i am a 22year old who has for the past 2 year not enjoyed my right as a man because of masturbation i imagine ,i can not have sex with a girl for more than 30 seconds during first round or 2nd ,3rd non....sometimes i just come even before the girl strips ,sometime after that coming i cnt have another erection ........
Hey, you are not the only male that has problems with this, it is very common and you will have to work at it to release the tension associated. Sex can be very exhilarating but can also be very stressful and I don't know why but it seems more so to the male than females, I do believe it is due to the amount of pressure to 'getting it right' that most guys 'fail'.
If you are not doing one-night stands and in a relationship, your relationship should be built on trust, honesty and communication. Sex needs ALL of these. Also, the guy does not have to 'do all the work', it takes two to tango. You can get the female to help out in any way that would make you more comfortable. You should focus on more foreplay arousal especially for the female so that she is sexually satisfied as well and this builds up to a more comfortable sexual position later on. A couple of times for foreplay without you 'coming' will help to build up your stamina too, let the evening be your guide. Never rush sex; it takes time, thoughtfulness and playfulness.
If you know that you are going to have sex maybe you should relax on the masturbation or save it for your foreplay. It IS sexy watching a male/female masturbate together. While you masturbate without sex though you should be working at stemming your ejaculation longer and longer each time, when you feel that you are about to come, stop and relax. Go do something else and focus on that activity for a length of time, then go back to masturbating again to that point - do this a few times you masturbate and this will help prolong the length of ejaculation with your partner.
Hope this helps and good luck!
thank you for that advice though i should mention that i have tried some the few points/guidelines you have written down but it seems i just cant prolong mu performance ...
It'll take longer than one day to get this down. It takes time to learn things and for your body to respond to the way you want it to.
I think you are blaming masturbation for something that has nothing to do with that. If anything, masturbation should help to slow your response. face it, you are just a turned on critter. It may take years for you to dull your response to a female.
I was like that when I got married. I would come as soon as my penis felt the warmth of it's happy place or even before it got near it. To satisfy my wife our solution was for me to work on her with my face until she had her orgasm. Sometimes I did it with my fingers but we both preferred using my tongue. Then I could enter her and it didn't matter if I came right away because the most important thing, her satisfaction, had been done. Often I would come while eating her and we would have to wait for me to get hard again for me to get in, or just forget about that part.
With years of practice we got it down pretty good and could even time it so I could go inside just in time for us to come together. So you just need to keep working on doing this together for the best results. Remember the most important thing is that she is satisfied and has a great orgasm. You will never regret doing that for her. You can get one almost any time as you already know.
Gee now we have a spell correct that's like the one they joke about on phones. It changed "hor**y critter" to turned on critter.