Hey people,
i dated a bipolar girl for year and a half and two months ago she asked for space, we were living together. I moved my stuff out. Well today she emailed me asking about my life and family and all that and she said she is better health wise but I just front get it.
does she want me back?
when she asked for space she told me she just needed to take care of herself for awhile and that I was horrible to her. I did not know how to handle the situation did not know she was off her medication and she was cutting and saying she wanted to die and said I was the reason. After the first month of space since she wouldn't really talk to me about anything I called some people and found out she signed over the rights to her kid which explain why she took everything out on me.
after two weeks and she was just doing her thing and said she could not cope within anything, I broke it off and told her it was too much. A week later I told her I loved her but she still said she had to take care of herself. A week later I talked to one of her friends and they said she was having seizures and she felt like I would not of been supportive so she needed her space but she told them when she was ready she would call me or what not whether it be a month Or three and see if I would take her back. She said and told them I am the only one she has ever wanted, and that other people have asked her out and she said no. her friend also said that when she talked to her she could not cope with or handle anything serious and did not seem like she was well.
in her email she said that she was getting better health wise and she is good and all and wanted to know how I was and basically everything about me and my friends. Is she trying to get back with me, measure where we stand Or what. So confused and i don't know what to do because if she isn't stable I know she won't be able to handle anything.
i want her back and love her so much and I know as she told my friends and me before that she loves me more then anything. What do I write back?
Hey man,
Sometimes when people go through health problems, they become depressed- especially when it's something severe like seizures. They might feel alone and alienated by their diagnosis. Being bipolar probably doesn't help.
It sounds like your ex was and is going through this type of really difficult situation. Comfort her and ask her kindly to tell you the truth about everything. It might take time and a lot of patience to hear her story. Saying the truth will help both of you, though.
What people sometimes do is push their loved one away because they feel ashamed or guilty for involving you in their health or mental issues. I think if you're patient with her, get her to tell the story, and learn the truth, a lot will change between you. Something like this can be really difficult to accept yourself, and to tell your family and friends.
Once things have settled down, have her see a psychologist (she probably already has one for her prescription). Couldn't hurt and will only help to calm people down and make them feel good and safe. Hope that's good advice,
good luck