My girlfriend of 18 and I have been trying to have sex for (her) first time but it seems to be impossible; the first 8 cm of penetration go smoothly and she is properly wet, however afterwards it feels like a barrier stops me from going further and it starts to hurt for her and it's as if I hit a barrier. For her it feels like at that point everything is tight and going further "stretches" things.
She appears to be sufficiently aroused and wet as the first half slides in smoothly. She has no problems with tampons and me fingering her. Different positions (such as her on top) do not seem to work.
I hope someone can provide some insight in this matter as we have no clue what could be it and we're getting a bit desperate.
She even suggested going through and take the pain but I find that a scary thought as it really feels it would hurt her tremendously and I never had this with other bed partners.
Kind regards,
Maddox
PS: My girlfriend got sexually assaulted by a doctor when she was under the age of 6, so while this might play a role, we have done everything carefully and in small steps. However this also lead to a huge distrust with doctors so she would never visit an OB/GYN for her fear of doctors near her vulva.
Hey there how big is your penis? It sounds like you may be hitting her cervix which is about 4 to 5 inches inside the vagina on averag. As long as keeping her aroused and going slow as they get aroused the vagina has ability to stretch and take on larger objects. How old is your girlfriend? It is very important that they see a gynecologist at some point as they get older to make sure that there are no potential health problems with her reproductive system
Thank you for your reply. My penis is around 17-18 cm (7 inches).
But our foreplay isn't short in the slightest, especially since we do want to have intercourse but have failed with our attempts so far. After reaching that point where it hurts, she feels she's getting stretched and when I go out again the pain persists for a little while.
She has told me before that she would only visit a gynecologist when she feels like she's dying.
8 cm, that is a little more than 3 inches.
The positions we've tried are missionaries (me on top), then her on top to allow her to control everything and lastly this one: ***edited by moderator*** web addresses not allowed
The circumference is a little under 15 cm (between 4.5 and 5 inches).
I asked my girlfriend just in case, but we highly doubt that it's the pubic bone that's being hit but rather that she feels she's being stretched. I felt inside there and I feel like some sort of tightened ring inside but since I have no experience with going that 'deep' playing doctor I have no idea if that's normal what I'm feeling or not.We've tried going more slowly but it doesn't seem to work.
The dildo idea might work, however, she's not interested in trying that out. But thank you for your input.
Sorry for the web link moderator!But the position I linked to was the woman lying on her stomach and the man on top.
We will certainly use the lube idea. However we fear that it isn't a matter of lubrication but rather a sudden tightening of her vagina. It feels like a ring inside when I feel inside her with my fingers but they are not long enough to feel if this continues or not.
Thank you for your kind words though.
Yesterday night we tried to see whether any other object (and this way confirm or disprove that the size itself is the problem), for this purpose we (embarrassingly) chose to use a banana (wrapped in a condom for hygienic purposes). To our surprise the banana encountered no such resistance and a bigger banana (equal in length to my penis but slightly less in circumference) and this fit without any trouble, even when wiggling it around a little.
Afterwards we tried again with my penis and eventually it fit in completely although due to the non-sexy banana thing and us laughing I lost the full erection and it was only semi-hard but it did fit completely with her on top at that moment.
I could also feel the point where it normally wouldn't go through. We didn't try "sex" though as it was too sore for her to continue.
Sadly however my girlfriend and I don't live together and I returned to my home country. As such we can't really try anything in that department. ;)
Thank you for your help and hopefully she/her vagina only needs to become accustomed to a penis.