Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

There really needs to be a law enforced that no child should be able to access any of these pay to play games. These companies work very hard at deceiving very young children and teach them to rob their own parents. This is outrageous and unacceptable! If it weren't for iTunes offering to refund the unauthorized charges, I would be suing right now. A judge needs to see the evidence behind what has been going on here. Teaching my child how to kill, correct filthy sentences and be a mass-murderer while lying to them that it's FREE is grounds for a battle between me, them and a courtroom! Game of War is a disgusting piece of garbage they have the gall to try to steal thousands of dollars from you for, via your ignorant child!

I have the same problem no life with 2 kids and addicted husband I am so sick of it

Hello ladies,

I have been going through the same thing for years. My husband comes home from work, changes clothes and will play video games online via PS4 or Xbox or watch others play online until 2 am or so, then repeat this every day. He doesn't spend time with our family and is aggressive and even verbally abusive if we ask him to turn off the game to talk or spend time with us. Did counseling help?

Women play them too

I am so irrated and sad by my husbands gaming. He will work his forty hours most times more. That's why I feel so stupid to say anything. He is unhappy in his job so he cut back on hours which I thought would be great because then I would see him and not feel like a single parent. He spends every waking min on ps4 unless his family comes over then he is forced to sit with me and his children and act like a normal husband. I feel like I'm missing out on so much waiting for him to say hey let's go do something, or hey the kids are not around lets mess around. The other day he told me he had to finish his game and for me to " just go to sleep" because he realized what an ass he was being and then came around to " give it to me" I feel like I can't confide in anyone because I don't want to come off as petty or nagging about my husband but I don't know what to do

I have the exact same issues! My husband is addicted to GOW....all day.... all night. If he wakes up in the middle of the night he checks his game. We went out to dinner with some friends and he was on the game the entire time! Last weekend we went to a friends house to swim, and he sat at the table playing that stupid game! I have had the same thoughts....which I hate, but I am at such a low right now. I feel fat, ugly and worthless. When we do talk it is arguing because I ask him to get off the game. He used to love to hunt, but last fall I noticed he did really care to go. Turkey season in the spring is a favorite of his and he didn't go once! I am ready to file for divorce. Any suggestions to deter them from the game?

Reading through these, let me share something, it's not just husbands, my wife is there as well. For the past 8 or 9 months, she has been addicted to the game. She plays all the time. She is out of town visiting her mom and she is going to the library to play since she can't get online at home. Her mom I doubt knows what she's doing. It has put a huge strain on our marriage to the point where we are in counseling. The counselor has confided in me that he believes she is suffering from a fairly deep depression, where the fantasy world of COC has become more of her reality than her family. We have 3 kids and I'm deeply concerned how this is going to turn out.

I've been married for 22 years. I've known my husband for 23. He's always been a man of integrity and trustworthiness. He's been playing Game of War for over a month and his personality has totally change. I've known him for over two decades as a wonderful man. After only a couple of months of Game of War, he's a total ass hole. I don't know if I can stand him if he continues like this. This game is the worst thing that has ever happened to us.

Are you still together? Same boat 3 years.. he googled how to delete a private conversation on game of war.. I see he spends money on the game and lies to my face. Havent had sex in 2 months.

My 20 year marriage ended last month because of the video game, Hayday, which is on Facebook. My husbands been addicted to every video game made for the last 7 years. He's ignored his two daughters, now ages 19 and 18 for the last 7 years! He used to be a wonderful man until he started playing the games, then he turned into this jackass that never wanted to be bothered or interrupted during his games. I had to shovel snow off driveway in Dec of 2014 because he was playing his game. I broke my back! I couldn't move, walk, sit, or sleep for 5 months! During this time my husband started playing Hayday. He would come home from work around 8 pm and play game until 2 am. On Hayday, you chat with people from all over the world and he developed close relationships with 3 women. Instant messaging them or posting on their FB pages how beautiful they were, inviting them to go Jeeping and camping with him. He im'd these chicks ALL day long! It would start at 4 am and end around 2 am the next day! They exchanged photos to each other, and he did this while I was laying on the couch in excruciating pain with my back, and I even begged him one night to get one of our guns and to please kill me because I couldn't live with the pain any longer. He got pissed at me in this conversation, and he told me that people were waiting for him to log onto the game and he didnt gave time to talk to me! I looked at his phone one night and found months worth of instant messages to these women and the messages had now developed into sexual inuendoes! I decided to get back surgery in June of 2015. I confronted my husband about naughty instant messages I found on his phone and he said he fell out of love with me 3 years ago and he can't stand me anymore and he was going to serve me divorce papers when I was in hospital recovering from back surgery. The selfish pick moved out the next day. One kid is in college and the other one moved out months ago, because she got sick of being ignored by her father. I am now 4 weeks post op from my back surgery. I'm sitting in our 3 bedroom home all alone that we used to be a family in. I am getting it ready to sell and divorce papers are being filed. These video games took over my husbands mind and soul and ruined our family and our marriage. I hope you all experiencing this will get help right away, because this addiction will never get better, it will only get worse.

Dear anounyMISS102364, I can relate strongly to your story because so much is similar to mine. Thank you for posting. I am 53 and my husband is 51. We've been married for 21 years. I like what your wrote, "while he plays his life away" because that is exactly what my husband is doing. He plays every minute possible and neglects the kids, the house, the dogs, and me. He has met a female gamer too. He moved out of our bedroom and into the basement last March, saying he does not love me and wants a divorce. He wants "peace" in his life. In other words, he does not want to be bothered by his wife, kids, and dogs so he can play. He thinks I nag him too much. I'm the one with the problem, according to him. He has "fallen in love" with his gamer girl and thinks she is "perfect" for him. He's been in love with her for many months before he moved downstairs, but during a fight, he admitted he has NEVER MET her in person. I was shocked at first because I assumed she was real. About a month later he said he met her in person. As far as I know, he has not seen her in person ever since, preferring to have his "relationship" completely online. She is married with children too. She plays the same game as him, and often they play together. I am jealous of the attention he gives her, but that is where it ends. My husband is living in his fantasy game world.He lives in the basement now and plays almost nonstop. At first I would go downstairs to check on him (is he still alive?) and would find him playing in the dark. That was different. Up until two weeks ago I would try and talk with him but we would only fight. Two weeks ago we fought so badly that I called 911 after he twisted my arm up my back and threw me to the floor. Ever since, I have nothing to do with him. It hurts so bad to lose him. I miss the old days when he did show attention and he did have energy for the house and kids (although he was never an attentive father. he only acts like a parent when there is a problem with me and the kids. otherwise he is clocked out). I have stayed with him mainly because I was living on hope that he would stop and come back to me. I am also a graduate student and I am desperate to graduate so I tolerate a huge amount of neglect. He is my sole source of income while I am in school. I have been lonely for the past 4 to 5 years since that is when the addiction got worse. He no longer wanted to spend time with me (unless he had that damned game in his hands). When a mammogram came back as abnormal, I came home to tell him. I literally had to say PUT THE GAME DOWN I MIGHT HAVE CANCER. He would not even give me the time to talk about the doctor visit without that stupid game. He thinks he can listen and play game just fine. Except when I stop talking. Seconds pass, and pass. He notices the quiet and says, "WHAT?" Like he is angry at me! I am the bad guy because I disrupt his constant gaming. He has been downstairs for 4 months now and there is no stopping him. I am staying here just to get my degree. Hope I can last that long in this dysfunctional household.

I could have written your post myself same game same problems same feelings

My husband is a marine he's been deployed 2 times to Afghanistan. He is now for the past two years been a military cop. We just got married 6months ago. I moved from ohio to north carolina to live with him. Not to mention I left my whole family. I have a 4 year old(who is not my husbands) so I also took her away from her family and father. We drive to ohio every two months in order for her to spend time with her father. However my husband is addicted to playing leauge of lengends. I do not work due to his work schedule so I'm home all day. I'm alone. When he gets home from work he has three hours of free time before bed. He plays his game until he walks into the bedroom. He lays down then gets on his phone to watch online videos of other people playing the game. On his off days he plays allday...literally from 11am to 4 or 5 am. As I sit here to myself. I have came to him multiple times and told him it hurts my feelings on how much he games. I told him I'm married and living with you but I still feel alone. He promised it would change. That was the first time I said something to him. I have now told him 5 different times about how it's really getting on my nerves and on that 5th time I told him I also mentioned divorce he once again promised it would change. I said to him if it doesn't change I'm divorcing you and going back to ohio. And I am not bringing your game up to you anymore. It's been two months since I said that and it has not changed. Not one bit. It's like a slap in the face to how I feel. I believe he feels because I haven't brought it up to him in almost two months that I'm just going to accept it and deal with it. But I told him already I'm not going to bring it up to you again. Not because I don't care anymore but because if I don't see a change I'm moving and divorcing you. He clearly shows he rather play his game. So I'm telling him I want a divorce next week. It's pathetic that you have to divorce over a online game.

You both are lame.. if he is so involved in games an not spending time with u then try being more active with him. Try talking about things he likes, try going out an do things he enjoys, try playing games with him. Many things u can do instead of "divorce". Grass is not always greener on the other side. You could end up with a guy who hits u, cheats on you ext.. video games dont seem that bad compared to those. Try actually keeping your vows an work on your relationship an stop thinking of yourself.

I am addicted to clash of clans. I know it. I don't like it. Reading these posts confirms the trouble I am in. I have wanted to stop. I have my excuses for why I keep playing. I wonder what to do about my addiction. I feel alone. Today, I took a couple of days off work to try and change my routine. I didn't tell my wife. I ended up at the library playing the stupid game. Maybe writing this will be the beginning of my recovery. I don't know if it will. To the game widows out there. I don't know what advice I can give. I feel I have to say something because I am an addict causing the problems others are describing. The addiction is multi-faceted. It is just hard enough to be a challenge, but just easy enough to be easier than real life. I feel like I am accomplishing something even while I know I am only building a stupid game village that does nothing. Also it is the teamwork aspect. "The clan is relying on me". If there wasn't a team involved I may have quit.

Why don't I take care of my real life? My wife? My household (I don't have kids).
Here are my excuses. I felt like I failed and couldn't make things work. I tell myself and fell sometimes that my wife was never happy with me. I couldn't be good enough. We started doing less together. One night I thought. I am just going to pass some time. I started playing some games, or watching tv, or passing time. Then tried Clash of clans. The addiction level is mind numbing. I am building something again. And now, I have a clan of people that respect what I am doing. Damn what a waste of my life. I justify some of what I do saying "well I don't spend money on the game". In reality the time it has taken away from me has cost me thousands.

Sometimes I think. Okay, I am just going to play for 20 minutes to support my team. But noooo. That turns into a 4 hour binge.

What will help me? I know that my wife trying to tell me to stop won't. I have stopped trusting her with my feelings. I guess that's why I turned to the game. There were times that I thought about counseling. But she convinced me that wouldn't work. Maybe she was being sarcastic when she said things, but I am convinced anyways.

I am a semi-closet player because I know what a waste it is to my life. I can't help but think that the others addicted actually know they need help, but they just don't want to admit, and especially to family. What a twisted mess this puts me in.

What will help me? I ask myself again. I don't know. In part I have to decide I want to change. I also need help. Could my wife help? I have my complaints but I realize this is about me. I guess she could, by accepting that I am not perfect and caring enough to hear my feelings without putting me down for them. I just know I can't tell her about how I feel about this game taking my life. She would turn it into all the things I have done wrong for the past 20 years. No. It's been 6 months, and no, I haven't done this or that for 8 years. (I never cheated if that's what you are thinking). I don't want to shame any spouses that are widowed by an addict that are more caring than mine. I guess mostly I am writing to try and break my pattern somehow. Knowing these thoughts are out there. That some virtual world has read them. Maybe.... Wow, this is circular. I am reaching out on a computer, for a computer addiction. Dang.