Hi everyone,
im a 20 year old guy (virgin)
my sexual attraction to my girl was so strong that i even used to think that it might not be normal. the Erectile thingy used to happen to me sometimes even by JUST talking!
we are both strict and religious, so we dont want to have sex before we get married.
but when we used to stay in our car for long time, we used to go for LONGE TIME make-out and end up doing what they call " DRY HUMPING ".
but lately, i started taking off my pants, and i asked her to see her front (and she wasnt ok with it anyway).
i also asked her to touch my part (but she wasnt ok with it even though she did it after i asked her alot of times)
till one night, i had the intention to do that DRY HUMPING thingy again, but my part wouldnt Erectile AT ALL!!
i donno the reason, i donno why!
and since that day, my sexual feelings arent there anymore!
i became so depressed after that..
i read that having sex before getting married might have pshycological side effects like not feeling love anymore, or not feeling interested in that person anymore, but the thing is, in my case, its true that im not feeling sexual attraction, and im getting pissed easily now, and im not in the mood for alot of activities that we used to do together before, BUT, i dont want it to be like this! the thing is that no matter what, i want to be with her! and even though those feelings might be lost, i want to find them again! cuz i truly wanna b with her! and i dont wanna be without her!
i cant forget all the things we had together! i cant forget how hard she tried to make me happy always!
and the problem here is, that i dont know whats happening!
can anyone help, PLEASE?
.....
today, she called and she said that she's feeling an annoying sexual attraction in her sexual part, and its not leaving, or, when its about to leave, it hurts her!
can anyone explain what that is? and how to get rid of it? PLEASE!
Thank You So Much Everyone for giving me ur time =)
im a 20 year old guy (virgin)
my sexual attraction to my girl was so strong that i even used to think that it might not be normal. the Erectile thingy used to happen to me sometimes even by JUST talking!
we are both strict and religious, so we dont want to have sex before we get married.
but when we used to stay in our car for long time, we used to go for LONGE TIME make-out and end up doing what they call " DRY HUMPING ".
but lately, i started taking off my pants, and i asked her to see her front (and she wasnt ok with it anyway).
i also asked her to touch my part (but she wasnt ok with it even though she did it after i asked her alot of times)
till one night, i had the intention to do that DRY HUMPING thingy again, but my part wouldnt Erectile AT ALL!!
i donno the reason, i donno why!
and since that day, my sexual feelings arent there anymore!
i became so depressed after that..
i read that having sex before getting married might have pshycological side effects like not feeling love anymore, or not feeling interested in that person anymore, but the thing is, in my case, its true that im not feeling sexual attraction, and im getting pissed easily now, and im not in the mood for alot of activities that we used to do together before, BUT, i dont want it to be like this! the thing is that no matter what, i want to be with her! and even though those feelings might be lost, i want to find them again! cuz i truly wanna b with her! and i dont wanna be without her!
i cant forget all the things we had together! i cant forget how hard she tried to make me happy always!
and the problem here is, that i dont know whats happening!
can anyone help, PLEASE?
.....
today, she called and she said that she's feeling an annoying sexual attraction in her sexual part, and its not leaving, or, when its about to leave, it hurts her!
can anyone explain what that is? and how to get rid of it? PLEASE!
Thank You So Much Everyone for giving me ur time =)
Wow this is odd. I really do not know where to begin.
Okay first of all there are no psychological side effect to having sex before marriage. The only way that there would be is if you do it before you are completely ready. I have had premarital sex and I have not lost the feeling of love with my partner. I am 100% interested in him and I long for the days when we can make love again cause it gives me a completely fulfilling emotion.
Now I dunno if you started feeling all these things right after you failed to get an erection or not. If you did then that is probably why you are going through these emotions. These things happen and not every guy is going to get an erection when they want it. You need to relax and forget about it and remember how you feel about your GF. You are letting you performance anxiety affect your relationship and it's not that serious. You sound like your going through mood swings cause you couldn't perform when you wanted to (which is not at all uncommon).
Your feelings are not lost but you are beating yourself up over nothing. You not getting an erection could be that your body is just not being fulfilled with dry humping anymore and needs something else like an actual stroke of your penis (as in a hand job).
As for her 'annoying sexual attraction' It is probably her just getting turned on. She wants sex, or at least her body does. I dunno what she means by it hurts unless she is referring to the tingling you fell when it subsides. There is no way to get rid of it if that is what she is feeling. Sorry but we cannot control and suppress our natural hormones and it seems like that is what the both of you are dealing with. I'm not telling you two to have sex (given your religion) but it would likely stop all this. Not even intercourse but oral could help or just using your hands.
Okay first of all there are no psychological side effect to having sex before marriage. The only way that there would be is if you do it before you are completely ready. I have had premarital sex and I have not lost the feeling of love with my partner. I am 100% interested in him and I long for the days when we can make love again cause it gives me a completely fulfilling emotion.
Now I dunno if you started feeling all these things right after you failed to get an erection or not. If you did then that is probably why you are going through these emotions. These things happen and not every guy is going to get an erection when they want it. You need to relax and forget about it and remember how you feel about your GF. You are letting you performance anxiety affect your relationship and it's not that serious. You sound like your going through mood swings cause you couldn't perform when you wanted to (which is not at all uncommon).
Your feelings are not lost but you are beating yourself up over nothing. You not getting an erection could be that your body is just not being fulfilled with dry humping anymore and needs something else like an actual stroke of your penis (as in a hand job).
As for her 'annoying sexual attraction' It is probably her just getting turned on. She wants sex, or at least her body does. I dunno what she means by it hurts unless she is referring to the tingling you fell when it subsides. There is no way to get rid of it if that is what she is feeling. Sorry but we cannot control and suppress our natural hormones and it seems like that is what the both of you are dealing with. I'm not telling you two to have sex (given your religion) but it would likely stop all this. Not even intercourse but oral could help or just using your hands.