Depression after hysterectomy

Hi. Depression after hysterectomy is perfectly normal. When you found out you can`t have babies any more it is normal you will feel lost and depressed. I had hysterectomy too (cancer of the uterus). I have no children and I never will. However, I feel lucky just to be alive. Don`t waste your time on feeling depressed, give some love and attention to your family. You have to think positive. You are really lucky you have a child. That is your comfort.

Hi I am also 34 had pre cancer and had to have a partial hysto. Iam so depressed still 2 years later. My marriage is a wreck because Iam so unsure how to feel. I feel lost and kinda like a part of me has died. My husband has a son with his x girlfriend that we hav had since he was 15 months but its just not the same. HElp will this go away?

Depression after a hysterectomy is not "perfectly normal" although it is not unusual. Saying depression is feeling bad because "you can't have babies anymore" is patronizing--like a pat on the head, there there now.

Depression is not just "feeling bad" and should be taken very seriously, especially if it's been 2 years. Seeing a professional of your choice is the best route, someone who takes this seriously and can advise you on the best route for you, based on your health and situation. Depression is also physical and should be treated like any other serious medical problem.

Odd how so many forget that depression can be fatal. Get some help, depression also affects reasoning so one can think they can handle it alone. That's likely not the case.

I am now 40-and had always thought I would be a mom..my common law husband has 3 kids all near adults now-I just had a hysterectomy. I feel a lot of sadness over something i will never have... society seems to focus a lot on pregnancy right now..and I feel physically sad for what I always wanted...
Be happy you have one child... you are blessed - you truly are.

Yes it is common for one to have depression after a major surgery. Nothing patronizing about this being "perfectly normal."

I am 24 and after having my 2nd child a year and a half ago, I hemorrhaged and ended up having to get a hysterectomy. I am very depressed, I feel like I am not the same person anymore. I have a hard time talking to people, so just seeing a doctor for me is very difficult. Any advice?

I am 24 and I had an emergency hysterectomy because of hemmorage 3 months ago. I do have kids already I have 4, but i am not the same anymore. I feel like im not really a woman, no uterus and no boobs after my four took their tole on them, im 90 lbs and now look like a 15yr old boy. Since the hysterectomy my fiance and I are no longer together, I had to drop out of school because of the surgery and now I owe the school $4000, I dont have any friends anymore, no matter what i say or do, no one is happy with it and now i feel like im not good enough for anyone. I wanted more kids, now i never can, the surgery ruined my life.

I am 26 and had to have a hysterectomy due to cancer 6 months ago. I have 3 beautiful biological children and 4 incredible stepkids, but can't help but feel an extreme loss. I feel like there is always going to be something missing in my life. After my 3rd biological child, my husband and I agreed we wanted no more and I got the Essure implants put in my falopian tubes, and was ok with that. two years later when I got cancer back for the 3rd time and this time also in my uterus, I agreed with the dr that the best option was to do a hysterectomy since I also had sever adenomyosis and my last 2 pregnancies were dangerous to me and I almost lost the baby both times. Up until the last couple of weeks, I was fine, but recently I am having extreme feelings off loss. I no longer feel like a woman. I cry as my daughters are starting to get into puberty. I bawled when my 13 year old step daughter first got her period and asked where the pads were. Every night I have these incredible dreams of my husband and I having another child, and then I wake up and burst into tears knowing it will never happen again. I know I should just be happy with all the incredible children I have. I have so much more than many women out there. My kids are incredible and the world to me. We have two autistic children and 2 that are deaf, but they are each incredible in there own ways. My plate is so full with our children now, i'm not even sure I could handle anymore, but not being able to have anymore is so incredibly hard to deal with. It just feels like someone has come in and ripped out a part of my that I gave them permission to take, but never realized how much a part of "me" is was. I see a therapist but I don't think anyone could ever understand the hurt unless if they've been there. I have started to avoid all my old girlfriends that can still have children. One of my best friends called the other day to tell me she was pregnant and I started to cry. She felt so bad for telling me and kept apologizing. I hate that I made her feel guilty for sharing such wonderful news with me, but know that I will never be able to go to the hospital to see her and the baby.

hi, im 20 years old and 7 weeks ago i hemorraged just minuits after giving birth to my first child. im am very upset aswell & feel like i can't talk to anybody as no one quite understands what im going through. im finding it extremly hard as my partner & i wanted 2 more children. Im trying to just concentrate on being a mummy to my little boy but as soon as im on my own my heart breaks. the hysterectomy saved my life and i am very grateful to the doctors but i can't help feeling the ' why me' syndrome. I just thank god I have my son.

I am 34 years old,and I have no children. I have endometriosos really bad.In Aug I had my right tube and ovary removed. The Dr.has scheduled a total hysterectomy in Oct. I have mixed emotions about this. I got pregnant once and lost the baby. I do not want to go through that again. I live in constant pain, and my only alternative is the hysterectomy. I have already become depressed about this.A huge part of me all ready resents him, I know that this is not his fault, but I want someone to hate.

I have 3 kids all grwn up now had a hysterectemy for heavy bleeding in 95 when i was 30yrs,ifn fact all the organs they took out were healthy!!
ive never got over it i re live it every morning as i wake up to a hollowness i cant explain apart from my mojos gone my coping mechanism and ive let it be ripped out of me and thrown in the incinerator. so sad my husband says im a tragedy,not sure what to make of that i live in my bedroom mostly, cant face anyone ive alienated my family over the years i just want too be alone away from people.
I used too be so strong before and so brave now i am neither.

I am 35.  I had a hysterectomy at the end of 2010. I feel so empty, I can't even type the specifics (Do they matter?).  

I just turned 36.  I had a hysterectomy almost 4 months ago and I'm still depressed.  I've been to a therapist, a therapy group, a meditation group, I exercise, I'm on medication and I still feel depressed, unsettled and angry about the loss of my reproductive organs.  I always thought I would be a parent one day, I really wanted it to happen.  I have no idea where to go from here.  It only comforts me when I see other people have been through the same thing.  When my friends and family complain about regular stuff I barely have any words of comfort..

I am 35 and I have 2 children but I had a partial hysterectomy when i was 27. It has been a long time but I still feel an emptyness and sadness because I wanted another child. I am divorced now and my ex husband is remarried and has another baby. I feel heartbroken because I cant have anymore. Idk if ill ever be right again. Everytime I think about it, I have this deep pain in my heart. The void will never be able to be filled. It crosses my mind everyday. Does it ever get better?