I'm 19 and uncut. I have trouble scrubbing my glans in the shower because it doesn't hurt but it actually feels extremely great. I have to scrub it quickly or else I get woozie as if I'm going to pass out/collapse and ejaculate. Happens regardless if I scrub slowly or quickly. Also, I can't seem to last more than 2 minutes in bed unless going slow and steady. Its becoming somewhat of a nuisance. Fiance says she doesn't mind it, but truthfully it bothers the living hell out of me. Used to masturbate daily and several times a day in my teen years but not anymore. I stroke myself maybe once or twice a week but don't allow myself to ejaculate. Could this also be adding to it? Any help is much appreciated. Thank you.
You have a very sensitive glans, which isn't unusual for some uncircumcised men. I've had more than a few clients with the same condition. You'll notice I did NOT say "problem." My advice is to learn to EDGE yourself. That is to tease your penis to the point of orgasm and then stop. Do this a few times every hour or so. Over time you ought to be able to go for longer and longer periods without ejaculating. Most men actually TEACH THEMSELVES HOW TO CUM IN NANO SECONDS because during that early teenage masturbatory period we race into the bathroom before or after school and our goal is to get off as fast as possible....... otherwise our mother is banging at the door asking what we are doing.
THIS IS NO WAY TO LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY OR HOW IT FUNCTIONS. WHEN YOU TRAIN YOURSELF THIS WAY YOU GET TO A POINT WHERE ALL YOUR ORGASMS ARE FAST AND SUDDENLY WE HAVE THIS MAKE BELIEVE PROBLEM "PREMATURE EJACULATION." I refer to it as "make believe" because it's not something we were born with, but something we taught ourselves.
On top of all that, you have a super sensitive glans. Now it's time for you to learn to PLAY and TEASE yourself. Time to do everything that feels good except ejaculate.
If you were a client I'd have you get hard and to the edge of orgasm four to six times a day....... with one final time per day where you allow yourself to orgasm.
At first you're not going to be masturbating for long because you'll be ready to ejaculate in a very short time.
Here are some suggestions for lengthening your edging. Use silk cloth and let that "float" over your glans. NO RUBBING OR PUMPING OR ANYTHING ROUGH........ JUST THE GENTLE VERY AROUSING TEASING.
Your girlfriend can help. Explain what you're doing....... making sex fun again (it's no fun to orgasm after a few minutes even if you can do it five or six times). The really cool thing about edging is that you can learn to have long sex sessions with lots and lots of variations, only reaching orgasm when YOU CHOOSE after a few hours. Then you can dive back in for round two and another few hours of great fun.
Another masturbation, or sex toy you can use with your girlfriend, e.g. you can use a long silk scarf/cloth on both of you....... (she's gonna love playing with you), another household toy is a large link choke chain you'd normally use on a big dog. Dragging that cold hard chain over your chest, belly, nipples, scrotum, anus, back, legs, pits etc. is very arousing.
You will need to masturbate on your own because you know your body better than anyone and only YOU can stop yourself early on, without having lots of accidents.
Another thing that's fun is to buy a new cheap plastic shower curtain. Lay it out on your bed, tucked in tightly, and really oil your body up..... very oily........ you can use baby oil....... or olive oil......... NOTHING STINKY OR PERFUMED OR THAT IS TOO THICK. It feels very good to rub on your body when you're all oiled up.
When you're ready to add your girlfriend to this mix, just imagine the pleasure of slip-sliding over each other, She can get on top of you and just slide all over you. To lower your sensitivity wear two or three condoms. This will reduce the sensitivity of your glans.
REMEMBER: TO SLOW YOURSELF DOWN WHEN YOU PLAY WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND WEAR TWO OR THREE CONDOMS..... THICK ONES TO LOWER THE SENSATION FELT BY YOUR PENIS HEAD.
IF YOU WANT MORE POINTERS WRITE TO ME VIA "STEADY HEALTH"
The goal of what you MUST LEARN TO DO, is control your orgasm time. The only way to do that is to learn control through edging. You can use Yoga and breathing to lower your excitement, BUT you can also learn how to tease yourself for longer and longer periods by stopping every time you get close to climax. (I prefer edging to Yoga or to hypnosis.)
One more thing for all the males in general:
THEY CALL IT CLIMAX FOR A REASON!!!
It signals the END of the session. Climax should never be the goal of SEX. The ultimate goal should be FUN, and the way to have maximum FUN is to make it last and last and last; to learn all the different ways to stimulate yourself and your partner. To learn all the hundreds of games you can play like one night you wait on him/her, hand and foot, starting with meeting him/her at the door and stripping her/him naked, having a warm candle lit bath all ready. YOU bathe him/her using only your hands and some unscented soap with a little unscented shampoo for bath bubbles......... You don't use a washcloth so you can touch her/him all over....... every inch.
JUST REMEMBER THIS ISN'T TO GET YOU HOT, IT'S TO GET YOUR PARTNER HOT OR RELAXED OR WARM.
(you should wear a loin cloth or a bikini or nothing at all)....... and you shower/bathe before he/she gets home. You don't get in with him/her, even if he/she asks......... You simply explain you are his/her servant and it wouldn't be appropriate for you to get in.
Next you either eat or give him/her a great massage with lost of oil....... including a genital massage..... FOR HER/HIM........ NOT YOU (sure you may be obviously very VERY VERY EXCITED all night....... and that should get him/her all the more heated up...... seeing how turned on you are...... yet how you are DOING IT ALL FOR HIM/HER. This makes it all the more rewarding for both of you. During the evening you can say often....... "this is all for you baby....... all for you........ I hope I turn you on a tenth as much as you turn me on."
Tomorrow will be YOUR TURN, so bear that in mind when you really want to jump her/him.
After the massage you wear robes or nothing while you eat. (you keep ratcheting up the sexuality all night long, but the word for the night is CONTROL) He/She can touch you and tickle you and tease you, but you may not do anything overtly sexual FOR YOU. When you bathe him/her you can touch all her/his hot spots and do "more" of whatever they ask for. Same goes during the massage etc. And he/she, as I said, can get pleasure from teasing the heck out of you....... but you have to be a good servant and remain UNDER CONTROL.
THE SEX BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU COMES LATER. THAT CAN'T HAPPEN EARLY. THAT IS ONE THING THAT MUST WAIT. SEX SHOWS THE ULTIMATE CONTROL FOR THE EVENING. THAT IS BOTH YOUR GOAL. MAKE SURE TO TELL HIM/HER THAT AT THE START. USE THIS SET OF GUIDELINES AND HAVE HIM/HER READ THEM.
I'll often have the couple set a clock for "bed time" where they can finally have a very long, wonderfully drawn out, fantastic sex session...... full of home made sex toys (dragging a soup spoon all over the body feels amazing........ especially the nipples or the closed eyes,....... or the lips (take your pick)....... or the scrotum......... or up and down the butt crack.
After dinner...... one of his/her favorite movies/plays/operas (on DVD) so you can watch while drinking wine and while you rub her/his feet....... and/or suck them. Tonight the object of all your attention doesn't lift a finger. If he/she goes for your foot, you thank them but insist that this is their night and to save it for tomorrow.
At bedtime, it's all up to YOU again, since you will be pleasuring her/him....... AS LONG AND AS OFTEN AS THEY WANT....... AND I MEAN IT.
This is only one night in 365 different nights that you can plan.
You can begin with this one and continue on as you learn more and more control.
HOW DO YOU LEARN CONTROL?
YOU LEARN BY TEACHING YOURSELF HOW TO MASTURBATE, TILL YOU ARE ON THE EDGE AND THEN QUITTING. YOU USE DIFFERENT WAYS OF PLEASURING YOURSELF AND REMEMBER THEM WHEN YOU USE THEM ON YOUR PARTNER.
The dog chain, the silk scarves, the hair brush, and the soup spoon are all examples of home toys you can use when you masturbate. Just leave your glans alone except for now and then. When you reach the edge, draw back, then move to the other areas of your body.
We haven't even mentioned spanking........... or tying up your partner and teasing them.
Get spring loaded clothes pins and learn the thin line between pleasure and pain........ ALWAYS ACCENTUATING PLEASURE.
S&M gets boring because it rarely deals with REAL AFFECTION.
Domination and Submission can be a great joy because the Dom holds great affection and caring for his Submissive.
I could go on for hundreds of pages........ AND I HAVE.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
For now instead of less masturbation YOU NEED MORE......... just much less ejaculation.
YOU NEED TO LEARN CONTROL.
AT FIRST IT'S FRUSTRATING.......... THEN IT GETS CHALLENGING........ THEN IT BECOMES BLISSFUL
SO GET BUSY AND GET TO KNOW EVERY SQUARE MILLIMETER OF YOUR BODY........ EVERY HAIR........ HOW EVERY PART FEELS.
LIKE:
1. CAN YOU GET ERECT BY PLAYING WITH YOUR FEET? IF YOU SAY "NO" THEN YOU'RE NOT DOING IT PROPERLY. C'MON TRY!!!
2. CAN YOU FIND THE EROGENOUS ZONE BEHIND YOUR KNEE? TRY TOUCHING THE AREA LIGHTLY....... STOP PLAYING WITH YOURSELF LIKE YOUR SANDING THE PAINT OFF YOUR CAR GETTING READY FOR PRIMER.
3. WORK YOUR NIPPLES....... TICKLE, PINCH, PULL, TURN.......... SPIT ON THEM AND GENTLY TICKLE THEM WITH THE PALMS OF YOUR HANDS....... NOW TRY COMBINATIONS OF THE VARIOUS SENSATIONS.........
4. TRY THE CLOTHES PINS ON VARIOUS PARTS OF YOU. SEE HOW MANY YOU CAN FIT AROUND YOUR BELLY BUTTON. HOW MANY CAN YOU PUT ON YOUR FORESKIN?
I COULD GO ON AND ON BUT YOU'VE GOT PLENTY HERE TO ALTERNATE AND TRY........ AND WHEN YOU'RE WITH YOUR GIRL, GIVE HER YOUR BODY TO DO WITH AS SHE PLEASES......... INCLUDING TYING YOU UP.
ENJOY!!!!
NEVER FORGET MASTURBATION IS A PART OF YOUR LIFE......................... JUST NEVER RUSH IT.
IF YOU FEEL THE BURNING NEED TO MASTURBATE AT WORK, RUN INTO THE BATHROOM AND GET TO THE VERY EDGE, THEN QUIT AND GO BACK TO WORK. IN AN HOUR REPEAT THIS. IN AN HOUR OR TWO REPEAT.
TELL ME HOW MUCH YOU HATE WORK NOW!!!!!
GOOD LUCK......... IN A FEW MONTHS YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO HAVE SEX FOR A COUPLE/FEW HOURS ALL DECIDED BY YOU!!!!!
THIS IS NO WAY TO LEARN ABOUT YOUR BODY OR HOW IT FUNCTIONS. WHEN YOU TRAIN YOURSELF THIS WAY YOU GET TO A POINT WHERE ALL YOUR ORGASMS ARE FAST AND SUDDENLY WE HAVE THIS MAKE BELIEVE PROBLEM "PREMATURE EJACULATION." I refer to it as "make believe" because it's not something we were born with, but something we taught ourselves.
On top of all that, you have a super sensitive glans. Now it's time for you to learn to PLAY and TEASE yourself. Time to do everything that feels good except ejaculate.
If you were a client I'd have you get hard and to the edge of orgasm four to six times a day....... with one final time per day where you allow yourself to orgasm.
At first you're not going to be masturbating for long because you'll be ready to ejaculate in a very short time.
Here are some suggestions for lengthening your edging. Use silk cloth and let that "float" over your glans. NO RUBBING OR PUMPING OR ANYTHING ROUGH........ JUST THE GENTLE VERY AROUSING TEASING.
Your girlfriend can help. Explain what you're doing....... making sex fun again (it's no fun to orgasm after a few minutes even if you can do it five or six times). The really cool thing about edging is that you can learn to have long sex sessions with lots and lots of variations, only reaching orgasm when YOU CHOOSE after a few hours. Then you can dive back in for round two and another few hours of great fun.
Another masturbation, or sex toy you can use with your girlfriend, e.g. you can use a long silk scarf/cloth on both of you....... (she's gonna love playing with you), another household toy is a large link choke chain you'd normally use on a big dog. Dragging that cold hard chain over your chest, belly, nipples, scrotum, anus, back, legs, pits etc. is very arousing.
You will need to masturbate on your own because you know your body better than anyone and only YOU can stop yourself early on, without having lots of accidents.
Another thing that's fun is to buy a new cheap plastic shower curtain. Lay it out on your bed, tucked in tightly, and really oil your body up..... very oily........ you can use baby oil....... or olive oil......... NOTHING STINKY OR PERFUMED OR THAT IS TOO THICK. It feels very good to rub on your body when you're all oiled up.
When you're ready to add your girlfriend to this mix, just imagine the pleasure of slip-sliding over each other, She can get on top of you and just slide all over you. To lower your sensitivity wear two or three condoms. This will reduce the sensitivity of your glans.
REMEMBER: TO SLOW YOURSELF DOWN WHEN YOU PLAY WITH YOUR GIRLFRIEND WEAR TWO OR THREE CONDOMS..... THICK ONES TO LOWER THE SENSATION FELT BY YOUR PENIS HEAD.
IF YOU WANT MORE POINTERS WRITE TO ME VIA "STEADY HEALTH"
The goal of what you MUST LEARN TO DO, is control your orgasm time. The only way to do that is to learn control through edging. You can use Yoga and breathing to lower your excitement, BUT you can also learn how to tease yourself for longer and longer periods by stopping every time you get close to climax. (I prefer edging to Yoga or to hypnosis.)
One more thing for all the males in general:
THEY CALL IT CLIMAX FOR A REASON!!!
It signals the END of the session. Climax should never be the goal of SEX. The ultimate goal should be FUN, and the way to have maximum FUN is to make it last and last and last; to learn all the different ways to stimulate yourself and your partner. To learn all the hundreds of games you can play like one night you wait on him/her, hand and foot, starting with meeting him/her at the door and stripping her/him naked, having a warm candle lit bath all ready. YOU bathe him/her using only your hands and some unscented soap with a little unscented shampoo for bath bubbles......... You don't use a washcloth so you can touch her/him all over....... every inch.
JUST REMEMBER THIS ISN'T TO GET YOU HOT, IT'S TO GET YOUR PARTNER HOT OR RELAXED OR WARM.
(you should wear a loin cloth or a bikini or nothing at all)....... and you shower/bathe before he/she gets home. You don't get in with him/her, even if he/she asks......... You simply explain you are his/her servant and it wouldn't be appropriate for you to get in.
Next you either eat or give him/her a great massage with lost of oil....... including a genital massage..... FOR HER/HIM........ NOT YOU (sure you may be obviously very VERY VERY EXCITED all night....... and that should get him/her all the more heated up...... seeing how turned on you are...... yet how you are DOING IT ALL FOR HIM/HER. This makes it all the more rewarding for both of you. During the evening you can say often....... "this is all for you baby....... all for you........ I hope I turn you on a tenth as much as you turn me on."
Tomorrow will be YOUR TURN, so bear that in mind when you really want to jump her/him.
After the massage you wear robes or nothing while you eat. (you keep ratcheting up the sexuality all night long, but the word for the night is CONTROL) He/She can touch you and tickle you and tease you, but you may not do anything overtly sexual FOR YOU. When you bathe him/her you can touch all her/his hot spots and do "more" of whatever they ask for. Same goes during the massage etc. And he/she, as I said, can get pleasure from teasing the heck out of you....... but you have to be a good servant and remain UNDER CONTROL.
THE SEX BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU COMES LATER. THAT CAN'T HAPPEN EARLY. THAT IS ONE THING THAT MUST WAIT. SEX SHOWS THE ULTIMATE CONTROL FOR THE EVENING. THAT IS BOTH YOUR GOAL. MAKE SURE TO TELL HIM/HER THAT AT THE START. USE THIS SET OF GUIDELINES AND HAVE HIM/HER READ THEM.
I'll often have the couple set a clock for "bed time" where they can finally have a very long, wonderfully drawn out, fantastic sex session...... full of home made sex toys (dragging a soup spoon all over the body feels amazing........ especially the nipples or the closed eyes,....... or the lips (take your pick)....... or the scrotum......... or up and down the butt crack.
After dinner...... one of his/her favorite movies/plays/operas (on DVD) so you can watch while drinking wine and while you rub her/his feet....... and/or suck them. Tonight the object of all your attention doesn't lift a finger. If he/she goes for your foot, you thank them but insist that this is their night and to save it for tomorrow.
At bedtime, it's all up to YOU again, since you will be pleasuring her/him....... AS LONG AND AS OFTEN AS THEY WANT....... AND I MEAN IT.
This is only one night in 365 different nights that you can plan.
You can begin with this one and continue on as you learn more and more control.
HOW DO YOU LEARN CONTROL?
YOU LEARN BY TEACHING YOURSELF HOW TO MASTURBATE, TILL YOU ARE ON THE EDGE AND THEN QUITTING. YOU USE DIFFERENT WAYS OF PLEASURING YOURSELF AND REMEMBER THEM WHEN YOU USE THEM ON YOUR PARTNER.
The dog chain, the silk scarves, the hair brush, and the soup spoon are all examples of home toys you can use when you masturbate. Just leave your glans alone except for now and then. When you reach the edge, draw back, then move to the other areas of your body.
We haven't even mentioned spanking........... or tying up your partner and teasing them.
Get spring loaded clothes pins and learn the thin line between pleasure and pain........ ALWAYS ACCENTUATING PLEASURE.
S&M gets boring because it rarely deals with REAL AFFECTION.
Domination and Submission can be a great joy because the Dom holds great affection and caring for his Submissive.
I could go on for hundreds of pages........ AND I HAVE.
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
For now instead of less masturbation YOU NEED MORE......... just much less ejaculation.
YOU NEED TO LEARN CONTROL.
AT FIRST IT'S FRUSTRATING.......... THEN IT GETS CHALLENGING........ THEN IT BECOMES BLISSFUL
SO GET BUSY AND GET TO KNOW EVERY SQUARE MILLIMETER OF YOUR BODY........ EVERY HAIR........ HOW EVERY PART FEELS.
LIKE:
1. CAN YOU GET ERECT BY PLAYING WITH YOUR FEET? IF YOU SAY "NO" THEN YOU'RE NOT DOING IT PROPERLY. C'MON TRY!!!
2. CAN YOU FIND THE EROGENOUS ZONE BEHIND YOUR KNEE? TRY TOUCHING THE AREA LIGHTLY....... STOP PLAYING WITH YOURSELF LIKE YOUR SANDING THE PAINT OFF YOUR CAR GETTING READY FOR PRIMER.
3. WORK YOUR NIPPLES....... TICKLE, PINCH, PULL, TURN.......... SPIT ON THEM AND GENTLY TICKLE THEM WITH THE PALMS OF YOUR HANDS....... NOW TRY COMBINATIONS OF THE VARIOUS SENSATIONS.........
4. TRY THE CLOTHES PINS ON VARIOUS PARTS OF YOU. SEE HOW MANY YOU CAN FIT AROUND YOUR BELLY BUTTON. HOW MANY CAN YOU PUT ON YOUR FORESKIN?
I COULD GO ON AND ON BUT YOU'VE GOT PLENTY HERE TO ALTERNATE AND TRY........ AND WHEN YOU'RE WITH YOUR GIRL, GIVE HER YOUR BODY TO DO WITH AS SHE PLEASES......... INCLUDING TYING YOU UP.
ENJOY!!!!
NEVER FORGET MASTURBATION IS A PART OF YOUR LIFE......................... JUST NEVER RUSH IT.
IF YOU FEEL THE BURNING NEED TO MASTURBATE AT WORK, RUN INTO THE BATHROOM AND GET TO THE VERY EDGE, THEN QUIT AND GO BACK TO WORK. IN AN HOUR REPEAT THIS. IN AN HOUR OR TWO REPEAT.
TELL ME HOW MUCH YOU HATE WORK NOW!!!!!
GOOD LUCK......... IN A FEW MONTHS YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO HAVE SEX FOR A COUPLE/FEW HOURS ALL DECIDED BY YOU!!!!!