hey im 17 and im a guy... i was just wondering if there were any ways that i could acheive anal orgasms or get a better "feel". i love playing with myself with all different type of toys and am yet to find one that really suits my needs.. also, whenever i play with toys my ass gets really wet... just wondering if that was normal, technically im bi-curiouse because ive never been with another guy... also im totally closed in with my bi-curious sexuallity, how should i got about telling people?
thanks in advance!
thanks in advance!
I would try to get out of the house more!
I can help you with telling people.
First, you must make sure that you are totally--well you can never be totally--prepared for losing friends, criticism from family and friends, and having religion thrown into your face.
Second, you should tell a REALLY close friend first--if this is one of your parents, that's fantastic (you can skip the third step). This needs to be someone that you could totally trust with your LIFE.
Give them a little time to let the news sink in.
Third, you should tell a close family member. It doesn't have to be your parents--again, if it is your one of you parents, that's great--just someone in your family you know you can talk to.
Fourth, you need to tell you parents. You need to have their support and know that they are going to be there for you. If they do not support your lifestyle, then just move on. Not get new parents, but just don't bring it up in front of them. You can be their son at home and your true self everywhere else.
NOTE: When talking to people, remain focused. Do not let them start saying mean and hateful statements. If they do, however, just continue with your conversation. You need to let whoever it is know that your sexuality is not a choice. The only choices you have made was to NOT surpress your feelings and to tell that person.
When I used the word "prepared," I mean that you have to be emotionally and physically ready for everything. You may or may not lose friends. Your family may accept you for who you are. Just be prepared!!
Also, know that you set the rate at which things happen. You can tell everyone all in one day. You can space it out over a week or month. Take your time and talk to people whenyou are ready.
If you need to know ANYTHING else, just post here and I will try my best to answer!!
I wish you the best of luck and may your coming out be a lot easier than mine!!
--LinZ
First, you must make sure that you are totally--well you can never be totally--prepared for losing friends, criticism from family and friends, and having religion thrown into your face.
Second, you should tell a REALLY close friend first--if this is one of your parents, that's fantastic (you can skip the third step). This needs to be someone that you could totally trust with your LIFE.
Give them a little time to let the news sink in.
Third, you should tell a close family member. It doesn't have to be your parents--again, if it is your one of you parents, that's great--just someone in your family you know you can talk to.
Fourth, you need to tell you parents. You need to have their support and know that they are going to be there for you. If they do not support your lifestyle, then just move on. Not get new parents, but just don't bring it up in front of them. You can be their son at home and your true self everywhere else.
NOTE: When talking to people, remain focused. Do not let them start saying mean and hateful statements. If they do, however, just continue with your conversation. You need to let whoever it is know that your sexuality is not a choice. The only choices you have made was to NOT surpress your feelings and to tell that person.
When I used the word "prepared," I mean that you have to be emotionally and physically ready for everything. You may or may not lose friends. Your family may accept you for who you are. Just be prepared!!
Also, know that you set the rate at which things happen. You can tell everyone all in one day. You can space it out over a week or month. Take your time and talk to people whenyou are ready.
If you need to know ANYTHING else, just post here and I will try my best to answer!!
I wish you the best of luck and may your coming out be a lot easier than mine!!
--LinZ
Hi omegablue,
I would use restraint on this subject of disclosure. The idea is to not be afraid of revealing who you are, but on the other hand, its not a subject of everyday conversation e.g. around the water cooler at work. Initially, this should be a highly personal matter that should be reveal to those close to you and with whom you want support. Once you have the support mechanism in place, then more limited public disclosure would be safe for you.
Perhaps look at the subject of sexuality from a heterosexual's perspective (myself): The social norm is that one shouldn't go around boasting of being a heterosexual and conducting oneself in a way that is offensive to others. Examples of this are talking about how big your penis is, who you last laid or making inappropriate comments to women. That's not to say people don't do these things. But I sense that you want to feel better about yourself and are sensitive to other people. So it's a delicate balance you have in proceeding where it's best to err on the side of caution and discretion.
In time word will get around of your sexuality and people will respect you more for your conduct and have less concern over your sexual preference. Its more about being a good citizen in this ever changing world we live in than just getting what you want when you want.
Good luck and may peace be with you.