A week ago I found out I was pregnant!! I am 24, I have just started my new job in management, I have signed for a morgage (with my partner) and the house will be built in 6-12months. I don't yet know how far I am along! But will find out on Monday. I am stuck to if I want the child or don't!!
Before I ever had the thought of being pregnant, I thought because for five years I had never be able to, I had given up the thought to consider the thought of children and was quite anti them. And the thought of abortion would have been easy!! YES!!
Now that has all changed!!
I am and my heart wants to keep it sooo badly... but our lifestyle says no... if it were 6-8month down the track I had found out then I would have had no quams... But now I am struggling... my partner lives 1hour away.. I am living with my granddad so I can work and weekend I travel to his and spend the weekend there...
My heart is breaking and I don't know what to do...
THe choice needs to made Monday... :-(
And I don't know what to choose, please someone help me.
I just feel if I go through with it, my partner is going to have to pay the morgage and pay for the both of us... and I can't think of any way I could help other than be a burdon... :-(
Before I ever had the thought of being pregnant, I thought because for five years I had never be able to, I had given up the thought to consider the thought of children and was quite anti them. And the thought of abortion would have been easy!! YES!!
Now that has all changed!!
I am and my heart wants to keep it sooo badly... but our lifestyle says no... if it were 6-8month down the track I had found out then I would have had no quams... But now I am struggling... my partner lives 1hour away.. I am living with my granddad so I can work and weekend I travel to his and spend the weekend there...
My heart is breaking and I don't know what to do...
THe choice needs to made Monday... :-(
And I don't know what to choose, please someone help me.
I just feel if I go through with it, my partner is going to have to pay the morgage and pay for the both of us... and I can't think of any way I could help other than be a burdon... :-(
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now if you have a abortion its a perment decision, you can't go back in time a change it. I am the type of person that is all about the choice for women. But i can tell you from experience,( i had an abortion a few years back), and i miss the heck out of my baby. i was only 6 weeks and 4 days when i had it done. the heart was beating!!it broke my heart and now about 6 years later im still hunted by what i did. You have to be able to live with what you are about to do. Talk to you partner and get his imput, it is his baby too. and no you wont be a burdon, yall both layed in the bed and you know what. :-D .
you can still have your man, your child, you job, and new house. Babies don't stop your plans just make them more interesting and fun.
Now im 19 I have a 5 month old son. i love him to death. i dont know what i would do without him. now that he is here it seem like i have known him forever. Im in college, (i made the president's list- thats all A's). I have a job,im in the army, and im a single mother. I get no help, but i still make it on my on. It gets hard sometimes, but it is all worth it every time i look in his eyes i get so happy. I know i made the right choice to keep him,and the right choice to abort my last child. the choice is yours to make. just make sure you can live with it. you don't know the future this may be your only chance to have a child or maybe you will be like my friend and have a abortion and just months after get pregnant again with twins. (she's keeping the twins,)
you can still have your man, your child, you job, and new house. Babies don't stop your plans just make them more interesting and fun.
Now im 19 I have a 5 month old son. i love him to death. i dont know what i would do without him. now that he is here it seem like i have known him forever. Im in college, (i made the president's list- thats all A's). I have a job,im in the army, and im a single mother. I get no help, but i still make it on my on. It gets hard sometimes, but it is all worth it every time i look in his eyes i get so happy. I know i made the right choice to keep him,and the right choice to abort my last child. the choice is yours to make. just make sure you can live with it. you don't know the future this may be your only chance to have a child or maybe you will be like my friend and have a abortion and just months after get pregnant again with twins. (she's keeping the twins,)
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I realize this might be a bit late...but I'was in your same position. I say follow your heart. I'm also pro choice...but a lot of people forget that one of those choices is to keep the baby.
You are not alone. Talk to your partner, your family, your work, your doctor. You need to take into consideration...will you have this choice again? If you were already having problems with fertility...abortions don't make them any easier. People all around the world make it work...you can too if you wish. I did. It wasn't easy, but in the long run...it was worth it. I can't imagine life without my daughter.
If you were younger or in better fertile health...well, I would still say think hard on both choices...but in your case, well, these feelings are a wake up call...having the child now might be the easier choice other then finding out later you will have to take a long and expensive path to fertility clinics or adoption (which can be very expensive).
You said that in six to eight months this would be a definite yes. Six to eight months really isn't much time at all, is it?. And a baby normally gives you nine months to prepare...so, think on this.
I wish you the best of luck.
You are not alone. Talk to your partner, your family, your work, your doctor. You need to take into consideration...will you have this choice again? If you were already having problems with fertility...abortions don't make them any easier. People all around the world make it work...you can too if you wish. I did. It wasn't easy, but in the long run...it was worth it. I can't imagine life without my daughter.
If you were younger or in better fertile health...well, I would still say think hard on both choices...but in your case, well, these feelings are a wake up call...having the child now might be the easier choice other then finding out later you will have to take a long and expensive path to fertility clinics or adoption (which can be very expensive).
You said that in six to eight months this would be a definite yes. Six to eight months really isn't much time at all, is it?. And a baby normally gives you nine months to prepare...so, think on this.
I wish you the best of luck.
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