I have a three year old daughter who started masturbating when we moved earlier this year. She has an over sized Pooh bear that she uses to do this. When she dose it she hides under blankets and mostly in her closet. I understand that this is normal but she rides the bear and has it ride her, she makes very adult moans and even will remove clothing or pull up her shirt and put the bear's face there. This to me seems more like she is simulating sex not masturbating. The other problem is she only does it when I'm home. While she's doing this in her room I don't know if I should stop her or let her finish. What do I do?
You may want to talk with your peditrician on this one, but I can't think that childhood masturbation with a fuzzy pooh bear is going to have very serious outcomes.
I would tend to let her continue.
You just don't want her to do this in public, and that doesn't sound like the situation here, does it?
As for your concern that she may be simulating sex, is there some reason why you think this or fear that she may have heard you engaging in sex?
Or is this just a description of her enthusiasm?
If you have had sex with her in the room, or you think that she's been exposed to adult sex, that's another issue entirely. Unless you have some reason to expect this, I wouldn't worry.
Good luck.
let us know what the doctor or your counselor says, alright?
I would tend to let her continue.
You just don't want her to do this in public, and that doesn't sound like the situation here, does it?
As for your concern that she may be simulating sex, is there some reason why you think this or fear that she may have heard you engaging in sex?
Or is this just a description of her enthusiasm?
If you have had sex with her in the room, or you think that she's been exposed to adult sex, that's another issue entirely. Unless you have some reason to expect this, I wouldn't worry.
Good luck.
let us know what the doctor or your counselor says, alright?
When I was sick in bed with the Chicken Pox I discovered that my "pee tail" felt quite nice when I played with it for a while. I probably discovered this while scratching some itches in the area. I remember it changed shape as I rubbed it and it was quite interesting to play with. I was three years old when I had the Chicken Pox so that means I was three when I discovered that wonderful built in toy that I had.
My mother didn't take offense to me doing that and never said anything negative about it, but she was concerned about me scratching the sores.
I think I forgot all about it in a few weeks, or months.
It sounds to me like she's discovered that wonderful part of her anatomy that can be a source of pleasure for the rest of her life, if no one makes her feel guilty about it, or feel that it's a bad thing.
My mother didn't take offense to me doing that and never said anything negative about it, but she was concerned about me scratching the sores.
I think I forgot all about it in a few weeks, or months.
It sounds to me like she's discovered that wonderful part of her anatomy that can be a source of pleasure for the rest of her life, if no one makes her feel guilty about it, or feel that it's a bad thing.
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Not to be at all alarmist, but my wife and I were just reading on this topic and came across this helpful link. It's worth a read - esp regarding things to look for in younger children.
Not to be at all alarmist, but my wife and I were just reading on this topic and came across this helpful link. It's worth a read - esp regarding things to look for in younger children.
I followed the link, and did a little spot reading while skimming the page.
I agree, this is good information on spotting child sexual abuse.
My initial reaction was that the child was just masturbating, but I'm not so sure now that I re-read the original posting.
I still think that only the mother who originally posted can answer about the quality of this action...whether she is mimicking something that she has seen (porn?) or witnessed (parental sex?) or is just play-acting.
While it is good to be aware of the issues of child sexual abuse, I am not ready to push the panic button without more information from the parent about the behavior. I urge her to consult a child counselor and get a second opinion before assuming either way on this.
Note that it has been quite some time since the original post, and NO follow-up or additional information has been provided. So, I'm not sure that it is still an issue. We'll leave this thread up for future postings, or for other readers to consider for themselves.
I agree, this is good information on spotting child sexual abuse.
My initial reaction was that the child was just masturbating, but I'm not so sure now that I re-read the original posting.
I still think that only the mother who originally posted can answer about the quality of this action...whether she is mimicking something that she has seen (porn?) or witnessed (parental sex?) or is just play-acting.
While it is good to be aware of the issues of child sexual abuse, I am not ready to push the panic button without more information from the parent about the behavior. I urge her to consult a child counselor and get a second opinion before assuming either way on this.
Note that it has been quite some time since the original post, and NO follow-up or additional information has been provided. So, I'm not sure that it is still an issue. We'll leave this thread up for future postings, or for other readers to consider for themselves.
Let her ride pooh bear. If it makes her feel good who are u to take that from her.