is much chance you could get pregnant from that encounter. However, you need to be careful. When thing 'get heated' the 'urge to merge' can easily take over. This is the natural process.
What are the cultural and religious implications? Where do you come from?
Abstaining from sexual intercourse before marriage has much to commend it. Pre-marital sex can undermine a future marriage. Sexual intercourse is not just further sexual intimacy. It is a bonding agent, so necessary in marriage.
I hope this helps settle your fears for now, and also helps equip you for the future.
Take Care. If I can help further, please ask.
Dear Immrad
If your last period started on 19 Oct, you would likely ovulate Sunday 4th Nov, and your period would be expected to start 18th Nov. Your first fertile day was probably 31st Oct.
The earliest to take a pregnancy blood test is possibly 15th Nov, but for the home 'pee test' I would not trust a negative test to be accurate until after the next period is due, and hasn't arrived.
Yes, I have heard of people getting pregnant without genital contact. It can happen by ejaculating near the vagina or sperm on a hand transferring it to the vagina, for instance. But I feel confident you should be ok this time.
If you want to chat about this further, please feel free to do so. Privately if you prefer, although in public others can benefit.
Hope this helps