How ya doing 1ofakind? Hope it's sunny where you are...c**p weather where I am! :o(
Men & porn...mmm, you've bought up a very common modern-day relationship problem.
There are a couple of things going here- firstly, your man is probably letting porn take over a little bit. There's a healthy measure of porn & an unhealthy measure of porn...and if a man is watching it too frequently and/or passing up real sex to watch it- you have a problem.
Secondly- you are viewing your man as a 'person' and not a 'man'. Men and women have quite different emotions and thought-schemas when it comes to sex & sexual fantasies. There's a lot of evolutionary-psychology theories that go to explain the differences & I could well bore you with them, so I'll try and get to the point.
Women are emotionally-connected when it comes to sex-fantasies, whereas men are visually- connected. In otherwords, when you're thinking "This is good, I feel close to my man doing this"; he's thinking "She looks fit hot- I wanna **** that!"
Women tend to fantasise about sex in a way that it makes them feel good emotionally- men tend to concentrate on the way the fantasy makes his body feel good. Do you know when an attached man has a sex fantasy, it is more likely to be about someone he doesn't know, rather than his partner. This is apparently true for gay men too. Women in relationships, however, are more likely to fantasize about their partner.
It may well be that your man has a problem; sex websites can be addictive, yet don't take it personally. It is not about how you look or you as a person. Fantasies are just that- things we can't touch and places to go when we want to escape. But most of us don't really want to live in them- too much of a good thing creates contempt.
What men look at on those websites is not real sex- it's an idealistic version of it and if psychological studies are to be believed, most men don't wouldn't want a porn-star to be their girlfriend (men are quite territorial creatures....don't like something used frequently by others!) and most men tend to be in to women that are 'realistic' rather than plastic.
Try not to get a complex over this- it really is more of a matter of why your boyf wants to immerse himself in it. Perhaps you need to 'forget' to pay the internet bill for a couple of months.
Best wishes.
V
(FYI...random, I know, but my ex dated an ex- porn-star. Turned out very badly- he couldn't get it out of his head that a good few thousand people had seen her with cum on her face...and everywhere else. Most porn stars tend to date within the industry, as it can be a hard job for some men to understand.)
cowboy style who r u looking at. Hello come on if a man is with a women its because hes obviously attracted to her and her body. Thats y I know this has affected my guy cuz before this relationship not to bring it up but heck it proves my point....I was married for 11 years and I never had this problem. I felt sexy ass hell even w two kids..I was always center of attention. Thats along time and never once did I ever get compared to porn....or chosen. sometimes I think its my fault for being so open about it in the beginning but then I realize this was his pronlem in all his last relationship also. So its him not me. Im just being a sensative honest women about my feelings and how im feeling. If he cant respect that then whose to say he might not love me the way I love him. Hey like expert says watching men who aint you f**k porn chics is a day wasted in life. Is it really wortb loosing the real thing for the fake sh*t...
Yes! Men are double standard pieces of c**p. I think that porn should be banned for men. I think that its 100 percent disrespectful. If they dont want us cheating. Than dont look at another female get naked.