Divorce because of husband's computer games addiction

Ladies, I am trying to seek for help. Me and my wife got married on April 2017. Yes, just recently. Two months ago she asked me to buy her a PC, because I have a laptop but she doesn't like them so she wanted a desktop. Hell, why not!? So I did. But now I am so mad at myself for bringing this curse up on us! She is playing this, (lostworldz). In these 2 months we have been so distant. Every time I come home from work she is sitting there voice chatting with her gaming friends. Yes she calls them friends. Laughs with them like we used to, sadly - used to. I can count times on my fingers when we have went to bed together. When I say something about this problem she gets mad at me and puts the blame on me and even tells her gaming friends that I'm a d*ick! She turns it all around making me look like a psycho. I also game, but I game when she is not home because I remember before she had a PC she used to hate when I played even for an hour, so I stopped and didn't even turn on my laptop on our day off. But she's on there at work, home after work, and when she has an off day she plays all day without even noticing me. I tried to talk to her but she just says that our relationship is fine and I got nothing to worry about so I better stop overreacting. But what do I do if I feel lonely and forgotten? I just want to go back to the days where she would wait for us both to have an off-day from work so we could spend time together. Recently she started telling me to take extra shifts if I don't like her playing her game. She is 28 and I'm 25. I'm all out of ideas people!

Same boat. My husband comes home, takes a shower and then sits and plays Diablo 3, ESO or whatever is installed on his PC. I am left to do everything else and spend time with our 5yo. He has neglected his studies, his responsibilities as a husband and father. Myself and his parents have talked to him many times about this, but he gets angry and retreats to the pc. He doesn't want to see a counselor because he feels there is no problem. I am so tired. I play games as well, but know it's limited. I feel so taken for granted. As long as I do everything he has his comfy life. He is getting worse as time goes by. I feel that a divorce is becoming my only option to solve our problem.

OMG. You mentally live in the 1920s-1960s where women were subservient. I pity you.

Amen!!!!! Thank YOU!

Hi,

I'm just wondering if anyone has found anything that has moved their relationship in a direction that means their relationship is more balanced?

This has been an off and on situation in our house hold for a long time but overthe past five years it has escalated since he's been playing online, and the only reason I say off and on is because I have a sh*t tonne of patience, but once I snap all hell breaks loose.

We went for our first realtionship counselling this evening, after 4 weeks of "critical" talks; where he told me of it were our relationship or the PlayStation I wouldn't win, which he brought up with the counsellor saying "obviously if an ultimatum was given, I'd pick my family." He was playing destiny until god knows what hour this morning, so consequently, came in bathed the baby and passed out on the sofa, so we haven't had the opportunity to talk about the counsellor experience. I feel he painted an unfair picture in the session, using phrases such as "she's trying to stop me from forfilling my human needs" "I was so relieved when she agreed to work on our relationship and not leave" and "I'm not allowed to do the things I enjoy." I can't work out if it's that he can't SEE the impact of his gaming intensity on our family life, relationship, his work and my sanity; or that he sees it, knows it's a problem and is lying and portraying himself as the victim in the situation.

Right now, I honestly feel as though I've gone certifiably insane. If playing his game, at the detriment to our family is the only thing that brings him enjoyment in his life, I don't feel that either of us are in a relationship that is making us as happy as we possibly could be.

Any suggestions would be most gratefully received! Thank you x

Should I bake him a cake too?

Excuses. A husband is suppose to become one with his wife. If she isnt priority in his life and he priority in her life, then the marriage is dead. God did not create us to work work work work and neglect our loved ones. If you wanna play videogames all day or even work around the clock, then dont get married. It is human nature for a woman to desire her husband. It doesnt make you weak minded, dependent, low seld-esteem, or any of those things. It make you human. It means you married your husband to share your life with him and not just live in the same home.

Going through the same thing . I see your post is from a year ago , any changes or updates ?

Game makers win the true game. Which is for gamers to willingly give hours days years of their lives for not paid work but small achievements that make them momentarily feel good. Just long enough till the next game. Gaming addiction makes people very boring.

I played Game of War for a year and a half. I am a married woman with two kids but I quickly got swept up into the world of game husbands and game wives. I never stopped playing that game even at 3am. I found myself attracting and becoming attached to men online... most of whole were not singleand they knew I was married and I guess the fact it’s online makes it seem safe. I’m sure my hubby thought about divorce at some point too...one guy I played with had a girl friend but he preferred my company to hers. It’s a high, the attention you can get from random strangers that’s instant. Then they have LINE an app that the game of war players have that helps them connect more and send nudes. Most people send nude pictures of themselves... Anyhow coming from a woman who I guess would be considered the “other woman” I can say it’s dangerous in this online world. It’s way more serious than you could ever imagine. I personally have seen online couples meet up to cheat, others leavetheir spouses for their game lover... The danger is there.. My advice to all woman is if you can’t beat the other woman.. jump in and join the world so that maybe you can connect or fight for your man on a level playing field. No amount of rl fighting, begging and pleading will fix it... You need to go to the source of the addiction.

Yes these games are spoiling relationship...I am going through same problem ..My husband addicted of cok game

My partner has now disappeared 4 times to meet someone from game of war she talks to on the line app she has now booked train tickets for a 5th 600mile round trip and I can't stop her we have an 8 and 11 year old who are being neglected due to the time spent on the game I've told her not to return this time to which she replied can the kids come to visit. 14 years together and I love her to pieces I am absolutely heartbroken

I am new to this situation. I married a man a year ago who had not played video games in two years when we married. I thought the gaming was out of his system. He is 43. Then I started "losing" him to his friend's house to play, so I thought if I brought the game to our home, he could play some and still be involved with our family. I was wrong. I have brought death to our relationship. Where we once had mutual interest and camaraderie and intimacy, we now have fighting, dissension, and hours of him playing his game. I have expressed my concerns and he tells me I am being selfish. I hope someone has some ideas on how to salvage our marriage.

I am new to this situation. I married a man a year ago who had not played video games in two years when we married. I thought the gaming was out of his system. He is 43. Then I started "losing" him to his friend's house to play, so I thought if I brought the game to our home, he could play some and still be involved with our family. I was wrong. I have brought death to our relationship. Where we once had mutual interest and camaraderie and intimacy, we now have fighting, dissension, and hours of him playing his game. I have expressed my concerns and he tells me I am being selfish. I hope someone has some ideas on how to salvage our marriage.

Why is it imperative for women to care about this. Time to walk away, find a life that is better and let them sit in their jammies all day talking to who knows. If you bring it up to them they get all attitude to you, and accuse you of yelling when all you are doing is asking mature questions. Says he only talks to men but I have seen women Avatar as well as a quiet voice and closed door, and there is no reason as there are only the two of us in the house. What I would like to know is, if hes only talking to "buddys" on bm8 why are they on just as much, even though they apparently have jobs and families? I do no think you should need to plan meal time and outings to a f*****g video game.....time to go.