About two years ago I was pregnant and at 26 weeks my son was born via emergency C-section. Due to him being 14 weeks and complications, I had to make the decision to take off life support. He lived to be 4 days old. After the death of my son, me and my current fiancée want to start a family but I am petrified that the same thing will happen. I am not sure if I can bare another death....especially another child. How can I overcome this fear of mine? It is getting to the point where I have sleepless nights and look over and over at my son's pictures
Dear Honey: I am SO SORRY for your loss!!! There is NOTHING worse than that. What you are going through is TOTALLY normal, and my heart goes out too you. The thing is this, EVERY pregnancy and EVERY baby is different honey. Did they ever tell you why your baby had too be delievered so early? Also do you have a pre existing condition - such as Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, EDS or anything like that? IF it was just "One of those things" and a mystery too the doctors, you need to breathe easier about it. OF course you are feeling nervous - who wouldn't be? IF you do have a pre existing condition, then you just need too get that help 1st and then be monitored througout your pregnancy. The more information yourself and your doctors have the better the outcome right?
I have had several friends that have had losses of miscarriage etc. But that doesn't mean that the next pregnancy will be be that way too? And this is the same for you honey! Get checked out by your doctor, have a physical, find out as much information as you can handle about your little angel. Then you and your fiance can make the decision together with all the facts, and EVERYONE being on the same wave length. This will help you be more relaxed. ALSO just thought of something, going too a support group for grieving parents, would be a good thing for you. Because sometimes, with our stressful and hectic lives, we don't have time too grieve. You get 3 days off and then WHAM back too work and continuing on as though nothing happened.
I wish you health, happiness and a wonderful future. And I send you out warmth, hugs and compassion. You WILL be OK honey!!! If you ever need too talk I'm here too. God Bless!
I have had several friends that have had losses of miscarriage etc. But that doesn't mean that the next pregnancy will be be that way too? And this is the same for you honey! Get checked out by your doctor, have a physical, find out as much information as you can handle about your little angel. Then you and your fiance can make the decision together with all the facts, and EVERYONE being on the same wave length. This will help you be more relaxed. ALSO just thought of something, going too a support group for grieving parents, would be a good thing for you. Because sometimes, with our stressful and hectic lives, we don't have time too grieve. You get 3 days off and then WHAM back too work and continuing on as though nothing happened.
I wish you health, happiness and a wonderful future. And I send you out warmth, hugs and compassion. You WILL be OK honey!!! If you ever need too talk I'm here too. God Bless!