First Time and I didn't have an erection

He he! The reason that all of you didn't have erection is because you are very young and naive... Never think about erection, if it's there ok if it isn't, it simply won't come that day. Erection is a matter of libido and libido is a chaotic thing, can't be switched on and off. Go play some basketball and the next day see what happens again. Everyone but believe me everyone had failures in life, experience will show the chaotic right way of sex life. MOST important:

libido is a chaotic thing, can't be switched on and off. Go play some basketball and the next day see what happens again

Libido feeds from your efforts in life. A healthy decent man with a full life soon becomes a sexual machine.

Live your life, fill your libido and see what happens, just see don't try to switch something on - it won't. Libido is a chaotic thing that's why we love sex - we really can't understand it, it seems to be out of logic, a wonder.

me and my girlfriend were at our house last night and first we were kissing, and hugging, she was on top of me and i held my hands on her ass, i pressed her body to me all the time and i was rock hard all that time, but when we decided to try sex, my penis went down to 2/3 from full erection. i said i could finger her, i did that for a while and then i wanted to put it in but i just wasn't hard and i couldn't get it in right....i am so embarassed right now....

I am with all of you in the same boat. Today, i was with my girlfriend and i was going to have sex with her. Throughout the course of the day she had done things, small unoticable things, that would give me a hard on like it was nothing. And when the point in the day came, we had decided to have sex. I fingered her, and everything was going well for me being a first timer. But, seeing her naked, and everything, i couldnt get a boner. At first i thought that it would resolve as soon as i came close to getting it in, and yes i was nervous. But i finallyy got to the point to where i got one, and i thought, oh my god i am going to get laid. But, the moment i got it near her, it was like "what are you trying to do to me bro" and it went down. Not only was i feeling every emotion at once, but i felt so ashamed and embarrased. I literaly wanted to die. I am hoping that the "relaxing thing" works. Because i do not want to go through that again.

Same thing happened to me just yesterday. I had an erection, but it was gone by the time I put the condom. But from what I see here this is a common issue and it will fade away with time and confidence

thank god i found this site. i just tried with a girl and after i couldnt get a hardy, i felt like c**p. she understands but is mad and i dont know if she wants to try again. the worst part is i have a humongous hickie on my neck from trying to get hard and now i look like a complete fool -___-

Happened to me just now an hour ago (not my gf just someone i know from going out), this is not my first time but it still happened.. (was it the alcohol, idk, i dont think I was nervous.. Now shes sleeping in my bed and I will have to waker her be4 7am (so nobody in the house finds out haha). I have a friend who has a gf for like 3 years, and heuses viagra sometimes and said he could get for me if I ever needed (just from the store), but my question, does viagra help if it ever happens again

I'm so glad I just searched this. I thought I had some disease or phobia. Same story as all of you, had a girl in a car, went all over her body then when my turn came, my bro wasn't in the game. She finally got it hard after some oral, but it went immediately soft right after.

Same thing with me, we were on the couch kissing on the lips, necks etc then she reached into my pants I was fully hard. We moved it to the bed kissing and grinding we both took off our clothes and when I grabbed the condom to put it on I lost my boner. When I did get it on I was erect but not fully. Now when I try to masturbate I can't even get it up. -_-

Same for me

thanks dude, helpful information. but you didn't described much in detail how it worked, how it turned in to success at last, what should be the status of your mind, what thinking, how it feels etc. explain it in detail.

Holy sh*t this Makes me feel so much better! I'm not the only one!

I had the same problem so embarasing.. wasted 3 condoms.. she doesnt know i am a virgin, she is not.. At first she told me that she might be the problem that i didnt have a boner but i said no its not you and stuff.. finally she said that maybe the condoms were not big enough so that worked for me:P i will get to see her at christmass though so I need to have sex with her.. Was thinking of buying viagra but f**k this sh*t man i am 19 I cant believe I need viagra. Any suggestions please before its too late.. If that happens again I will jump out the window:P

Same thing happened to me last week, yesterday I finally got laid...

I got some Viagra but ended up not using it... Ill give you some tips what worked for me, since I was in the same situation, she didn't know as well that I was a virgin. I have to say that it was WAAY easier for me to get a boner while I was laying on my back, I guess because when guys masturbate they're used to be on their back (or at least me...)
Also she started giving me a hand job what made me rock hard and after that I was able to put it. Once you get there you shouldn't have problems anymore...
I might wanna buy Viagra, but I know what you mean, I didn't want to use it either. One more final tip: When you masturbate, try to think about the girl you want to bang, it will make it more comfortable for you when you actually get the chance...

Good luck!

PS: its f*****g awesome!! ;)

Thanks man I think that will help!! One week left..

yeaa i screwed her;) it was cool