Just chill, there is the possibility of not fully breaking the hymen membrane, and it re breaking up to 3 or 4 times during multiple counts of intercourse. There is the chance that you may have hemophilia, which is when the body finds it difficult to create white blood cells to clot blood (Lesions, incesions, any slices or cuts) And there is the possibility of you having started your period just coincidentally on the same day, and your period lasts 4 to 6 days me love, and some people do have heavy flows, so if it is that, there really isn't anything to worry about but maintaining hygiene. It's quite difficult to really damage the vagina during intercourse, unless sideways penetration takes place, or foreign objects are inserted into the vaginal cavity, or nails scratch the vaginal wall etc, it is a sensitive area, so do take care of it, and make sure that if you are with any sexual partners, for any reason, wear contraception to wored of infection and stop you from being knocked up. If you feel pain or discomfert in the area, during intercourse, after intercourse, go and see your gynecologist, and they will have a little look for you. Pain is your bodies way of telling you there is something wrong, don't ignore it, especially if it's in your private parts. Oh and if there is pain during intercourse, most times it can be due to a lack of lubrication, use some, and you will probably find a great improvement.
Peace and take care.
Peace and take care.
i am 22 years old and my girlfriend is 21, i became sexual active from 16, while my current partner is still a virgin. what i want to know is, because every time we try, she fills very painful and often pushes me off. when is it the best time for defloration (Breaking virginity) or whats needed to be in place before having sex.
is there a possibility that some girls are not just big enough, because i think there is a very small opening.
is there a possibility that some girls are not just big enough, because i think there is a very small opening.
G'day mate.
First things first, every body is different and with that every vagina is different. Plus pain is usually the bodies way of telling you there is something wrong, don't ignore it!
There are some pre measures you can take prior to sexual intercourse that can make the penetration part more comfertable, things such as lube, finger penetration prior to sex, the use of a dildo etc. What you should keep in mind is that the vaginal wall is primarily a muscle, and with that fact, it can stretch and conform to stresses such a penis insertion. What I would reccommend that you do is use plenty of lubricant, a good brand with a good price tag, don't get the cheap sh*t.
If you guys are truely in love with eachother, you probably won't mind talking about it, converse with her, find out what hurts, what feels good, don't be shy to go in and try it, or ask it. Also im sure if you guys are really willing, you can try exercises by using a dildo that is a smaller diametre than your penis, remember the vaginal wall will stretch as it is a muscle, hence they use of the word "Loose and tight".
There are also a plethora of other reasons as to why it's painful, sometimes the very reason can be pyschological, literally, others are cists, lesions, cuts, small 'pimple' like lumps, many things.
Try a little lubrication, that usually helps alot of the troubles.
PS: A little tip I use is inserting the penis when it's half flacid, meaning when it's not totally erect, then allowing it to be aroused inside the vagina, thats just a tip.
Best of luck champ
Peace and take care.
First things first, every body is different and with that every vagina is different. Plus pain is usually the bodies way of telling you there is something wrong, don't ignore it!
There are some pre measures you can take prior to sexual intercourse that can make the penetration part more comfertable, things such as lube, finger penetration prior to sex, the use of a dildo etc. What you should keep in mind is that the vaginal wall is primarily a muscle, and with that fact, it can stretch and conform to stresses such a penis insertion. What I would reccommend that you do is use plenty of lubricant, a good brand with a good price tag, don't get the cheap sh*t.
If you guys are truely in love with eachother, you probably won't mind talking about it, converse with her, find out what hurts, what feels good, don't be shy to go in and try it, or ask it. Also im sure if you guys are really willing, you can try exercises by using a dildo that is a smaller diametre than your penis, remember the vaginal wall will stretch as it is a muscle, hence they use of the word "Loose and tight".
There are also a plethora of other reasons as to why it's painful, sometimes the very reason can be pyschological, literally, others are cists, lesions, cuts, small 'pimple' like lumps, many things.
Try a little lubrication, that usually helps alot of the troubles.
PS: A little tip I use is inserting the penis when it's half flacid, meaning when it's not totally erect, then allowing it to be aroused inside the vagina, thats just a tip.
Best of luck champ
Peace and take care.
oh and there is the possibility that her Hymen hasn't fully broken, like in my above post, there is a possibility of the hymen actually breaking up to 4 times with different sexual partners, and therefore can make every encounter a little painful, things will be tight up there as it's her first couple of times, just take things slow and easy.
It should not hurt when you use a vibrator. You should definitely not force it in further if it hurts--it's certainly not pleasurable, and you can hurt yourself. You should use a good lube (which you can find pretty cheap online or in an adult store) and experiment with different angles with your vibrator. If it doesn't feel good, don't do it! More importantly, don't deliberately try to break your hymen--again with the hurty thing. If you're scared of getting hurt during sex, you're not ready for sex yet.
Okay, So I'm 15 And About To Have Sex For The First Time. I've Been Fingered Before, But I Dont Noe If My Cherry Has Popped, How Can I Tell.? Also, My Boyfriend Dosent Think Im A Virgin, What If We Have Sex And I Start Bleeding, Is There Anyway To Be FOR SURE I Wont Bleed.? Please Help Me.!
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i got fingered yesterday and i realised i was bleeding when i got home. im not a virgin so why am i still bleeding? but he inserted 2 fingers and i could feel the pain. is that the reason why i bled?
nothing is wrong your hymen broke and it will take a few days to heal... you will be fine. Relax and don't have sex for the next few days and it will be fine....
well you can also do it while on your period? that way he wont know? or he might think that he broked it ya know? (^^)
the hymen is a thin membrane that can be easily ruptured from anything to sexual activity to something as simple as weight loss or high levels of activity. this membrane general heals after six months of inactivity. bleeding varies from person to person and sometimes it can occur of several hours. your hymen wont be visible its an internal membrane so you wont see a visible tear. if you have sex on your period eg. whilest ovulating you will interupt your flow. so you can either bleed late, or stop bleeding, ovulating occurs about a week prior to your period. if you do feel that you have been inpregnated i suggest getting tested as soon as possible so you can weigh your options. do not trust a male to pull out. i am a guy and i can tell you it feels to good to be honost about. ontop of this most guys especialy young will have a stedy flow of precum. for evidence sqeez the tip of his part you will notice small amounts of cum seeping out. so ladies be smart.
^ i see many people saying to do it on you period. let me ask you if you think its a good idea to have sex when you are most prone to being impregnated. you may no longer be ovulating but should someone ejaculate into you your period will stop and the egg will then attach itself to the uterus wall. if you have bled to much your problems will get much worse from this. this could lead to infertility later on.
anonymous wrote:
so is it normal then?
kieran wrote:
Guest wrote:
Guest wrote:
I had sex for the first time yesterday. When he finally pulled out he told me I was bleeding a little so he stopped. When I got home, there was blood all over my panties and I thought I started my period. But the next morning the bleeding stopped. So then I thought my cherry popped. But it still bleeds a little every now and then for the past 18 hours, but not as it should when you are on your period. What is wrong with me? PLEASE HELP !
same question, someone answer thissssssssssssss please!
does anyone have a ansa to this yet?? i have this problem and im panicking and altho this is the 4th time ive had sex and loads of blood came out-- ive been waitin for my period bu this morning no blood was on my pad and i dont no where that blood came from????
Sweetie i had the same thing and that is all it is. Mine bleed for a good bit and i also thought i started too. so don't worry a good bit of girls go throught this.
so is it normal then?
kieran wrote:
Thats because of the broken hymen. You might have little bleeding till 3 days. Its natural.
Guest wrote:
Guest wrote:
I had sex for the first time yesterday. When he finally pulled out he told me I was bleeding a little so he stopped. When I got home, there was blood all over my panties and I thought I started my period. But the next morning the bleeding stopped. So then I thought my cherry popped. But it still bleeds a little every now and then for the past 18 hours, but not as it should when you are on your period. What is wrong with me? PLEASE HELP !
same question, someone answer thissssssssssssss please!
does anyone have a ansa to this yet?? i have this problem and im panicking and altho this is the 4th time ive had sex and loads of blood came out-- ive been waitin for my period bu this morning no blood was on my pad and i dont no where that blood came from????
Thats because of the broken hymen. You might have little bleeding till 3 days. Its natural.
hi, uhm...i had sex for the first time yesterday, and after, when i went to the bathroom i saw that i was bleeding. i dont think he realized, but now im worried because my hymen broke, should i be scared? am i going to be ok? does it mean i should limit my sexual intercourse with him? am i going to bleed more?
Hello.
Look it's really nothing to worry about, everyone goes through it, it's a completly natural thing. I think that if your boyfriend has a problem with you bleeding on him, then he should wear a condom, in my opinion, I think your boyfriend should feel privileged that you are giving your virginity to him.... and that the whole process should be a beautiful thing, blood or no blood.... haha.
Look, it is possible that you may bleed again, your hymen may not yet be fully broken. Please this is not me suggesting that you should go and stick things up your vagina so that you can fully break it, it just may be that your boyfriend isn't so big down there to fully break you.
For now, i would avoid intercourse for a week or 2 to allow for the tear to heal, remember you have torn muscle in there, it will heal, and it won't have an effect on your pleasure factor, it just may hurt if you try to have sex again however, and urinating will hurt too!! but it's nothing to worry about.... so best you just wait for now.
Keep undertaking general cleaning routines, make your observations, no one knows you general parts better than you, things like color, smell, discharge, if anything is out of the ordinary (and im not talking a little blood in the urine, PLEASE use your head before paniking and checking yourself into the emergency ward) go and see the doctor. And always have safe sex if you aren't looking to have children.
All the best.
Brendan.
Look it's really nothing to worry about, everyone goes through it, it's a completly natural thing. I think that if your boyfriend has a problem with you bleeding on him, then he should wear a condom, in my opinion, I think your boyfriend should feel privileged that you are giving your virginity to him.... and that the whole process should be a beautiful thing, blood or no blood.... haha.
Look, it is possible that you may bleed again, your hymen may not yet be fully broken. Please this is not me suggesting that you should go and stick things up your vagina so that you can fully break it, it just may be that your boyfriend isn't so big down there to fully break you.
For now, i would avoid intercourse for a week or 2 to allow for the tear to heal, remember you have torn muscle in there, it will heal, and it won't have an effect on your pleasure factor, it just may hurt if you try to have sex again however, and urinating will hurt too!! but it's nothing to worry about.... so best you just wait for now.
Keep undertaking general cleaning routines, make your observations, no one knows you general parts better than you, things like color, smell, discharge, if anything is out of the ordinary (and im not talking a little blood in the urine, PLEASE use your head before paniking and checking yourself into the emergency ward) go and see the doctor. And always have safe sex if you aren't looking to have children.
All the best.
Brendan.