My Subject Title says it all.... yet my concern is if there is any psycho-sexual problem related to having the surgery.... I read that if the patient was too young to remember the surgery, that his body image and sexual attitudes would develop normally. I am the mother and at the time of the surgery 18 years ago I did ask the dr.
at what age should I tell my son he had the hypospadia surgery. He actually said this: "Why would you tell him?" I said because it is part of his medical history and if congenital he may have a child with it. I was shocked to be given such advice as Dont' Ask Don't Tell! I have concerns that my son is in college and still does not go on dates and has a severe reaction to me asking why? It could be totally unrelated but I worry that if I do and say nothing... and there is some oddity or scaring on his penis from the surgery that he is suffering needlessly if he could have and explanation or additional correction. I was assured at the time of surgery that the healing was excellent and no further concern was needed.... but.... I don't like this secrecy if indeed he needs the help now.
I welcome comments from any male that was told about his surgery after the age of 10. Was it a shock? Or were you able to adjust or was it no big deal? Btw, as his mom, I would have his father discuss it with him...that much I have figured out. Thanks for any help.
at what age should I tell my son he had the hypospadia surgery. He actually said this: "Why would you tell him?" I said because it is part of his medical history and if congenital he may have a child with it. I was shocked to be given such advice as Dont' Ask Don't Tell! I have concerns that my son is in college and still does not go on dates and has a severe reaction to me asking why? It could be totally unrelated but I worry that if I do and say nothing... and there is some oddity or scaring on his penis from the surgery that he is suffering needlessly if he could have and explanation or additional correction. I was assured at the time of surgery that the healing was excellent and no further concern was needed.... but.... I don't like this secrecy if indeed he needs the help now.
I welcome comments from any male that was told about his surgery after the age of 10. Was it a shock? Or were you able to adjust or was it no big deal? Btw, as his mom, I would have his father discuss it with him...that much I have figured out. Thanks for any help.
The real question is why you waited until he was so old that it's become too awkward to talk about? Now you don't know IF he has any problem. If not, there should be little need to discuss it (because it was successfull). If he does, then you created a dilemma.