When I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks my boyfriend broke up with me and was very mean and nasty towards me calling me all types of names and even questioning paternity trying to bully me into having an abortion. He told me that he prays I have a miscarriage, that he hopes I don’t make it and that the baby does, and more all because I did not want to have an abortion. I had been with him for 4 years, I’m 21 and he’s 22. I am now 9 weeks pregnant and he is still very foul towards me. He shows no interest in me or the baby and does not ask how I am feeling or how I’m doing. He has already missed the first appointment, and goes weeks without contacting me while ignoring my calls and texts in the meantime. Then there are some days where he wants to be “nice” and he briefly talks about the baby, but those are very few. I am fully prepared to raise this child by myself but I am just so heartbroken that this person I loved so much, and who I thought loved me, could completely turn on me and become so coldhearted. I know that no one can know for sure, but will he ever come around?
Hi Guest,
Only time will tell if he ever "comes around." Maybe once the baby is born he will.
Right now he may be scared or confused. He may even feel that by being a dad his life is over, no more partying anymore, etc. It can/does happen.
I'd suggest you back off for now. Let him know when your appointments are and that he's welcome to attend.
Hang in there. You're going to be a great mom!