sex with an overweight woman

Sounds like a tough situation. Have worked with people in this same position and helped them. before you start working sexually he needs to be checked for testosterone level. Other medical problems could be the reason for his weight and lack of sexual desire. Treatment can be done with creams, pills and or injections. Once this starts to work he will desire sex and start to loose weight. Will sleep better and life will get much brighter. I would guess he is depressed as well. Meds will help fix this as well.

You can jump start him by prostate massage. Seek video help to show how. Watching porn and other things can spark his mind and help. One person told he she would masturbate so he could see each night. Would get him interested in sex period. Do not ask for sex, it will pressure him right now. Let him get desire going. From your description you would be turn a man on; So no feeling there is something wrong with you. In time this could clear up and start your sex life off right. Oral sex will help and if you give make sure he gives back. It could lead to intercourse later. As for positions, bes for his size is dog style. One man of 600 lbs had a GF and wife. He sure could not mount either of these women. if he laid down the pressure would cause breathing problems. So on his knees have him pick up the belly and you back up to him. Will work and allows both to move and work for satisfaction. If he pops quick get him some thick condoms and finish you first.

If I can help with further info just ask. I wish you both well.

I second that! I like to grab thighs and buttocks as I burry my face in a fat cat

im 5'8 250 42DD husband is 6'4" 150.we also love the positions mentioned. another i like is where i am on my back... he is on his side perpendicu;ar to me one leg is between his legs and other is over his side.. or held in the air... its a nice easy once that we have found, because i have troubles with my hips. it allows deep penetration and isnt a ton of work for him. i also enjoy doggy but putting one leg up... like one foot on the ground and one knee.. also helps with deep penetration and is just a twist on boring old doggy!

Being a big girl myself I've experimented with loads of different positions and there's a few I love and my bf really enjoy aswell, reverse cowgirl as gotta be the easiest and most orgasmic position so far I originally had a few problems with this and cowgirl position because I kept getting cramp in my legs (sounds stupid but hurt alot lol) i realised its because my partner was so skinny so I asked him of I could put a pillow under his bum and omg now it blows our mind ;) Also missionary again we used a pillow under my bum and he slips inside me so deep it always makes me scream out. We also very much enjoy sofa sex where he's sat there and I lower myself ontop of him (need a comfy sturdy sofa for this) again goes in really deep and he gets the full benefit of my huge breasts bouncing in his face... It really don't matter what size u are u just have to find ways to work around it Im a very large girl and my partner is very tall and skinny and we have mind blowing sex and foreplay!

I really feel there are more differences between people than categories of people.   Take 50 skinny women and 50 chubby women and you'll find just as many differences in the skinny women regarding what they prefer, as you would between the skinny and chubby women.   Some will prefer big guys some small, big penises vs small, men who can dominate them vs not, some who prefer position A, some who hate position A....

I've had relationships with very small petite women and those who'd be classified as chubby to BBW.  From what I've found it comes down to the person and how we click, or don't click.   I'm a big guy, 6'3" muscular and now 55, and for better or worse, rather "endowed".  Some women have found this a turn on, some a turn off!!  We've made love in a variety of positions and I've haven't found one position I could do with a skinny woman that a chubbier lady couldn't!   Ok.. while standing and holding her while we made love, I was able to last a lot longer when she was 5'2 and 100 lbs vs my lover who was 250, but we still did it, and she loved it, if for no other reason than the novelty!  

My current lover is an absolutely beautiful woman who is 5'4, about 250 or so, (she won't divulge that to me), has a very high sex drive, willing to experiment, we are absolutely nuts over each other and we're having the best sex of our lives, and at our age we've both been around the block a few times!!   Its slow and romantic, its hot lusty and passionate, its always different, and we can't keep our hands off each other.  We've tried just about every position we've seen or heard and never had any problems.  Our favorite?   Good old missionary... I can be deep inside her, maximum body contact, and best of all we can look into each other's eyes which makes it super intense and watch each other as we orgasm........

So don't worry so much about whether she's fat or skinny, or big tits or not, or blonde or brunette.... forget whether or not you prefer tall or short... and what position will or not work.  Want to find out?  Make love and try different things.   So one doesn't work?  Oh gee... isn't that too bad... SO GO TRY SOMETHING ELSE!    Keep yourself open to everyone.... see who clicks with you and then hold on for the best relationship and sex you've had! 

 

 I am 18 years old and I have a two year old son <vaginal delivery> . I weigh about 340 pounds and am 5 feet 3 , my fiance is about my same hieght and he weighs 120 pounds which is a big diffrence... before the baby I wasnt so big , i weighed 250  but pregnacy got to me.... Anyway we have been together for 6 years and every time i have wanted to lose some weight he says that he likes me how i am, and our sex life is good but i cant help not feeling completely satisfied. He, on the other hand always seems satisfied but i feel that my weight interferes with sex and the intensity of his pleasure... id like to feel we are both getting the  est of it..... how can i achieve this?

I am a big woman and also an amputee - that makes ballance a little challenging. I am 5'11" and 242 pounds (just weighed in today) I would love to lose weight for my health - but not for a man ... you have to be able to accept your partner as they are.

Want to appear more sexy if you are big? Self confidance ... and communication. There is no one thing if for everyone. Share fantasies, try new things ... sometimes you need to try something new that you would have never thought you would do before. Being willing to try new things can be a turn on. Oral, vaginal, titty F#ck, toys, or anal or anything else you can come up with. You have to be trusting enough to share desires and also trusting enough to try them out. Some people have more limitations than others- I think sincerity is also key. When you know that it is a sincere effort, well it's more of a turn on. Build up endurance ... Might wind up losing weight over trying to have fun ... Love is much more than the act of sex. And sex without love doesn't feel near as good as the full package.

Does size matter? I have had bigas 9" and as small as 5" but it's the combination of things for me - a big man going deep is pointless if he just does a "thrust ... thrust ... ahh" compared to a smaller man who is so gentle and loving and wants to make "love" and gets me out of my mind and cumming before he even penetrates me.

Big women may be challenging, but if there is sincere love - I think it's worth it.

 

(my 2 cents worth - peace, shalom, salam ...)

Im a chubby woman & my skinny boyfriend wants me to get on top for sex; and im scared cause im afraid im gonna hurt him. Any suggestion from either a man or woman whos has done it before?

Don't worry too much.... if you're hurting him, he'll let you know or you can tell by the expression on his face. If he stays hard and inside you, don't worry. I don't know a guy who is going to maintain an erection while in pain! Just start off slow and slowly increase your how fast and hard you ride him. You'll figure it out. Don't worry... guys are a lot tougher than you may imagine! Even skinny ones...

Besides, you say HE WANTS you to! You maybe missing out on some great sex, so give it a try, you won't hurt him and its not comfortable, so what? You tried it and you can go back to other positions.

My lover was hesitant about mounting me, but she finally did. While I'm not heavy, I am fairly muscular and a big guy, so I wasn't worried about her "hurting" me. So after a lot of encouragement from me, she LOVES it. She can control the speed and depth and then she can rock back an forth and rub her clit against me and she loves it. I love it too as I can run my hands over her thighs, tummy, breasts.. and just watch her face as she drives herself NUTS. When I cum, its so intense for me, I have literally lifted her off the bed, which she does enjoy and never expected.

So just take it easy and give it a try... the worst that happens is it doesn't work and you go back to a position that does... Have fun!

The main thing about making love to a big woman is....know her likes and dislikes? Yes it does depend on the size of a woman but big women are just like any other. You need to know how to please her to please yourself. Ask her questions, and try new things. The worst thing some men do when it comes to having sex is>>>Do it as they do in porn movies!!! That's all acting...they stop and reposition and stop again before they get the right shot. Just because it looks easy don't mean it's going to be easy. Learn her body, how she moves, is she flexable, what's her favorite position? Is she secure with herself? Do you show her how sexy she is? Remember a fat woman is not just about boobs, vigina & butt. Touch her everywhere, make love to her body, enjoy her fat rolls if she has them, show her that every inch of her is loved. I'm a big woman and when man touches, kisses & licks me all over, I'm so turned on and ready to burst. Hope this helps a bit! Bless and enjoy!

Hun, you need more fore play. So many people don't realize that there are some amazing sex toys out there that can curl your toes and also give him satisfaction that he helped please you. Nothing is more sexier then a man who's willing to use a sex toy on his woman. Be realistic when you buy them. Don't buy toys too big or way bigger then your mans size. Your G-spot is only about 2.5-4 inches inside your vigina depending on you. So make sure it'll reach it, learn your body as well, use the toy yourself. pleasure yourself infront of your man. Let him watch you. Enjoy yourselves more often. Flirt outside the bedroom. Call him at work when you know it's safe while you're materbating and come for him on the phone. Then tell him you can't wait to please him when he gets home...things like that can add so much to your sex life. Sex is not just physical it's emotional. Make love to eachother minds. You won't be disappointed.

Well hello I am a female on the plus size and the same here I have a new boyfriend well for a year and he is crazy about me I really never had a problem with my man when it come to sex but for me it would be another thing I love sex and like you said a woman will love you for you I am a plus size chick and very flexible and willing to do everything a skinny girl can and more so just have fun oh yeah also if she loose then have sex but also play with her anal I know that work for females before I am one of the luck ones I can have sex and feel like a vagina in a minute but anyways have fun and enjoy.

I love having sex with thick ladies to me it is better to look at the boobs and booty and her on top, doggy, or sissor style is all good to her because she has no problem sharing how it feels and lets me know back that I do the job good! All the other ladies I have been with just plain didn't know how to tell the other person during sex if it's good bad or great!

I am a large woman and my boyfriend is a bit smaller than I am, lately it's been awkward to have sex because he doesn't have the strength to handle sex for a long time (his stamina is fine though) it's just that he gets tired and worn out really quick. We've tried positions people have said would work but it just ended up being uncomfortable for me. As many of you have given great tips and insight on this situation, I feel that I don't have the confidence to try new things because I'm self- conscious. How can I satisfy both him and I and still feel sexy doing it?