My boyfriend is going to join the Army National Guard soon after we get out of high school. I understand that it's hard on any couple who is considering any military position. I'm supportive of his decision, mainly because military has been a big part of my life, even though neither of my parents are directly connected to the military. It's hard looking at a point of view that you don't want to look at. And it's hard being any military spouse. While you may feel like he isn't thinking about your feelings, he might feel the same way about you. Those who want to enlist often have a deep passion for their country, and they want to share that with you. It would be hard to deal with something like this, but in the end it would be worth it. Communication is key. Let him know how you feel about the situation and ask how he feels as well.
Hope this helped. :))
Hope this helped. :))
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My boyfriend told me last night that if he couldnt find a job he was going to go into the marines, and i told him.. i can not live that way, i dont want to wait day after day to hear from him or to hear that he died in battle, i love him and when i was single i was gonna join, but i dont want him to go because i couldnt live without him... i cried for the first time in a while, i feel bad that i dont want to support him, i told him i would, but we had so many plans and all of those will change if he goes.. we had a future... but if he gives up and doesnt try to get a job hes going to leave.. whats worse is i dont think he could make it... its just the type of guy that he is.. and its scaring me so bad. i just moved out of my parents house and im on my own.. and we havent seen each other in 3 weeks.. its bad enough but not seeing him for months or years on him... i would shut down i wouldnt be anything....
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I’m in th exact same boat as EVERYTHING you said above. Dating for 4 years brother was in the military and father and he looks up to them. Nothings worked out for him here and I feel like he thinks he needs to venture off. I am in school and stuck here so it makes me sick to my stomach. Trying to figure out as well if I should stay or not. It hurts me. I feel it’s selfish as well. Hopeful to hear about your journey and good news but I need a reality check :(
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I understand where you’re coming from but you’re are being selfish. What if you wanted to do something and he disagreed with your choices. you would say that he’s selfish but really you’re just doing what you want and it’s your life so you shouldn’t you be in control. My boyfriend is joining the military and I agree with his decision because it’s what he wants to do. To be in a good relationship you have to consider his/her choices and that’s not always gonna be easy but just understand how he feels. He’s probably just as nervous as you are and all he wants from you is support and if you’re really not okay with this try to make a compromise. And if that doesn’t work then maybe y’all need to see other people that agree with your choices.
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Me and my boy friend have been together for over a year. He has always wanted to join the army, which was fine because I was going to do air force. Then I found out I have autism and cannot join. He says he wants to join at the age of 17 but I think he should wait.
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