Hey guys. So I had a huge fight with my boyfriend last night. He was at the business trip for almost 15 days and of course, we couldn't be able to have sex - that is logical. And he came from his business trip yesterday and it is normal that he wanted to have an intercourse with me. But since I am depressed a lot I refused him. He started to telling me that I probably cheat on him and some silly things like this. I just can't explain to him that I am not really in the mood. So tell me, can anxiety be the reason why I don’t desire sex anymore, I totally lost my libido?
Sadly for you, it is possible. Not just possible, it is very likely that you are going to lose your will for sex sooner or later, as longer as you remain depressed, the bigger the odds of losing your libido.
Again sadly, there is nothing that you can do about it. There is no way that you can get your libido back as long as you remain depressed. In order to snap out of this, you need to figure out what exactly is causing your depression and you need to work on that. As long as you are depressed, you won't get your will for sex back.
Oh yes. Unfortunately it is true. I didn't have problems with it but my ex - boyfriend had anxiety and he just lost the desire for the sex out of the nowhere. Like every other jealous girl, I believed that he is cheating on me but it was not the true. He didn't go out (we were living together) and he became really selfish and rude - I believe that this happens when you have this problem with anxiety. I talked to my doctor and he told me that this is probably the case, that he is dealing with anxiety but when I told my ex about this he didn't want to listen to me and we broke up. I really wanted to help him, but I didn't know how...
It isn't easy to help people suffering from anxiety, Guest. Especially if they are constantly denying the fact that they actually have a problem. They need to understand that they have a problem before talking to them about fixing it. I mean, think about it. If you don't think that you have a problem, why would you let anyone help you in the first place?
It is very hard to help these people and that is why there are professionals trained only in working with people who are suffering from anxiety and depression. They also have those kind of group meetings and stuff.
That's a fine first hand experience right there Poppa. It is useful to know how to handle someone who is suffering from anxiety, it's also useful to know how hard can it get and what you shouldn't do, but you shouldn't discourage people to keep trying to help their loved ones who are battling anxiety. And you are completely right about loving someone even in their worst moments, it all comes to being there for the person who you love when she maybe doesn't even want you to be there. I honestly love what you just wrote, it gives me hope, you know?
OK, for those who are "extremely" worried about me and my life, I would like to tell that I do have a life, thank you very much. And if you can't help me, don't judge me because you cannot never tell what can happen to you. Right?
For those who are trying to help me, thank you so much. It is very hard to fight with this situation. I think that I am able to help with my advice to the people, but I can't help me. I don't cheat on him, I would never do that. But he is so hard head that I just can't explain to him what is going on with me.
Tell me, have you ever had some kind of the problem and you were not able to talk to someone about it? I believe that you did?
So, I really mean - If you don't have nothing smart to tell me or to tell us, or to share some experience with me and with us, those comments are inappropriate. But, anyway thanks for worrying.