my wife is 5+ months pregnant, we already have a girl. and we went to get ultrasound to know if its boy or girl, again its a girl, after knowing it.. we both had a think for 2weeks.we still feel 2nd girl will be burden for us, because in india all couples like boy..the reason is simple.. if boy no need to invest much money on him..if girl need to invest more money, studies expense is same either boy or girl but at the time of marriage need to pay a lot of money to get married. not only this..in india there is a custom used to think.. if girl get married she wil go away dont care about father & mother.. if son is there.. he can take care of parents in old..i no need to tell all of this.. but i wish to share my feelings & toughts to all.
so on May 27 2012 we went to hospital to get abortion, they gave a list of tests need to get done before abortion.we went to hospital at 8:30 am and it took 14:00 to get done..doctors told she need to join in hospital for 3 days , bcoz she was more than 3 months pregnant.so little complicate..
they took my & my wife signature to kill my baby.i asked them if they can show my baby to me after abortion..bcoz i wish to see her first & last time..they regret to do so. they gave the time to me at 17:00 will give a medicine to my wife which can kill my baby.. and then next morning that baby will get out...
i masked my face with dareness..as i dont want to cry infront of my wife.. if i do so..she wil be more panic..she took rest in hospital room and i went to bring some food to my wife..with full of sad..
my heart is paining..with uncontrollable tears..finally all of tears came out from me as flood..i went to my wife and said "" I NEED THIS BABY""
i can give her good future,and more over i dont want to kill her...
i rushed to nurse and said i must need my baby. she said thats great you can take ur wife to home..
we both came to home with a lots of happy.. my baby went till death and came back..
we realise that we cant kill our baby..there is value to every life..we cant decide it.
for every problem god gives a way to solve it..
My suggestion to all of couples is ..""Think more & more before u take decision to kill ur baby... specially in those countries who feel girl is burden.."" dont listen to elders or old person whose thinking is foolish .. they always says need boy..
i can assure if boy..there is no guarantee that he can take care of you..he may go & settle in abroad after marriage.. or etc..anything may happen...
Life is so simple.. dont make it complicate with decisions.
regards,
A father.
I'm sorry to hear of your loss x
There is no loss they didn't abort the baby great story