Hey, I'm a 16 year old male and i'm happily in love with my girlfriend.
Recently she's been questioning about having sex; it worries and scares me, to be honest.
We're both virgins, so it's not like "I need to do better then the last guy".
Are there any tips or hints as to what to do about this?
Like, how to set up the 'first time' and what type of contraception to use?
Should I wait till she's climaxed first before I climax?
Do I ejaculate inside of her or pull out?
I'm just quite unsure about it all.
Recently she's been questioning about having sex; it worries and scares me, to be honest.
We're both virgins, so it's not like "I need to do better then the last guy".
Are there any tips or hints as to what to do about this?
Like, how to set up the 'first time' and what type of contraception to use?
Should I wait till she's climaxed first before I climax?
Do I ejaculate inside of her or pull out?
I'm just quite unsure about it all.
First time sex is always so unpredictable. Your nerves may even put a stop to it before it even happens. Because you are both virgins, there will be many unsteady moments, for both of you.
Discuss the issue with your gf. If you are scared, your not ready yet, tho it sounds like she is.
If she wants to take your relationship to the next level, take it slow and easy. Ask her about birth control and stress that it is mandatory. Suggest that she go to possibly Planned Parenthood and look into getting on the pill. If she rears back at the idea, tell her that you will go with her if she feels more comfortable. Emphasize that preventing an unwanted pregnancy is imperative.
Condoms are also a source of prevention, tho i wouldn't count on them all the time. Many things can go wrong with the use of a condom, especially for someone who doesn't have much experience. They could be old and out dated, it could have a rip or a hole some place and you don't know it.
(never open a condom with your teeth) They can be put on wrong or taken off wrong allowing semen to escape.
Before you two launch into a sexcapade, make sure you both have your bases covered. Once you are responsibly ready, feel your way around, (no pun intended.) If she is on the pill and you wear a condom, you are now safe to go ahead.
As far as intercourse in concerned, she may not have an orgasm the first time out, maybe not even the second or third time and you may ejaculate to fast, you may not be able to get an erection due to nerves. Anything is possible, it's trial and error.
The gentlemanly thing to do would be to let your girl reach her orgasm first, then continue. As you get to know her and what makes her tick, you'll figure it out.
Just be careful and please be protected. I am sure you wouldn't want your first time to be a nightmare.
Discuss the issue with your gf. If you are scared, your not ready yet, tho it sounds like she is.
If she wants to take your relationship to the next level, take it slow and easy. Ask her about birth control and stress that it is mandatory. Suggest that she go to possibly Planned Parenthood and look into getting on the pill. If she rears back at the idea, tell her that you will go with her if she feels more comfortable. Emphasize that preventing an unwanted pregnancy is imperative.
Condoms are also a source of prevention, tho i wouldn't count on them all the time. Many things can go wrong with the use of a condom, especially for someone who doesn't have much experience. They could be old and out dated, it could have a rip or a hole some place and you don't know it.
(never open a condom with your teeth) They can be put on wrong or taken off wrong allowing semen to escape.
Before you two launch into a sexcapade, make sure you both have your bases covered. Once you are responsibly ready, feel your way around, (no pun intended.) If she is on the pill and you wear a condom, you are now safe to go ahead.
As far as intercourse in concerned, she may not have an orgasm the first time out, maybe not even the second or third time and you may ejaculate to fast, you may not be able to get an erection due to nerves. Anything is possible, it's trial and error.
The gentlemanly thing to do would be to let your girl reach her orgasm first, then continue. As you get to know her and what makes her tick, you'll figure it out.
Just be careful and please be protected. I am sure you wouldn't want your first time to be a nightmare.
Ahhh, thank you very much!
It makes me feel alot better now.
Also if she is on the pill, and I ejaculate inside of her..will it be safe? Will she possibly have trouble with it later on?
It makes me feel alot better now.
Also if she is on the pill, and I ejaculate inside of her..will it be safe? Will she possibly have trouble with it later on?
Once she starts taking the pill and has gotten into a schedule of taking it, there should be no problems, tho you can always wear a condom for extra security.
Some say that a full week on the pill is protection enough to begin having intercourse without pregnancy, others say that a full month on the pill while using another form of protection is best. She will be able to ask her doctor what he thinks as they know more than i do.
As far as problems, there really shouldn't be any if you follow the course of action.
She may begin her birth control and find that it doesn't agree with her, which is normal. Should this happen, she would let her doctor know and they will switch her script to another kind. Sometimes it may take 2 or 3 different pills before she can be comfortable.
Some cause extreme nausea, some cause bleeding, her breasts may be tender it all depends. Once she finds the right one, she should feel normal, like she isn't even taking it. They should be taken at the same time, every single day. A pill should not be missed, ever. But forgetfullness is human, a missed pill here and their is not big deal, she just takes two the next day.
Some say that a full week on the pill is protection enough to begin having intercourse without pregnancy, others say that a full month on the pill while using another form of protection is best. She will be able to ask her doctor what he thinks as they know more than i do.
As far as problems, there really shouldn't be any if you follow the course of action.
She may begin her birth control and find that it doesn't agree with her, which is normal. Should this happen, she would let her doctor know and they will switch her script to another kind. Sometimes it may take 2 or 3 different pills before she can be comfortable.
Some cause extreme nausea, some cause bleeding, her breasts may be tender it all depends. Once she finds the right one, she should feel normal, like she isn't even taking it. They should be taken at the same time, every single day. A pill should not be missed, ever. But forgetfullness is human, a missed pill here and their is not big deal, she just takes two the next day.
Thank you so much :-)
I'll bring up some of this info when she talks to me about it again!
I'll bring up some of this info when she talks to me about it again!