My friend is worried about being pregnant as her boyfriend says he doesn't know if he did or not. They're both really worried.
Any answers?
Any answers?
The answer is yes and no.
First, you asked if men could come without being aware of it. Some men experience a nocturnal emission without realizing it. It's not often, as the feelings and dreams are usually so vivid that they wake and recognise that they have ejaculated.
Second, what you really mean to ask is if a man might come during INTERCOURSE and not know it. The answer is "highly doubtful". Part of the point of having intercourse is the powerful satisfaction that accompanies ejaculation.
But the real point is this: If he had penetration with her... even slightly, without any protection, she runs the risk of pregnancy. It doesn't matter if he came, or ejaculated, or not. When a man is sexually excited...excited enough to be errect and penetrate, there are sperm in his "pre-com" lube that dribbles out the end of the penis. Therefore, they are at risk.
This is one of the reasons why condom use is urged at all times!
If he isn't sure, or can't remember if he came, it doesn't make any difference. If he had penetrative sex with her, she is now at risk.
She should get a home pregnancy test right away. If she wants confirmation, she should go to her medical clinic and have a professional test. They can also advise her what to do, and how to avoid this in the future.
USE CONDOMS!
First, you asked if men could come without being aware of it. Some men experience a nocturnal emission without realizing it. It's not often, as the feelings and dreams are usually so vivid that they wake and recognise that they have ejaculated.
Second, what you really mean to ask is if a man might come during INTERCOURSE and not know it. The answer is "highly doubtful". Part of the point of having intercourse is the powerful satisfaction that accompanies ejaculation.
But the real point is this: If he had penetration with her... even slightly, without any protection, she runs the risk of pregnancy. It doesn't matter if he came, or ejaculated, or not. When a man is sexually excited...excited enough to be errect and penetrate, there are sperm in his "pre-com" lube that dribbles out the end of the penis. Therefore, they are at risk.
This is one of the reasons why condom use is urged at all times!
If he isn't sure, or can't remember if he came, it doesn't make any difference. If he had penetrative sex with her, she is now at risk.
She should get a home pregnancy test right away. If she wants confirmation, she should go to her medical clinic and have a professional test. They can also advise her what to do, and how to avoid this in the future.
USE CONDOMS!
I disagree with condom use over the "pull out" method and here is why. I am solely speaking from my own past experience and what I am capable of, many men are probably much more clumsy or may not have this problem.
Ok, here it goes. Fact: In my life I have ejaculated inside a woman's vagina on several occasions because A. the condom snapped/broke and exposed my penis while not even knowing or B. the condom slipped off my penis without us knowing before ejaculation (not because I'm small either, I'm really not, I speculate that being uncircumcised may be a factor though).
Fact: Since those unfortunate mishaps caused by condoms that could very well have resulted in pregnancy, I have used the pull-out method on my ex-girlfriend of 6 years from beginning to the end of our relationship, she never used birth control or anything of the sort, and she never got pregnant. It was never an issue. Of course some men may not have the self control to pull out in time on a consistent basis. However, it's not hard once you get the hang of it.
Now, as far as pre-cum goes, in the big picture there is such a small amount of sperm present in pre-cum that the antibodies in a woman's vagina far outnumbers and overwhelms those poor little sperms. So, not scientifically speaking (although there should be scientific research on this because I bet my hypothesis would be correct), I would say pulling out, correctly and accurately that is, would rival if not exceed the percentages seen on birth control products in pregnancy prevention. Maybe it is more than just speculation because I had sex with my ex-girlfriend and several other women far more than 100 times by pulling out and have never gotten any of them pregnant. I'd say those are pretty good odds, given birth control is usually around 95-99% effective.
Ok, here it goes. Fact: In my life I have ejaculated inside a woman's vagina on several occasions because A. the condom snapped/broke and exposed my penis while not even knowing or B. the condom slipped off my penis without us knowing before ejaculation (not because I'm small either, I'm really not, I speculate that being uncircumcised may be a factor though).
Fact: Since those unfortunate mishaps caused by condoms that could very well have resulted in pregnancy, I have used the pull-out method on my ex-girlfriend of 6 years from beginning to the end of our relationship, she never used birth control or anything of the sort, and she never got pregnant. It was never an issue. Of course some men may not have the self control to pull out in time on a consistent basis. However, it's not hard once you get the hang of it.
Now, as far as pre-cum goes, in the big picture there is such a small amount of sperm present in pre-cum that the antibodies in a woman's vagina far outnumbers and overwhelms those poor little sperms. So, not scientifically speaking (although there should be scientific research on this because I bet my hypothesis would be correct), I would say pulling out, correctly and accurately that is, would rival if not exceed the percentages seen on birth control products in pregnancy prevention. Maybe it is more than just speculation because I had sex with my ex-girlfriend and several other women far more than 100 times by pulling out and have never gotten any of them pregnant. I'd say those are pretty good odds, given birth control is usually around 95-99% effective.
Interestingly - there is some recent research on this matter conducted by the Guttmacher Institute. When the 'pull out' method is used perfectly, it is found to prevent pregnancy 96% of the time. Perfect condom use, in comparison, is considered 98% effective.
But - this is assuming PERFECT use of the technique in EVERY sexual encounter - which was found in the study to happen very infrequently. The 'real life' effectiveness of the pull out method (taking into account the realistic number of times it is not used correctly) reduces to only 82% - meaning that using the pull out method pregnancy will result from 18 out of 100 encounters statistically. For comparison, the real life effectiveness of condoms in typical use is 83%.
Let's not forget the importance of condoms for disease protection too - which the pull out method provides no protection from. So - like I have said before many times on this site - the BEST birth control is use of a condom in addition to something else - pull out, spermacide gel etc.
Just thought I would add my 2 cents to the discussion!
But - this is assuming PERFECT use of the technique in EVERY sexual encounter - which was found in the study to happen very infrequently. The 'real life' effectiveness of the pull out method (taking into account the realistic number of times it is not used correctly) reduces to only 82% - meaning that using the pull out method pregnancy will result from 18 out of 100 encounters statistically. For comparison, the real life effectiveness of condoms in typical use is 83%.
Let's not forget the importance of condoms for disease protection too - which the pull out method provides no protection from. So - like I have said before many times on this site - the BEST birth control is use of a condom in addition to something else - pull out, spermacide gel etc.
Just thought I would add my 2 cents to the discussion!
Well, I agree on the use of condoms if disease is factored into this discussion. Looking at preventing pregnancy alone, however, I still maintain my stance that for SOME, not ALL, the 'pull out' method may produce better odds. I suppose it all comes down to this question. Which method does the couple, particularly the man because he is the one releasing the sperm, feel more in control over? In my case, my experiences show me that I don't have much control over whether a condom will do its job or not, unless I were to check and make sure everything is alright each time before ejaculation. At the same time I can see why many people would disagree with me. Just remember everyone is different and everyone has different capabilities, so what might be a good method for one may not be for another, so whether you agree or disagree, don't assume everyone belongs to one category because no event and no individual is exactly the same.
Continuing this thought in comparison with what you said on the PERFECT use of both techniques, I don't know for sure and I wouldn't be so quick to believe the answer given by one institution alone, but I think it is quite plausible that condom use may produce better percentages for pregnancy prevention than the 'pull out' method in a continuously perfect scenario. However, speaking about the perfect use of both techniques in every sexual encounter is like talking about radiating light on a blackbody. It is a completely hypothetical, unrealistic ideology used merely to simplify the discussion into something understandable.
I do agree that using both methods together is probably the best option, and hell, why not throw birth control in there as well. For me though, sex would start feeling so synthetic that I would almost rather masturbate. We need to invent some sort of on and off switch equipped with STD killing lasers having no interference with the beautiful art of sex. Then we could all be happy and this debate laid to rest as a non-issue.
Continuing this thought in comparison with what you said on the PERFECT use of both techniques, I don't know for sure and I wouldn't be so quick to believe the answer given by one institution alone, but I think it is quite plausible that condom use may produce better percentages for pregnancy prevention than the 'pull out' method in a continuously perfect scenario. However, speaking about the perfect use of both techniques in every sexual encounter is like talking about radiating light on a blackbody. It is a completely hypothetical, unrealistic ideology used merely to simplify the discussion into something understandable.
I do agree that using both methods together is probably the best option, and hell, why not throw birth control in there as well. For me though, sex would start feeling so synthetic that I would almost rather masturbate. We need to invent some sort of on and off switch equipped with STD killing lasers having no interference with the beautiful art of sex. Then we could all be happy and this debate laid to rest as a non-issue.
A male can ejaculate without having an organism. He'll know it if he ejaculated during an orgasm since it's much more forcefull and pleasurable. I'm sure it's possible not realize one ejaculates, even without an orgasm, if in the middle of intercourse.
Even without cumming, there can be fluid released that may contain a small amount of sperm. All it takes is just one...
I had a simmilar problem:
While having vaginal intercourse with my girlfriend my condom often starts unrolling faster (and eventually slips) because, as I see it, it gets too much fluid on the inside. So last night as I wanted to change the condom and put on a new one because I experienced the problem again, I checked what was inside it and I saw that the fluid was sort of a white color. Now I know that I produce precum, but shouldn't it be colorless? I use Durex Arouser condoms and find them well fitting and not too tight (but tight - after pulling of the condom I sort of see red marks on the bottom girth of the penis). While using Durex Extra Safe (which are wider in girth) it rolled off and slipped way to often. So I wouldn't say that its too tight leaving me not too feel anything. Saying that - I would also like to point out that before taking off the condom I didn't feel an orgasm or ejaculation, but I did pull out in order not to cum. And I didn't lose my erection.
What worries me is that could I have ejaculated some sperm without noticing it? Can precum at some point look white?
I wanna C U M all day-it feels grat! How could you miss that awsome feeling?:-P
Precum can appear white like sperm if it's agitated by friction. I'm guessing that the friction caused by the slipping of the condom against your skin probably agitated it to the point of making it appear whiter.
actually precum is an alkaline organic fluid produced by the prostate to neutralize the ph inside the urethra because the acidity of urine kills sperm. so unless the guy hasn't urinated since he last ejaculated there should be no sperm in precum. condom use is still advised though.
Maybe your sperms not good swimmers
If he put his penis in to her there is sperm involved and she can get pregnant pre cum has thousands oy sperm
Should not have had sex. ;)
Yes thats how my girlfriend got pregnant i didn't feel it according to scientists sometimes ejaculating can't be felt
Well anyone can ejaculate without having an "organism" dear... As having organisms while having sex is not only impossible but also improbable.