Hello everyone, I have been masturbating (I think that's the correct spelling?) for about a year, it started when an old friend explained it to me, I normally don't feel much guilt but I was thinking to myself, what if my parents find out?
Now my mother is a christian and I'm not sure if she will react badly to this. Now I'm not sure if they are smart enough to know I do it, or they have seen some of the porn I have used. So my question for you is, should I stop? Do your children 'touch' them selfs? Are they comfortable with you knowing?
Thinks to that affect, Thank you everyone!
Now my mother is a christian and I'm not sure if she will react badly to this. Now I'm not sure if they are smart enough to know I do it, or they have seen some of the porn I have used. So my question for you is, should I stop? Do your children 'touch' them selfs? Are they comfortable with you knowing?
Thinks to that affect, Thank you everyone!
Hey there...
So - the honest answer is your parents absolutely know that you do. My step son just turned 15, and we know very well that he does it, and have a pretty good guess exactly when he started doing it around 2 1/2 years ago. We were fairly open with him as he was approaching puberty - so 'self pleasure' was certainly discussed with him several times so he knows how we feel about it. I don't know if he actually knows that we know he does it...but here it is dude...parents were kids once themselves. So me being a guy who was his age once...not only do I know that he does it - I am pretty sure I know exactly when he is doing it because I did the same things he does when I was his age.
As for the porn thing...as a parent, I personally do expect him to look at porn. He knows we have parental controls on his computer, so this may limit what he tries to find...but I expect him to be curious, and look around. We have found a few things in his internet history, and haven't said a word to him about it - and we don't intend to unless something he's doing or looking at becomes unusually inappropriate or dangerous.
Now - that does not discount your parents' personal believes on the topic...but most parents (in my opinion) know very well what their sons are doing - and are ok with it. Depending on your relationship with them - maybe you can kind of bring it up in casual conversation to feel out their thoughts. Good luck dude - and try not to let the worrying take away from what it's supposed to be about!
So - the honest answer is your parents absolutely know that you do. My step son just turned 15, and we know very well that he does it, and have a pretty good guess exactly when he started doing it around 2 1/2 years ago. We were fairly open with him as he was approaching puberty - so 'self pleasure' was certainly discussed with him several times so he knows how we feel about it. I don't know if he actually knows that we know he does it...but here it is dude...parents were kids once themselves. So me being a guy who was his age once...not only do I know that he does it - I am pretty sure I know exactly when he is doing it because I did the same things he does when I was his age.
As for the porn thing...as a parent, I personally do expect him to look at porn. He knows we have parental controls on his computer, so this may limit what he tries to find...but I expect him to be curious, and look around. We have found a few things in his internet history, and haven't said a word to him about it - and we don't intend to unless something he's doing or looking at becomes unusually inappropriate or dangerous.
Now - that does not discount your parents' personal believes on the topic...but most parents (in my opinion) know very well what their sons are doing - and are ok with it. Depending on your relationship with them - maybe you can kind of bring it up in casual conversation to feel out their thoughts. Good luck dude - and try not to let the worrying take away from what it's supposed to be about!
What kind of Christians are they? As in like the denomination. A lot of modern Christians understand male sexuality and although it might be awkward to discuss, they know that teenage boys need time to enjoy the pleasure of masturbation and time to discover there sexuality.
There are many conservative churches, however, that are very focused on the sin aspect of sexuality. And they wctually believe a boy can pray and through strength, I’m not want to feel that sexual feeling anymore. if they are like that, become more vigilant about locking your door, and if they ever talk to you about it lie and say you don’t ever think about that. Lol my advice