I am 17 and I have had sex about 10 times (3 partners total) or so in my life. But during sex I do not feel any pleasure when penetrated. I don't know why. And when he fingers me I can hardly feel him in there. (this applies to all of the men I've ever been with). One time he was poking at my cervix and it hurt some, but that's all I felt. When I get oral sex or masturbate I can feel that, but when it comes to pure intercourse... lets just say I've watched TV before and was completely zoned out of the sex one time, its that bad/boring. But he's not a bad lover, not one bit... just that I'm like completely dead in there.
I've tried to look it up but all I found was information about women with troubles of arousal, which, believe me, I don't have a problem with. I can get turned on and naturally lubricated very easily, so that's no worry for me.
What's going on and what do I do??
I've tried to look it up but all I found was information about women with troubles of arousal, which, believe me, I don't have a problem with. I can get turned on and naturally lubricated very easily, so that's no worry for me.
What's going on and what do I do??
The feeling and sensation in a woman's vagina is in the outer 1/3 and usually in the first inch or so.
You may not have many nerves deep in the vagina, so I'm not sure what you are expecting.
Most women achieve sexual satisfaction with stimulation of the clitoris...which can be by hand, by mouth, by finger, and during intercourse. But it takes some practice and gentle instruction to teach him how to move to make sure that you're getting the friction and motion that interests and arouses you.
You need to get a book or two to help guide you. "The GUide to Getting It ON' by Goofy Foot Press is good, and "Sex for One" by Betty Dotson is also helpful even with intercourse.
If you've let him slide this long, you've only yourself to blame. Work on the relationship and technique together tonight!
You may not have many nerves deep in the vagina, so I'm not sure what you are expecting.
Most women achieve sexual satisfaction with stimulation of the clitoris...which can be by hand, by mouth, by finger, and during intercourse. But it takes some practice and gentle instruction to teach him how to move to make sure that you're getting the friction and motion that interests and arouses you.
You need to get a book or two to help guide you. "The GUide to Getting It ON' by Goofy Foot Press is good, and "Sex for One" by Betty Dotson is also helpful even with intercourse.
If you've let him slide this long, you've only yourself to blame. Work on the relationship and technique together tonight!