Um, yes. I am 15 and a sophmore in high school. I have this guy friend who has been my friend since last year.
We aren`t going out, but we did "stuff" after school. Then I decided to stop doing that because we weren`t dating.
One time he asked me if we could have sex, and I said no because I wasn`t gonna give up my virginity that easily. Then a week later he asked if I wanted to go to his house. I knew his intentions. I`m not going to lie, but I did consider it (because it would have been right after school, school let out early, I would be using public bus to get home that day, my parents would be working, and my brother wouldnt have noticed There would have been no way I would have gotten caught.) I still declined.
I have my moments in wich Ill be home alone, and I consider calling him over. Then my rationality returns.
The reason I consider it is because I havent had a serious boyfriend in a long time, and I dont have much hope for my future Im afraid this will be the only chance I`ll ever get. [I dont want to be a virgin forever!!!] Also, he is very atractive, and REALLY good at what he does.
please I need advice!
p.s. He is 17 and quite experienced.
We aren`t going out, but we did "stuff" after school. Then I decided to stop doing that because we weren`t dating.
One time he asked me if we could have sex, and I said no because I wasn`t gonna give up my virginity that easily. Then a week later he asked if I wanted to go to his house. I knew his intentions. I`m not going to lie, but I did consider it (because it would have been right after school, school let out early, I would be using public bus to get home that day, my parents would be working, and my brother wouldnt have noticed There would have been no way I would have gotten caught.) I still declined.
I have my moments in wich Ill be home alone, and I consider calling him over. Then my rationality returns.
The reason I consider it is because I havent had a serious boyfriend in a long time, and I dont have much hope for my future Im afraid this will be the only chance I`ll ever get. [I dont want to be a virgin forever!!!] Also, he is very atractive, and REALLY good at what he does.
please I need advice!
p.s. He is 17 and quite experienced.
Not real good reasons for having sex.
Unless you actually really want to have sex, and with this person, let rationality take charge.
No hurry to loose your virginity is there? It's not like a status symbol or anything.
But if you actually seriously want to have sex, and are very clear and honest with the guy as to why, no reason why he shouldn't be your first, either. Is there "chemistry" between you? Do you feel at all turned on thinking about him or being with him?
If there's no chemistry, it's unlikely to be a Big Bang, and may disappoint.
Unless you actually really want to have sex, and with this person, let rationality take charge.
No hurry to loose your virginity is there? It's not like a status symbol or anything.
But if you actually seriously want to have sex, and are very clear and honest with the guy as to why, no reason why he shouldn't be your first, either. Is there "chemistry" between you? Do you feel at all turned on thinking about him or being with him?
If there's no chemistry, it's unlikely to be a Big Bang, and may disappoint.
Mello, i had to sort of snicker when you said, "i don't want to be a virgin forever" i am not minimizing your concerns but at 15, in my opinion you should still have your virginity intact. Tho i am talking out the other side of my mouth as i lost my virginity at the exact age that you are, i wish i didn't. Holding on to your virginity in this day and age is a feat in itself, meaning it's hard to do.
This kid won't ask you to be his girl, but he wants to gain the benefits that go with a committed relationship, in other words, he wants to get his rocks off because you are available and he knows your almost ready to give it up to him. He knows that if he keeps pestering you, you will soon give him what he wants. Then what? There are a million emotions tied into it when a young lady looses her virginity, fear, anxiety, sadness, regret, and sometimes happiness. You want to share your emotions with that special person, but i don't think he would be to interested in your feelings. Friend or no friend, he wants what he wants and he has already made that clear to you.
Once good friends take it to the next level, the dynamics change drastically, it could go either way. He may be very cute, but how do you know that he is REALLY good at what he does? Does he get around and there fore you are hearing feedback from his accomplishments?
Don't give in to someone because they are really attractive, or because you just can not stand the thought of leaving this world with your womanhood still intact. Trust me hon, you WILL NOT die a virgin and you will not die if you remain a virgin for how ever long it takes not to be. As far as your future goes, my gosh girl, your future is wide open, your only 15!!
Be 15, do what 15 year olds do, hang with your friends, keep your school work up, socialize and stop thinking that your gonna just wither up and disappear because you still remain a virgin. Being a virgin is kool and when you find that special person, you are going to want to give yourself to him with no mind baggage, you want it to be special and sweet and you will always, always always remember your first sexual experience. This is a memory that when it passes thru your mind it makes you smile, not grimace and wish that it never happened.
You'll be fine and you don't need to loose your virginty to someone like this because you need to feel complete. Just relax and it will happen at the right time with the right person.
This kid won't ask you to be his girl, but he wants to gain the benefits that go with a committed relationship, in other words, he wants to get his rocks off because you are available and he knows your almost ready to give it up to him. He knows that if he keeps pestering you, you will soon give him what he wants. Then what? There are a million emotions tied into it when a young lady looses her virginity, fear, anxiety, sadness, regret, and sometimes happiness. You want to share your emotions with that special person, but i don't think he would be to interested in your feelings. Friend or no friend, he wants what he wants and he has already made that clear to you.
Once good friends take it to the next level, the dynamics change drastically, it could go either way. He may be very cute, but how do you know that he is REALLY good at what he does? Does he get around and there fore you are hearing feedback from his accomplishments?
Don't give in to someone because they are really attractive, or because you just can not stand the thought of leaving this world with your womanhood still intact. Trust me hon, you WILL NOT die a virgin and you will not die if you remain a virgin for how ever long it takes not to be. As far as your future goes, my gosh girl, your future is wide open, your only 15!!
Be 15, do what 15 year olds do, hang with your friends, keep your school work up, socialize and stop thinking that your gonna just wither up and disappear because you still remain a virgin. Being a virgin is kool and when you find that special person, you are going to want to give yourself to him with no mind baggage, you want it to be special and sweet and you will always, always always remember your first sexual experience. This is a memory that when it passes thru your mind it makes you smile, not grimace and wish that it never happened.
You'll be fine and you don't need to loose your virginty to someone like this because you need to feel complete. Just relax and it will happen at the right time with the right person.
My opinion no you shouldnt give your virginity to this guy. And may reasons are one if you say hes (quite experienced) then that can only mean one thing he is a man w****. Sorry to break it to you but that is what this guy sounds like. If you have sayed no this many times then follow your conscience and dont change your mind now. Keep your virginity. I was 15 when i lost mine and now i have a 10 month old baby and i dont get to hang out with friends or go get to spend quality time with my husband like we used too. And from the way your talking this guy just wants a peice of ass and he wants a virgin so he came brag to his friends about. So dont do it ok trust me there is a guy out there for you and you will find him and you will be so releived when you find that guy and you give him your virginity and he stays with you then you think it was all worth it.
so wait for the guy that......
1. Brags about your eyes to his friends.
2. Will still love you and cuddle you when your wearing sweats and no makeup.
3. Says ill wait till your ready then we will try.
4. Holds your hand and blows off his friends to just see you and touch you.
5. One that respects your boundaries and is willing to wait years for you.
Just think about it ok!!!!! XD :-)
so wait for the guy that......
1. Brags about your eyes to his friends.
2. Will still love you and cuddle you when your wearing sweats and no makeup.
3. Says ill wait till your ready then we will try.
4. Holds your hand and blows off his friends to just see you and touch you.
5. One that respects your boundaries and is willing to wait years for you.
Just think about it ok!!!!! XD :-)
Seems like this guy is in it for the sex. There are guys out there that will play you take your virginity just like they took many others' just to turn around and look for the next. You said he is quite experienced, that is not a good thing. It just proves that he is a man w**** that would not think twice to get what he wants from you and then go on to the next woman (or girl in this case).
Your virginity is really special and make sure you give it to someone who will treat you right and you think is special enough to take it. My girlfriend lost hers to a guy who treated her nice for about a year. This was when she was going through a stage where she looked awkward and thought no other guy would like her. After he got what he wanted he went back to his life, back to his friends, back to being a jerk guy. The relationship went downhill fast and he started cheating on her with different women. She was 15 and he was 17. He knew that she had invested so much (invested her virginity) and therefore it would be hard for her to leave him, so he cheated, abused, and didn't care about her.
She has now bloomed into a beautiful girl who gets hit on where ever she goes and guys compliment me on my girlfriend all the time. Now she regrets ever giving it to her ex as do I. I think about it atleast once a week and it bothers me a lot. Think about your future and think about the perfect man. That is who you want to give it to. At the age of 15, it may seem like you need to be sexually active but it is not a race. Take your time and find the perfect man.
This may be in weeks or years. But make sure the person you choose will treat you like a princess before and after the deed. Make sure he is the guy that won't change. Look at his track record. In this case, this is the absolute wrong guy to lose it to.
Your virginity is really special and make sure you give it to someone who will treat you right and you think is special enough to take it. My girlfriend lost hers to a guy who treated her nice for about a year. This was when she was going through a stage where she looked awkward and thought no other guy would like her. After he got what he wanted he went back to his life, back to his friends, back to being a jerk guy. The relationship went downhill fast and he started cheating on her with different women. She was 15 and he was 17. He knew that she had invested so much (invested her virginity) and therefore it would be hard for her to leave him, so he cheated, abused, and didn't care about her.
She has now bloomed into a beautiful girl who gets hit on where ever she goes and guys compliment me on my girlfriend all the time. Now she regrets ever giving it to her ex as do I. I think about it atleast once a week and it bothers me a lot. Think about your future and think about the perfect man. That is who you want to give it to. At the age of 15, it may seem like you need to be sexually active but it is not a race. Take your time and find the perfect man.
This may be in weeks or years. But make sure the person you choose will treat you like a princess before and after the deed. Make sure he is the guy that won't change. Look at his track record. In this case, this is the absolute wrong guy to lose it to.
I agree with everyone else. There is a reason you have the doubt you are having. You know inside that he only wants to have sex with you to have sex...nothing more. NOW - there is nothing wrong with that if you are ok with it, and it is nothing more than sex for you as well. But I think you are looking for more than that, especially for your 1st time!
You have PLENTY of time to lose your virginity. There is no rush - no time table you have to follow. You need to do it when it's right for YOU, and ONLY you! AND - you need to deicide what you want that moment to be like. Should it be just sex? If so...cool. Should it be an amazing unforgettable moment with someone who is very special to you? Or - do you want it to be somewhere in between those two?
There is no hurry here, so think about it before you make a decision. The one thing that is a fact - you can never go back an un-do it once you make the decision!
Good luck!
You have PLENTY of time to lose your virginity. There is no rush - no time table you have to follow. You need to do it when it's right for YOU, and ONLY you! AND - you need to deicide what you want that moment to be like. Should it be just sex? If so...cool. Should it be an amazing unforgettable moment with someone who is very special to you? Or - do you want it to be somewhere in between those two?
There is no hurry here, so think about it before you make a decision. The one thing that is a fact - you can never go back an un-do it once you make the decision!
Good luck!
im also 15 and i lost my virginity a few weeks ago...now i might have an infection, std,or i might be prego cause im showing symtoms of all 3....so in my opinion i think you should wait
im 15 to, and if you like him, then yes!, but if you think that the second e does it, he wont talk to you then no....
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If you want to then do it .. Just use protection as always !! I lost mine at 14 and I have no regrets .. But if he turns you on then yeah
You're just scared .... Relax kid