Hi, I am a very paranoic person, I have once seen gay porn once and it has disgusted me...however I couldn't get it out my head. The reason I saw it was because of some stupid pop up. I could not get it out of my head..and has long "lived" in my head....and with my paranoid I think sometimes men turn me on...now due to paranoi my anus feels "sensative" and I feel like I have to touch it or something, this is really freeaken me out as I think due to my paranoia I want to experiment with my anus. In all, I do not want to be gay...but have I turned gay? I have loved and dated women all my life..but now I don't know, when I touch my anus I sometimes get "semi hard" and it's freaken me out. Any advice?
Yes, here's a good bit of advice:
Relax. Dont' worry.
So you saw a video that wasn't your cup of tea. And, the image was so strong, you remember it clearly.
That doesn't change your orientation.
It does, however, and fuel to your private fantasy material that you can draw from... or not... as you see fit.
Just because you saw something "shocking" or "stimulating" does not mean that you have no control over yourself or your choices.
And, you've discovered that you have another eroginous zone. You've experimented a little, and noticed you can provoke a reaction.
That's good! o.O
The more you know about how your body reacts, the more informed you are, and the less likely you are to be freaked out if your body starts to react to an unexpected stimulus. Whether you CHOOSE to do anything about it...pursue it... ignor it... comment upon it... or brush it out of your mind... is entirely your affair.
Have you ever eaten a new vegetable, and discovered that you liked it? Did it make you a vegetarian? Probably not. :$
But now you know that you like the taste of that vegetable. And maybe, you'll like some similar vegetables... but not necessarily.
So now, when you see it on the menu, or if it's on a buffet, you MIGHT choose it, but you might not. It's not a big deal.
Now, if you're obsessing about your new interest, to the point that you can't function.... that's another matter. 8-|
But it sounds like you just got a little thrill and you're surprised to see the image and the impact that it had on you.
Just seeing a provocative image doesn't make you one of them. You don't become a Nazi just by looking at a photo of Hitler or of Nazis. But you might be interested in learning more about WWII or Nazi Germany without becoming one. Or maybe not. Depends on if you are busy or not....
I hope this has helped.
I know that our first sexual experiences can be startling at times, but I really don't think this is something to be very concerned about.
Good luck. :-)
Let us know what comes up in the future.
Relax. Dont' worry.
So you saw a video that wasn't your cup of tea. And, the image was so strong, you remember it clearly.
That doesn't change your orientation.
It does, however, and fuel to your private fantasy material that you can draw from... or not... as you see fit.
Just because you saw something "shocking" or "stimulating" does not mean that you have no control over yourself or your choices.
And, you've discovered that you have another eroginous zone. You've experimented a little, and noticed you can provoke a reaction.
That's good! o.O
The more you know about how your body reacts, the more informed you are, and the less likely you are to be freaked out if your body starts to react to an unexpected stimulus. Whether you CHOOSE to do anything about it...pursue it... ignor it... comment upon it... or brush it out of your mind... is entirely your affair.
Have you ever eaten a new vegetable, and discovered that you liked it? Did it make you a vegetarian? Probably not. :$
But now you know that you like the taste of that vegetable. And maybe, you'll like some similar vegetables... but not necessarily.
So now, when you see it on the menu, or if it's on a buffet, you MIGHT choose it, but you might not. It's not a big deal.
Now, if you're obsessing about your new interest, to the point that you can't function.... that's another matter. 8-|
But it sounds like you just got a little thrill and you're surprised to see the image and the impact that it had on you.
Just seeing a provocative image doesn't make you one of them. You don't become a Nazi just by looking at a photo of Hitler or of Nazis. But you might be interested in learning more about WWII or Nazi Germany without becoming one. Or maybe not. Depends on if you are busy or not....
I hope this has helped.
I know that our first sexual experiences can be startling at times, but I really don't think this is something to be very concerned about.
Good luck. :-)
Let us know what comes up in the future.
i'd think id prefer to ignore/brush it off...now how do I do that :tongue:?
I just saw a picture of a penis and got an erection....whenever I think of a man/me masturbating I get a erection and I have never gotten this before/if I saw a naked man i'd be digusting and quickly close it...I think my paranoia has made me gay....sigh.
Hi Enigma, Kirk gave you some awesome advice, now it's up to you how you choose to use it. If you can't get the male image out of your head and you are stimulated by it then maybe you should look deeper into yourself.
There is nothing wrong with having a different sexual preference, we are all human. Don't ignore what you are feeling
Choosing to brush it off is fine if you can keep it away. If those thoughts keep busting into your head maybe you should investigate them.
I'm not telling you to run out and get yourself into a gay relationship, but visit some sites that offer strictly "guy on guy" porn, then visit a "girl on girl" site, what are the differences that you feel, if any? This does not make you weird or odd, maybe it's taken this long for you to figure it all out.
If you want to take it a step further, visit a gay bar, pay attention to what your feeling. Are you "grossed out" by another man approaching you, or do you feel yourself getting curious? You don't have to go home with one of them, but just make a mental note of what your feeling even talking to a gay man.
When was your last sexual encounter with a women? Was it good for you or did you feel differently about it?
Sex is a beautiful thing and whether it be done with two men or two women, it's all good.
I had a gay friend a long time ago, he was adorable. I tried to swing that guy over to my corner but he was having none of it.
He passed away 5 years ago, and i still think of him often. I have a photo of him and I sitting on his deck drinking a beer, 3 months after that pic was taken, he was gone.
Life is way to short to fart around. Find yourself and figure out who you are. Gay or straight, either way, live your life to the fullest.
There is nothing wrong with having a different sexual preference, we are all human. Don't ignore what you are feeling
Choosing to brush it off is fine if you can keep it away. If those thoughts keep busting into your head maybe you should investigate them.
I'm not telling you to run out and get yourself into a gay relationship, but visit some sites that offer strictly "guy on guy" porn, then visit a "girl on girl" site, what are the differences that you feel, if any? This does not make you weird or odd, maybe it's taken this long for you to figure it all out.
If you want to take it a step further, visit a gay bar, pay attention to what your feeling. Are you "grossed out" by another man approaching you, or do you feel yourself getting curious? You don't have to go home with one of them, but just make a mental note of what your feeling even talking to a gay man.
When was your last sexual encounter with a women? Was it good for you or did you feel differently about it?
Sex is a beautiful thing and whether it be done with two men or two women, it's all good.
I had a gay friend a long time ago, he was adorable. I tried to swing that guy over to my corner but he was having none of it.
He passed away 5 years ago, and i still think of him often. I have a photo of him and I sitting on his deck drinking a beer, 3 months after that pic was taken, he was gone.
Life is way to short to fart around. Find yourself and figure out who you are. Gay or straight, either way, live your life to the fullest.
Enigma,
Just because you are aroused at the thought or sight of a naked man, or thoughts of yourself getting aroused, doesn't mean anything except that you are sexually excitable. The fact that you are so worried about it is probably more important here.
Again, let me suggest that you relax.
Just looking at something that excites you does not turn you one way or another.
I hear your concern that you don't want to be gay.
And you don't have to BE or ACT gay.
All I'm saying is accept that for right now, at this time, you find ANY sexual content, image or thought to be arousing. And that's alright.
At your age (as we say) "even a stiff wind will produce an erection." Although this is a bit of a funny line, it is true. You're at your most suggestable, but there is plenty of time to sort out what you want to be, how you want to act.
Don't panic.
Relax.
Just because you are aroused at the thought or sight of a naked man, or thoughts of yourself getting aroused, doesn't mean anything except that you are sexually excitable. The fact that you are so worried about it is probably more important here.
Again, let me suggest that you relax.
Just looking at something that excites you does not turn you one way or another.
I hear your concern that you don't want to be gay.
And you don't have to BE or ACT gay.
All I'm saying is accept that for right now, at this time, you find ANY sexual content, image or thought to be arousing. And that's alright.
At your age (as we say) "even a stiff wind will produce an erection." Although this is a bit of a funny line, it is true. You're at your most suggestable, but there is plenty of time to sort out what you want to be, how you want to act.
Don't panic.
Relax.
My age is 15, I was also masturbating today by rubbing my anus and my penis in the other hand. I do not know whats wrong with me. I DO NOT WANT TO BE GAY, it's something I don't want to be but due to my paranoia I believe I am turning gay and I becoming very depressed, I just want my life to be back to normal when I was straight and did not have to worry about this c**p every day of my life. I do not "act" gay, I am just getting this thoughts which torture me everyday, and eventually get enjoyment from them.
I did some research and found something on homosexual OCD, and that many teens have thought once in their life that their gay. However I think I am going to the extreme, I have had these thoughts in my head for about a year...i do not know how to "relax" or otherwise get rid of them, to tell u the truth anything that shocks me I cannot get out of my head or relax about till I get finally do relax or something tragic else happens. I don't know if this is somehow "linked" to puberty, one thing I forgot to mention in the first post was that it wasn't gay porn that turned me on, it was a guy having sex with a girl and once the guy came in I got REALLy turned on. THat is what all that started this. I thought that once I saw the guy I was gay, and have that stuck in my head which has progressed me to gay thoughts then get aroused by them and now starting to experiment with my anus. I have loved, dated and only gotten aroused by women in my life. Once again I read that people in their teen years experiment with different sexes but I have never heard of that..?what I really just want to do now, is prove that I am straight, get the gay thoughts of my head and get the feeling that I need to touch my anus. I think then everything will be normal.
Enigma65 wrote:
Sorry for the double post, I didn't see an edit button I just put "dont" between that and need.and get the feeling that I dont need to touch my anus. I think then everything will be normal.
Enigma, i did not realize that you were so young :$ For obvious reasons, ignore what i told you to do as far as gay bars.
Your just a kid and you will figure it all out soon enough. In the meantime, listen to Kirk.
Your just a kid and you will figure it all out soon enough. In the meantime, listen to Kirk.
Yesterday I was very tired I took a nap and I kind of feel a bit "normal" now...I hope everything keeps continuing on this normal path. Any advice is still appreciated. I will inform you guys of how I am going a long. I don't think I am gay, I think this is just some puberty c**p. sigh :/.
You'll be fine, relax. Teenagerdum is a b****h. You will get thru it and eventually you'll look back and laugh. It's hard making it to adulthood, but you'll get there in one piece, i promise. :-D
Thanks for the replies, I feel a bit better now. Just some "last minute" questions. I was sucking a on a lolipop and to test my orientation I pretended it was a penis and I got semi-hard, would this fit in the puberty thing or w/e or is this something to be concerned about? I also need some advice on how to relax and get it off my mind, and how can I ignore the anal thing. I was reading a article on masturbation techniques and it said any orientation can do anal masturbation but I'd prefer not to, and I think "experimenting" back there will want me to get something bigger in there if you know what I mean...and I'd rather not have that happen. So to sum everything up, is the sucking on a lolipop getting me semi-hard/hard a concern, how to relax and get this off my chest and say it's normal and how to ignore the "call" for anal masturbation?
are you still a virgin? if no, and you can answer these questions as yes, then you are definitely not gay:
do you like ladies? do you think dirty when you see a lady with big breats and bom? have you ever had any sex in the dream with a lady and you came? have you ever ever imagined holding an opposite sex from behind, on her succulent and flesshy tits? am 100% sure you are not gay, only that you dont have the guts to approach a lady and ask her out. this is the reason why you read all those mags that you read. you have a low self-esteem. this needs to be worked on. there are lots of single ladies out there, wanting to have sex. if you think your sex with a female partner is not interesting, not one or the first time, but severally, then just may be. but i definitely dont believe you are.
good luck to you
do you like ladies? do you think dirty when you see a lady with big breats and bom? have you ever had any sex in the dream with a lady and you came? have you ever ever imagined holding an opposite sex from behind, on her succulent and flesshy tits? am 100% sure you are not gay, only that you dont have the guts to approach a lady and ask her out. this is the reason why you read all those mags that you read. you have a low self-esteem. this needs to be worked on. there are lots of single ladies out there, wanting to have sex. if you think your sex with a female partner is not interesting, not one or the first time, but severally, then just may be. but i definitely dont believe you are.
good luck to you
Hey there. I was turned on by guys when I was younger, and as I got older, it went away. When you're a teen, it's hard to tell. But let me tell you this--if you turn out to be gay? It is not the worst thing in the world. I ahve a lot of gay friends. They're happy. They're normal. They live their lives. You will be okay whether you're gay or not. Does that help you gain perspective at all?