Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 9 months. We have been through allot during this time. He lost his job, then I lost mine. We had a miscarriage right after I lost my job, a baby that we wanted. Since I was pregnant I noticed that he wasn't as interested in having sex, he didn't initiate it as much. After we lost the baby, our sex life sped up again, and dropped back down. He is very attentive to me. I get constant kisses and hugs and loving conversations, but hardly any sex. I try to ask him what is wrong, and why he doesn't want me anymore, and he replies that he does. I know we have been through a lot. But shouldn't the fact that he knows I want a more active sex life make him want to please me with that. I know he loves me, I know he isn't cheating on me, and I know he is wonderful to me. How do I get over this lasp, why is it happening, and what is going through his mind. I am so frustrated.
I have no idea what he is thinking. Most important thing is that you use birth control and don't get pregnant again until you know what he is thinking and you are married. Nine months isn't long, get to know him before taking risks that will cost a lifetime of grief. If he doesn't want sex, for whatever reason, he probably isn't who you want, you are either incompatible or he is having unreasonable mood swings about which he doesn't care to share the reasons. Be careful, you have your whole life ahead of you, don't waste it on a problematic relationship.