Troubles with obtaning an erection.

Well. I'm a girl, but I can relate. I too also had some arousal problems with my man, and noticed that wen I thought about woman during sex or masterbation that it helped everytime. I wouldn't call myself a lesbian, but soon enough declared myself bi-sexual. And it is easier of course for me to break it to my bf that I am into woman, cause most men don't mind that kinda thing you kno? My advice, which seems wrong, but a white lie never hurt anybody. Try thinking about gay sex while your having sex with your girl, you know just until you can figure out the confusing time ur having. And it's not even really a lie, but something you can keep hidden in your own mind while having sex, like i said until you can figure out whats going on in this confusing time ur having. And I definitly think that your new found interest in checkin out the guys on sites or at work definitly has something to do with achieveing erection with your woman. Not sure if you mis-typed this,but if your really not attracted to your girl, then maybe it would be best for you to break it off. And who knows, and who cares, maybe u are into guys. People change, and it's totally accepted to be a guy whose into guys. And if your friends or family can't accept it, then find new friends who will, screw anyone who thinks it's not acceptable. No one needs someone around who makes them feel bad about who they are or who they wanna be, or who they wanna do..lol..and if you ever decide that it's okay to be gay, ur family might be a little unacceptive about it at first, but if they love you enough, they'll know ur just still their son, and always will be. Anyways, to break it off with your girl would be best, if your not that into her. It would help the both of you. She wouldn't have to wonder if she's too fat or ugly anymore, and would heal in time and find someone good for her. Again..not sure if you mis-typed, but you can re read it. Anyways good luck, and if you wanna talk somemore, im on here everyday, at least a couple times, so i can always get back to u. i dunno, i figure it's good to talk to someone who understands, so talk to u later...~Jill

you changed my life. i am now free to be who i truly am. i spend all the time with my girlfriend still but think shes a man. i drink beers all day long and tell myself im at a bar. with my man friend when shes around. when it comes to dinner time i just close my eyes and eat. and when the night comes to a end. i take a shower by my self and go into the room when its completly dark and scream out other mens names. shes doesnt understand it, but she knows it makes me feel good. so thanks for the advice me and patty are now much better, because i like to rub her belly like a pig.