im 16 yrs old ive been sexually active for a year now...sex was very painful for me untill my most recent partner now its very pleasurable but i cant seem 2 have an orgasm when i feel close i get scared or distracted...and i cant get there during intercourse or oral sex the only way i can achieve an orgasm through masturbation is it because im scared of intimacy? is something wrong with me? i RLLY need some advice
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Just relax dude, seriously, it'll happen if you just stop thinking about it too much. :-D
By the sounds of it you're simply putting too much pressure on yourself to orgasm..
But maybe you're not as attracted to your lover as you think you may be?
Or maybe you're not sure of your sexuality?
If so I'd leave them and stop leading them on, or if that's not possible it helps to just close your eyes and imagine something that really gets you going, imagine the most arousing thought possible, it could be a fantasy, or maybe you could pretend your doing it with somone else?
I wouldn't recommend this though because you'd probably end up hurting the other persons feelings etremely, but it does work.
But if you're sure about your sexuallity and you're attracted to your lover, then you just need to stop pressuring yourself and enjoy the ride 8)
And no; there's absolutely nothing wrong with you! :-D
This is completely normal, all you need to do is just chill out and let it happen!
By the sounds of it you're simply putting too much pressure on yourself to orgasm..
But maybe you're not as attracted to your lover as you think you may be?
Or maybe you're not sure of your sexuality?
If so I'd leave them and stop leading them on, or if that's not possible it helps to just close your eyes and imagine something that really gets you going, imagine the most arousing thought possible, it could be a fantasy, or maybe you could pretend your doing it with somone else?
I wouldn't recommend this though because you'd probably end up hurting the other persons feelings etremely, but it does work.
But if you're sure about your sexuallity and you're attracted to your lover, then you just need to stop pressuring yourself and enjoy the ride 8)
And no; there's absolutely nothing wrong with you! :-D
This is completely normal, all you need to do is just chill out and let it happen!
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Let me just say, you may have an issue with intimacy, but there is NOTHING wrong with you!
I'm 21, I've been sexually active since I was 14, and I have never climaxed from sex. I just recently was able to from oral, and that is only sometimes...other than oral once in a while, I can only orgasm from masturbation.
It only takes me about 1-3 minutes to climax by myself, but from oral (which just started getting me off about 7 monthes ago) it takes alot longer, and alot more effort! about 30-50 minutes! lol
Make sure you tell your boyfriend that you need you clit touched, not so much your vagina.
That was what I told my boyfriend before I came with him the first time.
Good luck sweetie.
and remember, it's just sex :)
I'm 21, I've been sexually active since I was 14, and I have never climaxed from sex. I just recently was able to from oral, and that is only sometimes...other than oral once in a while, I can only orgasm from masturbation.
It only takes me about 1-3 minutes to climax by myself, but from oral (which just started getting me off about 7 monthes ago) it takes alot longer, and alot more effort! about 30-50 minutes! lol
Make sure you tell your boyfriend that you need you clit touched, not so much your vagina.
That was what I told my boyfriend before I came with him the first time.
Good luck sweetie.
and remember, it's just sex :)
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