Why is it that when you are in a social setting and people find out that you don't drink alcohol they go weird on you? I just quit again (just over a week, for good) and now have to prepare myself for the inevitable 10 minute question and answer session at almost every social function. Last year I went 6 months and had to endure a friend saying I was freaking him out; people I met amongst a group of friends looking at my glass suspiciously and then asking me what it was; having to justify NOT drinking; a person who I had met 5 minutes before announcing to the whole group i was with, "He maybe on ramadan but we don't have to be"which made me feel embarrassed and singled out. Why do drinkers do this? Its this constant pressure that I find one of the most difficult things to deal with.
You shouldn't blame yourslef or even allow to weaker yourself....becuase they do the wrong things just you need to take care that again you don't put wrong foot....
Hello Dibby,
Like the previous poster said - you have to keep yourself on the right track and quit drinking if you decided to do so. I know it's hard to explain your choices to every person that feels has the right to 'interrogate', but that is something happening to almost anyone who is different in any way than the majority. It could be something as simple as having a different hair color or smokers versus non-smokers, but the majority will always try to make you just like them. And in your case, when your reasons are right - not drinking alcohol - you need to rise above the situation. If someone is pressuring you too much, politely say that it's not anyone business but yours whether you want to be like them or not,
Wish you all the best,
Nicole