hi, im 16 and i've been having sex recently for the first time. my problem is, i cant stay erect and follow through while im having sex. I start fine, but it slowly stops and i dont ejaculate, leaving my partner unsatisfied. This problem stems back from when i was a kid. Since i started masterbating, i never did it the traditional way with my hands, but more of a dry humping way while laying down, without my hands. Over the years its like i've trained my body to masterbate like this, which im now realizing is bad and wrong. i dont know what the hell to do, this is a harsh and embarrassing reality check for me, and i dont see how i can change. ive been trying to masterbate more traditionally, but its not working for me. I hope someone can offer help here, or give me some advice.
I'm not saying that this will fix your problem.. but sex is 70% mental and 30% physical!!! If your worrying about your little problem, it's more than likely to happen. As for the masturbation technique, try using lots of lube. Good luck!!!
i masterbate that way and it is harder to finish as for staying hard make sure your not useing durex condoms i have had sex ruined cause of this they have desensitisers and i couldent even get it up after it was on
try diffrent things if you try it the "normal" way it will take alot of time to achieve and alot of time to get use to but at the age your at you should have the time on your hands personally im only 18 and from me doing it this way its gotten the top stretched out a little more then normal like a gizzard on a chicken LOL
i found this post while searching google to see if anyone else did it like this its kinda cool to see im not alone thought you would just like to know your not alone aswell hope you fix your problem but as the post before me says keep focused not on your problems but on the girl
try diffrent things if you try it the "normal" way it will take alot of time to achieve and alot of time to get use to but at the age your at you should have the time on your hands personally im only 18 and from me doing it this way its gotten the top stretched out a little more then normal like a gizzard on a chicken LOL
i found this post while searching google to see if anyone else did it like this its kinda cool to see im not alone thought you would just like to know your not alone aswell hope you fix your problem but as the post before me says keep focused not on your problems but on the girl
crazy...i just did the same thing on google to see if anyone else did it like this, ive always wondered, i just find it better cause you actually feel like your having sex....you get motion with the hips ect. i find it hard to use my hands now to jack off....however if i wait a long ass time and then jack off its easier....laying down and just rubbing your penis against a mattress...comforter etc is the way ive been doing it for years, also glad to find out i am not alone
try looking at porn
i masterbate in the way other than main stream style as well. i bend it so that the top side is against either the edge of a table, chair, or even a toilet seat already closed. i then lift my legs off the ground, and practically grind it, applying full body pressure to my penis. then, i swiftly move my thighs back and forth until i eventually climax. is this the similiar problem at hand, or do i have an altogether different one? i can not then climax in the normal masterbation style and i have sex naturally up to hours upon hours without any luck of finishing. wish there could be some sort of medical help out there.
8-| i agree with some of these peoples statements but instead o thinkinabout problems and girls i relax and if that dont work i think about a m dream girl or the hottest girl in the school.
I find it troublesome that you are close enough with your partner to be physically intimate, but you don't feel close enough to share this problem with him/her. I would suggest being open and showing your partner what feels right for you. Chances are, your partner will be able to work around it. If you truly care for one another, you will want each other to get the maximum benefit from the act.
I don't mean to sound like I'm passing judgement, but I've encountered similar problems in my lifetime (24 years old). At times, I felt I was "doing it wrong," but I've learned that what feels right for me actually feels amazing to my partner.
Also, try googling "Coital Alignment Technique". It seems like your prefered positioning would be perfect for a female partner.
I don't mean to sound like I'm passing judgement, but I've encountered similar problems in my lifetime (24 years old). At times, I felt I was "doing it wrong," but I've learned that what feels right for me actually feels amazing to my partner.
Also, try googling "Coital Alignment Technique". It seems like your prefered positioning would be perfect for a female partner.
wow, im surprised. i also masturbate this way and i cant masturbate with my hands. i have always worried about masturbating this way. like i thought when im haveing sex will i cum?
Since I do it the "traditional" way, I really can't visualize what you guys are doing. What part are you stimulating when you do this? Seems like this might be a good technique to teach people who have issues with premature ejac as well.?. Can someone write it out in more detail?
I have the same problem. it started for me way before i even knew what it was. i ust to climb things and one time i put alota pressure on my penis and it felt rilly good. that was when i was about 6 or 7. since then i have been doing it that way up to 3 times a day and i cant stop. when i got older i found this isent how normal people masterbait. but iv been doing it that way for so long when i use my hands i dont feel anything at all. im rilly worried that when im with a girl i will exerience problems. i want to change the way i do it but it simply doesent work! please help me, i dont know how to change the way i do it.
Well i do the same thing, ever since i was 12 and was messing around and humped a pillow, it felt pretty good. Ever since then i have humped the floor or pillows. I am 17 now and have had a girlfriend for 3 years. i use this masturbation technique still today and even up to 3 times a day as well. it is very hard to stop. when me and my girl mess around she will sometimes rub up on me but i will still stay hard or even ejaculate. plus im fine when she is giving me oral sex and i can still remain hard. i am happy though im not the only one that does this technique. so you may have problems depending on who you are, but i am going to try and stop doing this way and try to somehow work back to the traditional way.
I am in the same boat.
How I always masturbated since I was really young was to grab a pillow, lie on the bed, put my penis on the side of my leg and hump the bed holding onto the pillow. Actually hump is a bad word to use that would imply I am bouncing up and down; it’s more using my hips and leg mussels to swish back and forth, up and down.
I have never been able to masturbate with my hands. I recently have been trying to have sex and as I feared it did not feel good at all. Now I am turned off by having real sex and I don’t know what to do.
How I always masturbated since I was really young was to grab a pillow, lie on the bed, put my penis on the side of my leg and hump the bed holding onto the pillow. Actually hump is a bad word to use that would imply I am bouncing up and down; it’s more using my hips and leg mussels to swish back and forth, up and down.
I have never been able to masturbate with my hands. I recently have been trying to have sex and as I feared it did not feel good at all. Now I am turned off by having real sex and I don’t know what to do.
My fiance has never masturb*ted using his hands, but we have amazing sex! Almost all sexual dysfunctions are mental, so don't worry about it. Sex with a partner should have little to do with the technique you use to jack yourself off ;-)
I do the same thing... i have been doing it since i was 5 or 6 unintentionally, but i did it bc it felt good.... i have been masturbating like this ever since and i cant stop :-/ whenever my girl gives me hand jobs my cum builds up and i dont cum and my penis gets fat idk what to do.. help?